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[Summer2018]

Among my friends and family, we were all careful not to step on anyone’s toes and use the same names.

I remember when I was trying unsuccessfully to conceive. One of my girl names was Katie, short for Katherine. My best friend loved that name too. She got pregnant first and named her daughter Emily. I was still going through fertility treatments when she got pregnant again. She really wanted Katherine. I didn’t know when or if I would ever have a child, let alone a girl, so I gave her my blessing.

Two years later I was pregnant with a girl. I did not name her Katherine. I still love the name Katie, but I love her actual name more, Molly.

That year it seemed like every girl was named Molly, but at least it wasn’t her cousin or my best friend’s daughter.

 

[Missy1961]

OP, some tips...

#1... changing a thread title to '.' makes everyone WANT to look at it.
#2... deleting the OP doesn't help when someone (in this case, multiple someones) has quoted you.

ETA: should that be 'has' or 'have'? I think 'has' because singular someone but grammar is not my strong suit.

I know that I got curious when I saw that.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

This is why I never told anyone the twins’ names beforehand

 

[Floridaman999]

 

[Chuck S]

It is strange for first cousins to have the same first name.

But it does happen. My Grandfather (in California) and his brother (in Missouri) had daughters at about the same time...and unknowingly both of the girls were given the same first and middle names. So the first cousins had identical first, middle and last names until they were married.

 

[Lilacs4Me]

Respectfully, this was out of line. This telling makes it sound like you intimidated them, intentionally or not.

Haha, they were a big boy and girl, they could take it. DH's family doesn't do well with snowflakes.

 

[mnrose]

I’m a teacher and we’ve had a couple unrelated kids with the same first and last names. Right now we have a class with two Alyssa Millers in it. One year we had two Jayden Embrys.

One of my daughter's friends from high school had the same exact first and middle name as her, AND they were born on the exact same day. Very weird coincidence if you ask me. As my daughter is a twin, we used to joke that maybe the other girl could marry my son, and then all three of them would share a birthday, and the two females would have the same exact name and date of birth. That would surely lead to some confusion, huh? As it turns out, there was no chemistry between the other girl with the same name and my son. LOL

 

[GreatLakes]

It is strange for first cousins to have the same first name.

Not in Italian families where it is traditional to have the first male born named after the mother's father.

A friend of mine has 3 uncle's and 6 first cousins all with the same first name. Going up just two generations on one side of my family tree has every single male with one of three first names.

I don't bat an eye at there being first cousins that share a name.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

?!!

 

[Kitty 34]

Hey lot of people in my family share the "name" Uncle.....Uncle Rob, Uncle Will, Uncle Richard, Uncle Tom, Uncle Brad etc, etc.

 

[Hrhpd]

Marie is one of the most generic middle names there is. It seems everyone and their sister have either the middle name of Marie, Ann or Lynn.

In fact, my mother's name is Maria (yup, catholic) and I refused to give our daughter that name as a middle name just because it was so common. Her middle name is my mother's middle name which is a bit more unique.

My guess would be that a good many of your daughter's classmates have the middle name of Marie if you were ever to see their middle names.

You are way, way overreacting.

Oh, and I opened this thread just because it was titled "." and I wanted to see if anyone had followed the rule. Thankfully yes

 

[leebee]

Thankfully, we have "The Rule!!"

 

[Disneylover99]

My opinion, for what it's worth....

It would never occur to me to question or be bothered by a duplicate middle name within the family.

 

[ronandannette]

...Oddly, I do a lot of ancestry research. In the old days, if a child happened to pass away, they often reused the name for a new child. Bizarre? Now days, yes. Not so much then.

I know of a divorced couple who tragically lost their 8 y.o. son. The father was remarried and the new wife was pregnant at the time. Yep, they gave the baby the same first name as the deceased child. It's four years later now and the mother has just recently had another child. Yep, she used the deceased child's first name as the new baby's middle name. Weirdest thing I've ever heard but far be it from me to criticize bereaved parents for practically anything.

I would like to know yes. If i never ever know, that’s fine too. I don’t think that’s out of the ordinary.

Why don't you just ask them? There is a chance they don't even know your DD is named Something Marie. Lots of us on this thread aren't really sure what our niece/nephew's middle names are, especially when they are the children of our spouse's siblings. I actually tried for a few minutes to recall the middle names of DH's one niece and three nephews - nope, I couldn't come up with a single one.

I could KIND OF see the argument if it was a super unique or uncommon name. However, you could throw a rock and hit 17 people with middle name Marie.

Please don't encourage that - Marie is my middle name and that sounds like it would smart!!

Haha, they were a big boy and girl, they could take it. DH's family doesn't do well with snowflakes.

Just super-curious now about what would have happened if they had gone ahead and named their boy what they originally wanted. Would you have reacted badly?

 

[Praying Colonel]

Not in Italian families where it is traditional to have the first male born named after the mother's father.

A friend of mine has 3 uncle's and 6 first cousins all with the same first name. Going up just two generations on one side of my family tree has every single male with one of three first names.

I don't bat an eye at there being first cousins that share a name.

 

[Jennasis]

You are overreacting. But you know that.

On the matter of stealing names...when I was a kid, there was a girl who had the same name as I did, though she spelled it SLIGHTLY differently (one letter). I didn't know her well. In high school I discovered she had the same MIDDLE name as I did too...and was born on my birthday...in the same hospital. Essentially Ann Marie vs. Anne Marie.

Crazy eh? I taunted my dad (who came up with my name) that he stole it from another baby, but turns out she was born later in the evening after me LOL.

 

[Katie Dawn]

I know of a divorced couple who tragically lost their 8 y.o. son. The father was remarried and the new wife was pregnant at the time. Yep, they gave the baby the same first name as the deceased child. It's four years later now and the mother has just recently had another child. Yep, she used the deceased child's first name as the new baby's middle name. Weirdest thing I've ever heard but far be it from me to criticize bereaved parents for practically anything.

I have a dear cousin who lost one of his sweet girls when she was 6 years old. He's gotten really into genealogy and we were discussing the fact that our great grandfather had a child, the child died, the wife died, he got re-married and the first child the new couple had (my grandmother) was given the same name as the baby he lost. My cousin told me that he knows it must seem odd to people who have never been through it but he identified very strongly with the desire to do that. I think so often folks are judgemental if how people deal with loss... Thank you for your gentle attitude towards your loved ones.

 

[aprilgail]

I know of a divorced couple who tragically lost their 8 y.o. son. The father was remarried and the new wife was pregnant at the time. Yep, they gave the baby the same first name as the deceased child. It's four years later now and the mother has just recently had another child. Yep, she used the deceased child's first name as the new baby's middle name. Weirdest thing I've ever heard but far be it from me to criticize bereaved parents for practically anything.
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I could see using the deceased child’s name as a middle name of a new child but never ever could I use it as the first.
My friends parents divorced when he was young and the father went on to have another family-well with his first wife he named the son John (odd last name) Jr. Then divorced and remarried. Had a son and named that one John (odd last name) Jr too. Years later they are both at the same place taking a civil service test and they call out John (odd last name) Jr and both of them stand up. They had never met and sine the father had cut all contact with first family they never even knew there was a second kid from second family with same name.

 

[ncc1701]

I am sure in my family many cousins have the same middle names. My Mom had 2 1st cousins with the first name of Robert. It was their mutual Grandfather's first name ( & my Mom's dad name too) . If my grandparents had a boy he might have been Robert too ( same if Sis & I had a brother)
FWIW the girls might do what my Sis & I did after getting married. We each took our spouses' last names & changed our middle name to our maiden name.

 

[wenrob]

Why don't you just ask them? There is a chance they don't even know your DD is named Something Marie. Lots of us on this thread aren't really sure what our niece/nephew's middle names are, especially when they are the children of our spouse's siblings. I actually tried for a few minutes to recall the middle names of DH's one niece and three nephews - nope, I couldn't come up with a single one.

I started thinking about my nieces and nephews and realized I knew maybe half of their middle names and that’s mostly because they’re named after other people. I only know my DH’s oldest nephew’s middle name because of the naming traditions in their family (and is why my DS has the middle name he does.) The rest I couldn’t tell ya.