5/27/06 "Il pochi il fiero i blabbermouths" We *will* sail again Part 5

[justmestace]

Mother had bad news last night. One close friend is now in the final stages of her life having opted not to go with chemo or advanced treatments. She is receiving wonderful care from Hospice. It is hard, but this was her choice and she is welcoming it. However, Mother is taking it too hard, perhaps because of the holidays. I think it would be the most wonderful Christmas gift if the friend were to receive her wish during the Christmas season and find peace.

Then her best friend husband has a serious condition and the best friend is convinced the doctors are lying because they do not want to tell him he is dying at Christmas. (Virgil, I do not think that is the case, I think that the condition is serious, but the tests for other issues are, as stated, negative). It is so hard for her because she has outlived her side of the family and most of my Daddy's side....I cannot seem to cheer her up.

If you wish to help me with a problem that has been troubling me - read on white letters coming up.

Then, do I or do I not tell the cousin that insists on writing to me that it was unfair of my mother to do (whatever) and so she is returning all of my mother's presents to me...but she misses my mother, to knock it off and act like an adult and stop being so selfish. Don't know - don't care what happened, who said what to whom etc., but what ever happened to forgive and forget.

OK - thanks for listening. Advice is welcome.

My Mom & Dad have gotten to the point in their lives where the first part of the newspaper they read is the Obits. Several of their friends have died, and I think what is the most depressing to them is the realization that they could be next, and they aren't young anymore. Not only is it sad for them, but scary too. No one wants to die, and they all want to live forever to see their grandchildren grow up and get married, etc....but all I can usually do is tell them that they are healthy, remind them that they've had a full life, and (lie) and tell them that they will live forever...and then change the subject.
Now...here's my white answer:
Don't let your Mother know that the cousin is sending the packages back. It will just cause more hurt for her at a time that should be happy. And then, yes...I would write to the cousin, but without placing blame or being angry, plead for them to be decent at least at Christmastime. Remind said cousin that there are friends/relatives of Mother's who are ill and dying, remind cousin that Mother won't be around forever, etc etc....

 

[chip&dale&fun]

Thanks for your responses and good wishes ... guess I can vent at you guys and then edit the letter to the cousin. Thanks......smile now back on my face.........

 

[justmestace]

I posted my response to Irene before finishing my reading. Now poor Irene has conflicting "advice". LOL


I ran into (almost quite literally) our UPS guy yesterday, here on our road by the house. He delivers to the guy up the road, but I have all of my packages delivered to the shop. Anyway, as we were each trying to find a spot on our (one lane) road to back up on, he hollered "Hey...I have two boxes for you! Want to save me a stop, and take them now?" So he handed them to me through the car window!
When I picked up Jared and he saw all the boxes in the car I said "Merry Christmas to ME!" LOL

The dog will be getting a gift, too...it's tradition...but not wrapped.
I think Mowana is very clever, and deserves another surprise on Christmas!

 

[chip&dale&fun]

Irene has great advice....Irene appreciates all the advice and it is really not all that conflicting. Irene appreciates being able to work though this with friends who, unlike best friends in "real life" do not know one party or the other.....Irene is happy, Irene is smiling, Irene is wondering why she is referring to herself in the third person

 

[Dancind]

Yes, cats are hard to surprise. If we sit a bag down when we get home, the cat always gets in it. He thinks bags are toys.

Kevin made it to Ft. Lauderdale last night, though it took all day. His flight had a stop in Tampa before Jacksonville, where he had a two hour layover. I think he was glad to get there.

Alicia and I finished shopping last night for her friends and dance team, and a couple of things for Dad. I was trying to put together a nice stash for the dance team coach (bobbypins, hairspray, gel, ponytail ties), and was irked that blonde ponytail ties are not to be found. I've tried Target, Wal-Mart, Walgreens, beauty supply stores. I can find tons of cards with black or brown ties, but I guess the store buyers think there are no blondes in Albuquerque? Half the team is blonde. This is blonde discrimination, I say!

 

[Dancind]

I got two packages yesterday, and they were both for me, from me. I can't tell you how unusual that is! It was fun, though. One came from FedEx and one from USPS, UPS came the day before. At least it's mixing up.

 

[justmestace]

I wouldn't have thought to look for blonde ponies! Maybe you could just bleach the black ones? Hey, that's not a bad idea even if it did start out as a joke.

I wonder if www.cheerzone.com has blonde ones? But then, they wouldn't come in time for gift-giving.

Jordan needed a "Secret Santa" gift for cheer, they drew names. I was at Hallmark and they had the cutest little lamps, they look like purses. The girls' limit was $20 and the lamp was $20. I bought the purple one....and prayed that Jordan would like it enough for her friend. She did!! Yea! Score one for Mom!!

 

[ohiominnie]

I think Mowana is very clever, and deserves another surprise on Christmas!

Well, I did go out and buy him about 3 or 4 more of those mice since he attacked the thing and had such fun with it (kitty high)

And then I found worms in the litter box and took him to the vet and got $35 worth of de-worming medicine which I promptly told him was the rest of his Christmas present!

 

[justmestace]

Well, I did go out and buy him about 3 or 4 more of those mice since he attacked the thing and had such fun with it (kitty high)

And then I found worms in the litter box and took him to the vet and got $35 worth of de-worming medicine which I promptly told him was the rest of his Christmas present!

Now he's probably thinking that you wouldn't do that to one of the kids, if they were sick before Christmas!

 

[justmestace]

Well, I'm outta here. Have some errands to run before I get Megan and head to the airport. Hold down the fort.

BYE!!

 

[mickeymo]

We had nasty storms yesterday so, went through computer withdrawal because the internet was out and then this a.m. it was moving soooo sllloooowww...

One quick e-mail then off to work - the hospital Christmas buffet is also today -great timing - teach class then grab lunch - prime rib as big as a plate, sides, and tons of great desserts! yum! The administrators serve, and the nuns are also there handing out Christmas gifts - so, it is a fun festive atmosphere.

Irene, prayers for you, your mom and her friends - Christmas holidays can be a tough time for a lot of people. It's also tough being a care giver and also stuck in the middle of family emotions.

Santa wraps presents here - although he must save his special wrapping paper for houses who don't have extra because he always uses ours. Santa doesn't put gifts together either - it saves him a whole bunch of time to get to those other not-so-handy households...

Didn't know there was such a thing as blonde ponytail ties - Maggie has all sorts of different color elastics but I've never seen blonde.

TTFN!

 

[ohiominnie]

Now he's probably thinking that you wouldn't do that to one of the kids, if they were sick before Christmas!

Hmmm....good point. He's still making out though. He's getting a bunch of mice from me. Plus what the kids got him. Plus Nick is getting a toy for the cat that he has wanted but we've not let him buy (a mouse on a fishing pole thingy) So Mowana will benefit from Nick's gift too.

Plus Grandma Lightbulb sent him a bag of cat food!!!!!!!

 

[Dancind]

Nick will benefit from that gift too, play time with Mowana. The flying toys have always been a favorite around here.

I once found a card with several shades of blonde and light brown PT bands. Snapped it right up. They have all been lost since. It's much easier, and looks better to have bands in the hair that blend, especially when they're making a lot of quick changes into different color costumes.

 

[CajunGirl2]

Wow! It's been sort of slow today, this afternoon anyway.

Who else will be watching The Apprentice tonight? I hope I can stay awake until 11:00 PM. I'm usually out by 10:00.

Ang

 

[kikipug]

Wow! It's been sort of slow today, this afternoon anyway.

Yep, spent 9 hours in a meeting- drove 80 miles each way to get there... listened to 9 local radio stations tell is why we should spend an outrageous amount of $ with them in '06 and make us all kinds of promises that, along with $2.63 will get you a Dunkins coffee. At least Panera for lunch was good...

Did somebody say caramel in donuts!!!!! I want one!!!

 

[RachelTori]

Wow! It's been sort of slow today, this afternoon anyway.

Who else will be watching The Apprentice tonight? I hope I can stay awake until 11:00 PM. I'm usually out by 10:00.

Ang

Thanks for the reminder - I completely forgot!! So who are you hoping will win?

 

[dobelover]

I was rooting for Randal but he seemed to fall apart last week. wonder what happened?

 

[dobelover]

I got two packages yesterday, and they were both for me, from me. I can't tell you how unusual that is! It was fun, though. One came from FedEx and one from USPS, UPS came the day before. At least it's mixing up.

What? Or did I miss a post? Or am I dense?


Sue

 

[mickeymo]

No apprentice watching here - we're all spiffed up and off to see Cats tonight. If the battery holds out in the camera, we might even get a picture or two taken. Both "boys" are in ties. Mom is persona non gratia because we bought the tickets not realizing this was the choir concert night - He brought the notice home after the tickets were bought (turns out if he brought it home when it was given to him, he would have made his concert - he just shoved it in the back of his desk)- so, Mike is doubling the 'tude over the tie and missing his concert. But, there is an assembly concert for school tomorrow, both John and I are going to hear them sing - they've worked so hard...

I'm excited - I've never seen Cats live- just the PBS subscription special- the original "Old Deuteronomy" is reprising his role as well as the final Broadway "Grizabella"

 

[RachelTori]

Don't worry, Sue - I think you just missed a post! That's pretty easy to do - I do it all the time!

The post was about the UPS man and his daily deliveries!