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[keerymom]

Oh my goodness...

 

[My sister's princess]

So today was a wedding, the couple has planned this wedding for about a year and a half and they have spent about 27,000.00 on it.

The bride was once in love with another guy and the guy ended up having to move to another country because of his parents job and it took the girl ( bride) a very long time to ever get over him and move on. Through the 4 and a half years that they have been apart they have not spoken mainly because of the long distances between them, but has she thought of him, oh yeah.
Well needless to say she has moved on in her life as did the other guy. Today she has fallin in love with her now groom and the relationship has turned to marriage.

The other boyfriend shows up at her house 9 days ago ( sounds like a movie, right) never knowing that she was about to get married and he's excited because his dad now works back in the states and he/she is old enough to be together with their parents blessings. When he finds out that she is about to get married, he tells her that "he has alway loved and thought about her, can't imagined a life without her in it and will never forget her". Lots of crying and He then left.

She was torn up, and has continued to be since the talk. The relationship with the groom has suffered for the last week ( he thinks it just due to stress of the wedding). She has now only gone through with the wedding because of the money and all the prep for the wedding. She is now married and even while getting dressed in her wedding gown she was cry for the other guy. He texted her to say " He loved her one last time" and once again she lost it.

My question is would you have went through with the wedding if you were all of a sudden having seconds thoughts and really wanted to be with someone else, or would the money spent and the invitations that have gone out keep you going forward in it? Beleive it or not this is a true story, life is stranger than fiction, is it not?

hhmmmm Nicholas Sparks could make millions with this plot!

Sounds like a hard way to start a marriage though. Poor everyone involved. That isn't fair to any of them. How old are these people?

 

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[My sister's princess]

Now you know with all this drama that they have to be young...they are both 22 yrs.

This is why people gave me poo about getting married young
Most, but not all, people around that age shouldn't be getting married.

One thing that really stood out to me was the whole texting the last words of love. I'm sorry but if you are not mature enough to go talk to someone about something like that, don't send them a text on their wedding day! He seems like the biggest issue here, he should have left well enough alone!


I feel so bad for the groom. I can't even imagine how he is going to react when he finds out what has happened, and I am sure he will find out at some point.

 

[AlleyKat]

The bride was once in love with another guy and the guy ended up having to move to another country because of his parents job and it took the girl ( bride) a very long time to ever get over him and move on. Through the 4 and a half years that they have been apart they have not spoken mainly because of the long distances between them, but has she thought of him, oh yeah.

In the course of four years, this couple couldn't communicate somehow?

The bride excepted another man's proposal so she must love him.

Would have, could have, should have...

 

[bumbershoot]

I wouldn't have gone through with it. After all, in a couple years they will have the expenses of a divorce, and they still will have spent the 27K for the wedding. If she'd called it off, they'd only have been out the 27K. And they still could have had the party for the guests, serving food etc etc...get some value from it.


While we were engaged, a few times we jokingly (but also seriously) talked about the "what ifs" if someone from the past showed up in our lives. Too bad she didn't do that, didn't think it through!

 

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[My sister's princess]

Oh I'll bet my bottom dollar he will find out some time this week. The bride was balling her eye's out in the car leaving the church ( from what I was told) and the groom was like WTH????
Drama, drama, drama..this is what the dis is here for...lol.

Again I say, poor poor groom! Were they going on a honeymoon right away?

 

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[My sister's princess]

Yes from what I heard they are now on their way to a place we all wish we were at and it's not disney...hehe...a $$$ cruise.

Oh yeah someone asked if they couldn't have talked over the course of the 4 plus years they were apart, good question bets me??? I think not because of the out of state cost but that's just my guess.

Internet doesn't have long distance charges... just saying



I want to go on a cruise!!!!!

 

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[My sister's princess]

True so true really don't know the true details behind why they didn't talk. Awwwwww I see your a young bride too..Congrats!!!

For the most part though, like I said earlier, in today's society 20ish is too young to get married. This isn't 100 years ago where if you didn't finish with your family by 30 you weren't going to have one!
We had a plan, would have been 22 or 23 when we got married, but Uncle Sam shook things up a little. I was 21 and DH 22 when we got married. We ended up with our Disney elopement, and will still have a family ceremony when he gets home.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

I knew a girl who backed out of her wedding the day before she was to get married. Her parents supported her and said they were glad she'd had the guts to back out before it cost a lot of money. Of course, this was back in the day before everyone had to have $$$ weddings. They just froze the reception punch and the wedding cake to dole out at church functions, and had the rehearsal dinner, only they re-tooled it as a "family get together". I think her bridesmaids were ticked a little, as they were out the cost of their dresses, but she promised that if she got hitched in the next few years she'd keep the same bridesmaids and the same dresses.

She returned her wedding/engagement presents, and went about her way. I saw her at a reunion a couple of years ago and she says it was the best decision she ever made. She later married the guy she'd been about to marry the first time, but this time she was sure (and her bridesmaids got to wear their dresses!) and they'd both grown up quite a bit.

 

[mumom95]

If it was me, I wouldn't have gotten married.

I am a firm believer if you have any doubt at all about getting married, even up to the point of walking down the isle, you should not say I do.

The divorce is probably going to cost more than they would have lost if she had called off the wedding.

 

[Nolcrest]

Something seems fishy about this guy.

No phone calls,e-mails or letters in 4 years. Give me a break!

Yes, maybe she should have cancelled the wedding, however, there's more to this story.

 

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[Silent1CB]

I would soooo watch this movie.

 

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[a1tinkfans]

if it is accurate and/or true...
I "feel" for the groom, what a drama situation his life has become, sad actually and certainly not a way to start a marriage...........

As far as this other guy and the bride, mature is not a word I'd associate with either one...and where there is a WILL there IS a way (as far as them originally "not being together"....so, she should have moved on, and prob did, the Ex just selfishly jumped back in and being in the whole marriage arena (for lack of a better word) prob has her not even emotionally stable anyway, so Hopefully when she realizes how lucky she is to find honest/true love, she can put a stop to his contact and then move forward with the life she deserves to have.

Yes, this could be a book......any takers.........