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[TinkLoverSam]

Ariels would be lovely with your clour scheme! Here's some pixie dust that you can get it

 

[*Pixiedust1438*]

That's a bummer but I really like Ariel's as well. (from pictures at least!) I agree about the St. James room, I am not a big fan either. I don't think it will be a big deal to move guests as long as you a hiring a motorcoach, it would have been easier to have everything at the GF, but now you can get some great pictures on the Boardwalk or the Beach club too! I do also love the Napa room, I don't know if you are thinking about that at all. The only thing is it is kind of small if your guest list is approaching 50. Good luck with your decision! It would deff. be nice to book at 12 mo. rather than 8!

 

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[puente0629]

I'm happy with the way things are going with the planning. We are officially penciled in for Ariel's and I am 95% sure I'm going to switch to an Epcot DP! I'm a little bummed that we will have to put a chunk of the budget towards transportation but I'm sure on the day of the wedding I will be happy to not have to worry about how/when people get to the locations we've chosen.

I am having a problem with my MOH. I have two - my Maid of Honor is my little sister, and my Matron of Honor is DF's older sister. She is 36 and has three children. I asked her to be in the wedding shortly after we got engaged (which was ten months ago). She immediately said she'd have to go on a diet because she is overweight. I don't care how much she weighs - that's not why I asked her to be in the wedding. I asked her because she is DF's only sister and because we generally get along very well. In the ten months since we have gotten engaged she has not lost any weight but honestly, I don't care! I never asked/expected/hoped that she'd lose weight because it does not matter to me.

Now we are at the point where it's time to get the BM dresses. First of all, she has given me a VERY hard time about the color I want - pale yellow. She has said from Day 1 that she didn't want to wear yellow (she was hoping I'd change to brown which is a beautiful color but it totally does not go with my vision!) Everyone has been telling me not to let her change my mind about what color I want, so I've stuck with yellow. But now that it's time to really get serious about the dresses, she's giving me SUCH a hard time about the color! DF kind of talked to her a little bit and told her that I've wanted yellow for years and she eased up a little bit but she still throws digs at me about the color which makes me feel bad. Now she is freaking out (literally) about having to go look at dresses next month. She said she "doesn't want to go with my skinny friends" and that "her plan" was to wait until her three kids get out of school and she gets her living room re-painted and THEN start her diet and once she lost the weight, she'd be willing to look at dresses. WHAT?! At the very latest, we'd have to order the dresses 6 months in advance - which is only 6 months away! She is not going to lose 50 lbs in 6 months and she knows it. I am really frustrated here. She brings this up constantly and pouts about how I am "making her get a dress so soon" even though I know she hasn't lost weight.

Should I feel guilty here? It's not like I ever asked her to lose weight and it's not like I'm springing this on her at the last minute - it's been ten months since I asked her to be in the wedding! She is also making comments about her three boys & husband (who are in the wedding) having to get suits or tuxes, and about how the wedding is going to interfere with their vacation. (They go to Disney every year, usually in September, for 10 days). That kind of hurt my feelings and I said to DF, if it's that big of a deal for them to take two days for our wedding, then they don't have to come!

I have not spoken to her about this issue. DF has talked to her and even yelled at her the other night and said she was being selfish. (Side note - she has always been very spoiled and allllways gets her way but she has no idea that she is so self-absorbed). She pouted and hasn't spoken to DF since. I really don't know what to do. She has me so angry but I don't want to cause any problems between me and DF's family. But at the same time, I don't want to give up the colors I want and wait until the last minute to order the dresses! She can always order it in her current size and IF she loses weight, she can alter it.

Am I totally out of line to be angry/hurt/upset here? I don't feel like I'm being a total bridezilla and I'm not asking for much!

BTW, these are the dresses I really like right now - they are not too skimpy - I think she'd like the halter style better than strapless or something like that.

I've even toyed with the idea of putting half the girls in this color just to shut her up about the yellow--

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I do not think you are a Bridezilla, you told her 10months ago which she could of lost 30lbs by now. She shouldn't care how she looks, it isn't her wedding, it yours and if you don't care then she shouldn't either. If your gonna do half green and half yellow, do it because you want to not because your trying to please people. Hey and if it at the end she doesn't want to walk then your better off, a real sister would never do that. My sister recently got married and I had to wear white which makes me look huge, lol...I said oh well, it my sister's wedding and even if she wants me to wear a sack, i would wear it happily, lol.

Keep ur color and forget about everyone else...

 

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I wouldn't change anything for her! When you agree to be a bridesmaid you're essentially agreeing to wear what the bride wants for her vision. I told my BF that I'd wear a garbage bag for hers - she's the one people will be looking at! Of course then her sister threw a fit b/c she wanted to wear a long dress to hide her legs and BF wanted tea-length...there's one in every family. Don't give in. She'll get over it and realize it's your day, and should be honoured to be a part of it.

 

[brer rabbit 28]

Hi, just started reading as well.

It sounds like she has a bit of green eyed monster about her with regards to your special day.

If i were you I would totally stick to my guns. It's your choice of colour and maybe if she cannot accept it then she shouldn't be part of your wedding and simply attend as a guest, then she can wear what she likes.

Don't let it spoil the planning for you and don't let her cause any upset between you and your partner. I would go ahead with your BM planning session as you had already arranged. It is then her decision to be involved or not.

 

[bunny_pop]

OMG, You are not being a Bridezilla! I'm so sorry to hear you have to go with this. I had a situation similar to this. For me it was that my BM freaked out on me about changing my bm dresses and told me that my wedding colors looked like a Thanksgiving centerpiece. Yeah it's a fall wedding...

If I were you, I would stick to the dress and the color. Don't change at all because of her. I know you haven't talked to her about this, but maybe considered it. You might be able to resolved it. If she keeps causing this much drama, you might want to consider removing her. She's being really selfish. She needs to understand that this is your wedding day, not her's. She's had plenty of time to start her diet and have had time to alter their vacation if needed.
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[NYPrincess422]

..are beautiful! I hope that things work out with you and DF sister. Unfortunately, no matter what you say, she will probably feel uncomfortable about her weight, that is something she is going to have to deal with herself. Here is a suggestion, maybe, get the same color dress but in a style that she will feel more flattered in?

 

[sambycat]

hey girl -
sorry about the drama from your matron of honah! heh, theres my poem for the day!

you aren't being crazy so far as i can see, let's assume she just feels real self concious, maybe all your BMs are young and dewey like yourself and she is more aged and mature like myself!! sometimes people do freak, but we shall assume she just really feels self conscious.

so ok, she had plenty of warning, she isn't likely to lose any weight or at least as much as she hoped. that sucks and i can sympathize as i am wallowing in my large-icity right now and instead of doing something about it, i ate a pizza last night. alone. by myself. but i digress.....

dont change your colors, but do talk with her. maybe have a couple drinks and a mint first, perhaps a xanax. tell her you would like her to be in the wedding thats why you asked, you feel badly that she's upset but you lurve yellow!! perhaps there is a same color of dress but slightly different style that she can wear and the looking process is the only way to find this out. i can't remember how many BMs total you are having (that sounds gross), but maybe both MOHs could have slightly different styles? the halter strap things look good but - and i don't know how heavy she is or if she is imagining being heavy - some people really freak at, say, having all their arms exposed. by going and looking and her participating, you may also find a slight tweak that is still well within your vision and everyones price range that will make everyone happy.

just totally take the high road and vent here, which is i am sure how you are handling it. even though it sounds like there is manipulating going on at least a little, just play it like it really truly is her self esteem and try to support that a little, and it would seem like going to try on dresses is the perfect time. small caveat - seriously, if you have a bunch of size 4, 20 something BMs and she isnt, sometimes that is a tough one even for someone who is TRYING to be nice... but there are tons of options here!

talk to her, get her to go with you, if she wont and/or wont participate at all, ask her if she would rather do something else? guest book or something? then ignore everything she says about her dumb vacation and whining about tuxes and such and have a beautiful wedding!!!!!!!

 

[Disney9.9.10]

I am so sorry to hear about your MOH drama I think that you are handling it super well and have been very considerate of her feelings. You have come up with some options to give her, and have told her that it isn't important to you how much she weighs, but she is still being difficult. Please do not change you colours at all for her - this is your wedding and things need to go your way. There are no health or safety reasons why she can't do what you would like so she needs to just suck it up or step down. Does she know that she has the option to step down - if not, you should let her know that if she is uncomfortable she does have that option, but you are not going to comprimize your wedding vision. The dress that you have chosen, you even picked with her in mind (does she know this?) you could have chosen a dress in a totally unflattering, short, skimpy style - but you didn't. I hope that this all gets sorted out for you real soon!

 

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