5 year old girl with highlights...

[Aidensmom]

You all are scaring me, I thought I had many years to go before my 4 year old would be worried about hair color or clothing brands! Please tell me boys don't worry about this stuff as much as girls. I think I might cry the day he requests a shirt of a certain brand instead of a shirt with a certain character.

 

[Nancy]

Nothing wrong with a girls day where the get manicures/pedicures etc.

I personally would not let my girls get any haircoloring done before they were 13. Just my rules, but I don't speak for other Mom's, your kids, your rules! (I am an ex hairdresser, owned my own salon at one time) Now my oldest (almost 18) changes her color on a regular basis. My youngest who turns 13 tomorrow used to ask for highlights, I told her when she turned 13 we would do very light highlights...I'm waiting for her to hit me up tomorrow.

 

[aprilgail2]

My 6 year old got the conair pro color highlights thing for Christmas and her favoite thing is to put red streaks in her hair...I find it amusing because she always said people with red hair look weird but then she puts red streaks in her hair LOL. She only uses it Fri-Sun though, no going to school with it in.

 

[golfgal]

You all are scaring me, I thought I had many years to go before my 4 year old would be worried about hair color or clothing brands! Please tell me boys don't worry about this stuff as much as girls. I think I might cry the day he requests a shirt of a certain brand instead of a shirt with a certain character.

I wouldn't be too worried about it if it isn't something that is stressed at home or if their peer group isn't into it yet. Most kids that are overly fashion conscious are so because their parents are worried about how they look, dress, etc.

My kids are in 8th and 5th grade and have never asked for a brand of clothing or to have their hair dyed (my 8th grader is a boy tough so that might be some of it).

 

[Marseeya]

I just made an appointment to get my 10 yo DD's hair highlighted. It'll be a big treat for her! I'll probably post before and after pictures. Right now she has Roseanne Roseanna Danna hair. It's really long, but it's so curly that it's HUGE. We're going to get most of it cut off, and I promised her I'd help her straighten and smooth it once in a while. If it makes her feel good, then why not? Besides, the kid already wears a bra... now THAT'S what I feel she's too young for!

But at 5? No, I definitely wouldn't have done it then. I'd never intended on doing it when she was 10 either, but she really needs something done with her hair that'll make her feel good.

 

[dis ms.]

I wouldn't call you a bad mom for highlighting a 5 year old's hair anymore than I would call someone a bad mom for having a child who wore "plus" size clothes.

Okay, I just about spit out my iced tea! Good one, chobie.

 

[va32h]

My daughter is almost ten, and she's had her hair colored since she was about six. Somebody call the police!

As a toddler her hair was very blonde, and when she turned about 5 the new hair started growing in a much darker brown. Her hair grows very slowly, so for quite a while she had a weird two-tone thing going on. Then summer came, and she spent a lot of time in the pool and in the sun, and the blonde parts acquired a greenish tinge.

She was very unhappy with it, and while I suppose the noble thing to do would have been to just tell her she shouldn't feel miserable about her appearance, I decided to tell her that we could do something about it, if she wanted.

So we went to the salon. She was much happier afterward, and I really didn't think it was a big deal. She really doesn't need to keep going - her hair looks fine now, but I go every month (I've been going gray since I was a teenager) and she comes with me to get her "touch up" too, and we have fun.

I guess every parent has a comfort zone - I don't let her listen to top 40 music, or watch MTV, and am conservative about her clothing and the shows she watches on TV. She doesn't go online at all, or play video games. But haircoloring didn't even register on my meter. Perhaps because I come from a long line of prematurely graying females - every woman in my family colors her hair!

 

[georgina]

I can beat that, at a Bridal Fair two weeks ago. My daughter was told by a hairdresser that they can add hair extensions to babies so they look special for the wedding.

Like they are not beautiful enough!!! What are we coming to when we need to do something like that to a baby!!!!!

My personal opinion is what are we coming to when we need to do that to ourselves? I just spent a weekend at Girl scout camp with a mom who seemed to be constantly commenting on all the girls' hair. Kids learn by looking at their parents - if the mom thinks these things are important, the kids will pick it up. My girls will be disadvantaged - I don't do hair, wear makeup, paint my nails - they won't learn any of those things from me.

 

[DisneyDotty]

As far as keeping up with the Jones', I am of the thought that you only have to "keep up" if YOU want to keep up. No one makes you. You give in to the "peer pressure" just like kids do. I think you should show your DD how to stand up to some of that pressure. Kids are exposed to stuff like this way too some these days (Oh, and i use the word "you" as a general "you"--not the OP)

Well said! But--I let my DD11 get her hair colored (highlights and lowlights). None of her friends were getting their hair done, so I wouldn't say she's trying to be like everyone else. Actually, she was trying to be a little different, and I see hair coloring as a fun, safe and temporary change. The color has since grown out, and she has expressed no interest in getting it done again.
I don't know that I would have had her do this when she was five, though, as I don't see her sitting still long enough.

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

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[Living with the Land]

My DD does have her hair colored. We also use extensions for pageants, modeling and talent shows. A lot is how you approach it. My DD is a typical kid most days she just knows that sometimes she gets her hair and make-up done and does "work". Then on monday she is back to being a little girl.

Holly

 

[georgina]

My DD does have her hair colored. We also use extensions for pageants, modeling and talent shows. A lot is how you approach it. My DD is a typical kid most days she just knows that sometimes she gets her hair and make-up done and does "work". Then on monday she is back to being a little girl.

Holly

I'm curious about how old she is?

 

[Living with the Land]

DD is 6.

Holly

 

[Marseeya]

Okay, I just about spit out my iced tea! Good one, chobie.

I don't get it.

 

[ReAnSt]

I used to know a girl who was 2 almost three, she had natural brown hair and very light skin. Her whole family had very blond hair and light skin. I'm not sure if Mom got one to many comments about where the dark hair came from or what but she was bleaching her hair blond before she was three.

She was dark haired and the next time I saw her she had bleached blond hair. I couldn't believe it. I can't imagine this girl liked having her hair bleached. I often wondered if Mom would have done this if her son had dark hair and everyone else had blond hair. Who knows but I thought that was wrong the girl had no choice in the matter.

Becky

 

[mommaU4]

Okay, I'll throw my two cents in.

I don't think it's that big of a deal. I wouldn't do it with my kids because for one, I doubt they'd sit still that long, and two, I'd be afraid it would damage their hair. But having said that, if everyone else wanted to do it for their kids then that's their choice and no skin off my nose.

If you do decide to do it then maybe you should ask yourself why first. If the answer is to try something fun and new and see how it turns out, then that's a good answer.
If the answer is to keep up with the other kids/families then that's never a good reason to do anything.

 

[tiggersmom2]

I wouldn't call you a bad mom for highlighting a 5 year old's hair anymore than I would call someone a bad mom for having a child who wore "plus" size clothes.

 

[Jeafl]

I work at an elementary school and we have 2 kindergarten girls who have hair that has been dyed very blonde. They both had it done right before school pictures in the fall, and have pretty much kept it up.

Sadly, it is starting to look horrible! Their hair is so damaged it looks like the texture of cotton candy, and their little pony tails have gotten so thin at the bottom. You can see their hair is starting to fall out from the chemicals.

I have to wonder who wanted it, the girls or the parents.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

A friend of mine had her 5yo son's hair highlighted. Going for that surfer sun-glitzed look.

I don't get it. Take him surfing and let the sun do it.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

As a toddler her hair was very blonde, and when she turned about 5 the new hair started growing in a much darker brown. Her hair grows very slowly, so for quite a while she had a weird two-tone thing going on. Then summer came, and she spent a lot of time in the pool and in the sun, and the blonde parts acquired a greenish tinge.

She was very unhappy with it, and while I suppose the noble thing to do would have been to just tell her she shouldn't feel miserable about her appearance, I decided to tell her that we could do something about it, if she wanted.

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You were fixing a problem with her hair color. Not changing it in the name of vanity. Big difference. I say--good job, mom!