Hi Mary.
I understand what you're saying- I really do. But I'll have to disagree with you on the micro-managing thing. Perhaps setting our hopes up for just a
few things is the problem (vs. wanting to do a lot of things therefore a few unable to do wouldn't be as disappointing- there would still be other things we'd wanted to do that we can do), but micromanaging is not.
For instance we looked at excursions (who doesn't?) and only found a few that interested us. So yes, the fact that we might not do the 2 things we really wanted to do is disappointing. But this is not like we wanted to do 500 things and a couple we can't do so we're disapppointed. Big difference there. So my husband wanted to scuba dive- it's the only thing he really really wanted to do. If he doesn't get to do it- that's disappointing to him. (ps. he could spend exactly $300 and go to cozumel to dive with his dive group here locally when they go in groups- to spend this much and not even be able to scuba dive... anywhere? would be disappointing to him)
The only thing the kids really really wanted to do is the dolphins- so not being able to do that is disappointing. Perhaps those things wouldn't be so disappointing if it was just 2 things out of a BUNCH of things we wanted to do, but that is not the case for us.
If we'd gotten on the ship and weather caused us not able to port here or there or anywhere- well ofcourse I wouldn't be disappointed now because I wouldn't know now. There is a difference because these are things we're finding out in advance, and weather can't be controlled by anyone. It is my opinion that Disney COULD port at Cozumel since others are- they just aren't wanting to go the extra mile or do whatever it takes to do so. And since shoretrips is now saying dolphins open in May-- then it doesn't make sense why
DCL excursions can't do that either (even if they port at Cozumel they aren't doing the dolphin excursions but shoretrips is!).
Just bad luck to get late character breakfast on first day at CC... might not be a biggie to others, but it is to my kids especially the youngest. So we'll have to do it- even though it's a mere 2hrs before lunch on CC. LOL Maybe we will just eat earlier with room service and go to breakfast and not eat but see the characters. We'll work around that however we can.
I think perhaps it's difficult for those that cruise often or atleast have plans to cruise again even if this is their first cruise to understand what someone where this is probably the ONLY time they'll cruise is coming from. If things fall apart one by one - no scuba diving, no dolphin, perhaps no cozumel, perhaps changing at sea days so any spa/etc. plans are null because they are scheduled on the day that we're now at some other port, etc. -- it is disappointing. And it really has not a thing to do with other's suffering in the world and that disappointment shouldn't be poopoo'd with oh others have it so much worse. If that was the case no one should ever be disappointed with ANYTHING, since someone in the world has it worse than themselves. I think it's okay for people to be disappointed at times... it's human nature and it's okay. LOL
Maybe if we were rich/etc. we'd be cruising way more often and then ofcourse this cruise would be no biggie no matter what we did on the cruise.. just like we go to WDW often so things not working out on one trip would be no biggie to us. We'd know we're going again -so akuna matata (if that's spelled right LOL) Unfortunately that is not the case with us on this cruise.. and to spend so much (3 x the amount we spent for our 12 day trip to WDW)... can't help but be disappointed.
Our very first DCL cruise was a 3 day of which the highlight was going to be going to
Castaway Cay. Well guess what - a hurricane came through a few weeks before and our visit to CC was a one hour stop anchored off a very brown island to drop supplies. Sure we were disappointed but we had so much fun on the rest of the cruise that it really didn't matter.
With this example you gave- try to imagine if you knew this would be your one and only cruise (DCL or otherwise). Now try to imagine that CC was the only thing you wanted to do (not just the highlight of your trip- literally the only thing you were really looking forward to and not sure you'd enjoy anything else at the time). Now try to imagine it wasn't a hurricane during your cruise, bad weather during your cruise, or even a hurricane shortly before your cruise that caused you to miss CC. Instead imagine it was a hurricane long before your cruise, you found out before the cruise that you weren't going there (long before- time enough to be disappointed about it) AND that other cruiselines were going there (yes, I realize this doesn't apply to CC- but we're imagining here LOL) but DCL wasn't. Would it really not matter? You wouldn't be the slightest bit disappointed if all the circumstances above fit you? If not, you're very different than us... unfortunately for us. LOL
All I can say is that we'll be disappointed if we can't do the few things we wanted to do (except if it was caused by bad weather while on the cruise) we probably will never cruise again.I know I won't be able to talk DH into it if he doesn't get the scuba dive... no way... not for this price. We could take several "relaxing" vacations pretty much anywhere for this amount of money. We weren't asking for the moon. We weren't managing every moment with a ton of things and then getting disappointed when we couldn't do a few. (oh let's also add the change of the kids club/lab not open for the kids to go there on the first night- and the next day is CC -and no we did not intend on leaving them with the club/lab on the beach of CC nor would we want to do so for their FIRST time with these people watching them.. we'd prefer they had some time in the club/lab before even thinking about doing that on the beach of CC... so their first time in the club/lab and us having some time alone on the ship- will be on Sunday night at the earliest...) We only wanted to do a FEW things and darn our bad luck it looks like we won't be able to do those few things.
I *wish* it wasn't like that. I *wish* we wanted to do a ton of things and therefore a few nixed wouldn't be a big deal to us. I also wish we were rich and could cruise many times- if I knew that to be a fact, it wouldn't be as disappointing.

Such is life.... LOL
Anywho.... I'll get over it. I'm sorry for venting my disappointment a little, I thought it would be okay here and that maybe some would understand that disappointment. If not, I'm sorry for posting and just thinking aloud for a moment.