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[DisneyJules]

At least around here Marie is an incredibly common middle name. If it had been a first name, I would have thought it were a tad weird, but definitely not as a second name. Why is this even a thing? I would move on and let it go.

 

[Wendy31]

I could understand wanting cousins to have different first names.

However, what if you couldn't give your child the same middle name as any of the cousins on either side of the family?

Imagine how hard naming a child could be in a family w/ a lot of cousins!

My sister's middle name is Marie. My middle name is a version of Ann. My husband's 2 older brothers married women w/ both the same first name (spelled one letter differently) AND the same middle name - the ubiquitous "Lynn".

I have an nephew w/ the same middle name as our older's son's first name.

And, as an aside, I can tell you the middle names of all my nieces & nephews, but I can't remember the middle name of everyone of my cousins.

 

[DisneyJules]

l

Lol!!!

 

[lovesmurfs]

For something somewhat different, I'm having loads of "fun" with Ancestry.com and my grandfather's family. Apparently, Charles and Elmer were used several times in each generation, so it's really challenging figuring out which person my relations are. And there was a finally a girl born. Name? Charlesanna. Sigh.

OP, I understand why you might be irked, but I think given some time and space, it won't be a big deal.

 

[littlejimmy]

I think we should ask an expert on this subject. George Foreman anyone??

 

[wvjules]

Or Larry and his brothers.

 

[kaytieeldr]

My son’s middle name is Alexander. My sister also used the middle name Alexander for a subsequent kid.

A total non-issue. It’s not like we walk around calling our kids their full names all the time anyway.

Well, except when they misbehave . Complete name means you're serious, and they're in big trouble

No. She’s just born my kid is almost 9. And she never once said that she had that name picked for her kids. Whatever this is kind of what I expectedly on here

You. Do. Not. Own. a. Name.

She does not need to provide any explanation why she chose a particular name. To anyone. Ever..

Given that you kind of expectedly certain responses, being snarky to anyone who responds, or telling posters their responses are pointless, is out of line.

 

[robinb]

Middle name. Not first.

You're stressing out over a middle name?

My husband's brother used their grandmother's name for his DD's middle name and we used a variation of the same name for our DD's first name a couple years later. I hope they're not somewhere talking about what I thief I was. We liked the name and wanted to honor the same grandmother.

 

[K and K's Mommy]

My DD was 5 when a cousin was named the same as she is. My DD thought it was great. She thought the baby was named after her, but in reality the baby was named after the mom's aunt who she was very close to. We used to call the younger one Baby K, but now that she is 13, we do not. My DD uses a nickname with ie at the end. The younger cousin does not, so everyone can distinguish them. We even live on the same street!

 

[kaytieeldr]

I’m.not being clear This is my husbands brother. His kid is not named after my mom. My kid is. I don’t know where they got that middle name from. The consensus is I’m overreacting which I’m fine with. I was just asking.

Your brother-in-law has his own family history, complete with names, and reasons for using those names.
His wife has her own family history, complete with names, and reasons for using those names.
It does not matter where the 'got' a name.

The other thing that occurs to me that if she's the wife of your husband's brother she might not even KNOW your DD's middle name. LOL. I'm trying to remember my brother-in-laws kids middle names and I'm stumped off the top of my head. LOL.

Yeah, my dad and his brother's son shared the same first and last names. I only know they had different middle names because I recently searched for my cousin. Never any confusion. People use first names more - much more - than middle names.

 

[Skellingtonj]

Well, except when they misbehave . Complete name means you're serious, and they're in big trouble

You. Do. Not. Own. a. Name.

She does not need to provide any explanation why she chose a particular name. To anyone. Ever..

Given that you kind of expectedly certain responses, being snarky to anyone who responds, or telling posters their responses are pointless, is out of line.

Wow. Calm down. You are the one out of line. It’s not that serious I don’t know why you feel the need to be so rude.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

No big deal IMO. Especially with it being middle names but even if it was first names it would have bothered me.

On a side note...all I can think of is the scene in My Big Fat Greek Wedding where he is getting introduced to all her family (paraphrased) “My brother and his kids Anita, Diane and Nick, my other brother and his kids Anita, Diane and Nick. Nick, Nick, Nick, Nicki and Nick.”

 

[kaytieeldr]

My nephew is Xxxx Matthew. My youngest son’s first name is Matthew. Never even thought about it in 22 years until now!

You should probably have a serious discussion now with your sibling and spouse. Who knows, there could be years of seething resentment ?

My daughter has a very uncommon but not unheard-of name. I was out once and heard a woman call her daughter by that name. i said, "Oh, her name is _____?" The woman proudly responded "We like unusual names in our family. I know she'll never meet another ________."

I decided not to tell her that that was my daughter's name as well.

My cousin has a really unusual name. Fewer than 600 people have been given the name in the U.S. since 1877. I finally met another person with that name about two years ago.

you should have said something .

 

[smiths02]

My own two sons have the same middle name.

 

[kaytieeldr]

I looked right at her and said "Well, hopefully one of us will have a girl then!"

When DS13 was born 2 months later, we named him exactly what we wanted in the first place: "John James Smith" and let SIL and her DH figure out what they wanted to name their baby when they had him. It ended up to be a boy, too, and they named him something else altogether and we never heard another word about it.

Respectfully, this was out of line. This telling makes it sound like you intimidated them, intentionally or not.

 

[Magical2017]

In answer to OP, no, she is not in the wrong imo, but if it bothers you a great deal perhaps have a conversation and see what the response is.

 

[Hikergirl]

In answer to OP, no, she is not in the wrong imo, but if it bothers you a great deal perhaps have a conversation and see what the response is.

I'm not sure if you mean this the way it sounds but do you think the mom owes OP some sort of response or explanation of why she chose to give her child the middle name she did?

 

[mousefan73]

My daughter’s boyfriend and I share a middle name! Spelled differently, of course (mine is the “feminized” version).

People tend to not get very creative with middle names. I think people just go with what sounds good with the first name a lot of times.

From my experience, middle names are usually reserved for honoring family members, or the Godparents name... I think half of my dad's side have Paul somewhere in their names as the great grandfather, grandpa was a Paul.

 

[Skellingtonj]

I think we should ask an expert on this subject. George Foreman anyone??

I know you’re being funny but those are all his children. You see the difference? I don’t have 5 kids named Jane and then my sister names her kid Jane.

 

[Skellingtonj]

I'm not sure if you mean this the way it sounds but do you think the mom owes OP some sort of response or explanation of why she chose to give her child the middle name she did?

I would like to know yes. If i never ever know, that’s fine too. I don’t think that’s out of the ordinary.