22days out - still haven't picked ceremony vows for Rev.Jack Day- HELP!

[Maggimus]

I am 22 days out from my wedding and really need to hurry and let Rev Jack Day know which vows we want in the ceremony. I have looked through the packet several times.

Whick Rev.Jack Day vows did you all go with? We do not want to write our own - and we are just traditional people coming from Baptist backgrounds.

I have lost the packet and really need help!

 

[TinkBride]

I am baptist as well, and we chose to go with the suggested ceremony that he sent us. It talks about Christ's love and was the most religious we found of his ceremonies.

But, it still wasn't quite religious enough for us, so we are writing our entire ceremony.

So, if you do not want to go to that trouble, I would go with the "suggested ceremony".

 

[sajetto]

I used the suggested ceremony and removed a few references to family because my fiance's family is not coming and I added just a few little things from his other ceremony choices. Overall, I really like the way it flows together.

 

[kimnkel]

Maggimus--Ask Rev Day to mail you the ceremony choices ASAP, but call him--don't email him. I have not been happy with the email thing with him. When you have him on the phone, ask him if he can email you the ceremony options. I think that you need to be able to fill in your names to the ceremony pages so you need to get hard copies into his hands, one way or the other.

I also think you will be happiest with the suggested ceremony, but only you will know if you truly will be. I think the vows get overlooked too often in all the planning--and they are the really important part. Everything else is just a party, a pretty dress, and a nice meal.

My suggestions: Ask him to mail or email the ceremony options to you ASAP, and spend some time really thinking about what you want to say, and what you are willing to promise. LOL.

But seriously, maggs--think about this part, because even though I know you have said you have been with your DF a long time, it really does feel different after you say "I do. I will."

And that's a good thing.

 

[Laurafoster]

I agree, get him to email over his ceremony options and work out what promises are important to you!

 

[Maggimus]

Thanks everyone.... I completely agree with what you are saying.

This question will sound dumb- but to someone who has never been married before-- its an honest question.

My real name is Margaret... but I go by Maggie (shortened version). My DF's first name is Clint- but he goes by Shane (his middle name).

In our vows do we go by our REAL names? or by our social names (No one knows us by anything different)...

Thanks!

Also- my DF's family will not be there (just as sajettos)... so should I, out of respect, eliminate the entire "To the parents" section?

 

[sajetto]

I'm in the SAME situation. My first name on my birth cert. and that I go by professionally is NOT the name that all of my friends and family call me. So, in the introduction of the ceremony Rev. Day will say we are here to unite "J., Caroline, Blah" and "Michael J. Blah" in marriage. The rest of the cermemony he will say do you "Caroline" and do you "Michael"


BTW, out of respect to Michael I eliminated the "to the parents" portion and instead decided to recognize them during our welcome dinner where I will give them some very special gifts in appreciation of all that they have done.

 

[Maggimus]

Also one more thing- how did you all submit these to him? Did you e-mail him? Did you re-type everything? Or did you just cross out and fill in on the sheets he gave you and then mail them in?

Thanks Sajetto- glad to know im not alone in this.

 

[sajetto]

I retyped everything, but to keep myself straight I marked all over the samples he gave and put numbers beside each paragraph according to where I wanted it in the ceremony. Within my retyped version I highlighted our names and what was most important to me that he include.

After I've done a final look over and I'm certain that its exactly what I want, I'm going to send an email, as well as a snail mail copy just to be sure that he gets it.


Glad to help!

 

[TinkBride]

I retyped everything and e-mailed to him in Word format.

Also, my DF's name is Douglas, but he goes by Doug. In our ceremony everyhting is referred to him as Douglas though, because he felt it was more formal and classy to use his actual name rather than his shortened name. Just his opinion, i didn't care either way......go with your gut on that.....it is your vows and your wedding, you should like how they sound!

 

[Maggimus]

Great feedback.


I havent heard from him in a couple months since I sent in my signed contract. I hope this is normal not to hear from him.

Im in the process of getting in touch with him now though.

 

[JandJ]

I re-typed everything for Rev. Jack and e-mailed it to him as a Word attachment. We put together 2 or 3 of his ceremonies and added a prayer for my mom. Plus, I think then he can just print that out and follow it during the ceremony. I found out Rev. Jack doesn't do his own e-mail, his granddaughter or niece does it, so don't worry about not hearing from him. I called him close to the ceremony just to confirm everything, and there were no problems at all. He's a professional and has been doing this for years.

Regarding your names, I think you could use nicknames if that is what you normally call each other. For the wedding Rev. Jack used my full name (Jennifer) because that's how I wanted it, more formal, even though I'm Jen to almsot everyone, including my DH. Say what feels right, there is no wrong or right on that one.

I think the advice that kimnkel said is important - be sure to read and believe in what you are saying to each other. Those words should be what you really feel in your heart - you are pledging everything to that person, in that moment, in front of family, freinds, and God. Make sure you agree to what you are saying.

 

[KT27]

If you pm me your email address I will send you what we used, its in word.

~Katie

 

[JennyandMike03]

I took a few passages from a few of the different ceremonies and kinda copy/pasted them together. I sent it to him via e-mail. I can e-mail you a copy if you like...

 

[Belle83007]

i have a question guys. i called rev jack lastnight and spoke with him. i told him we wanted him to perform our ceremony etc. and he had penciled us in for our date. i asked him about a deposit and stuff he told me to fill out the "send info" on his website to request the jac pac. just wondering how long it takes to get after u submit the request online and if the contract is in there or not?

 

[JennyandMike03]

He sends the packet via regular mail. I live in Central FL, so I got mine a few days after I sent the request.

 

[Belle83007]

so is the contract in the pack that he sends out? what does the pack consist of? Thanks

 

[kimnkel]

There really isn't a "contract" per se; there is a "request for services" that you will fill out and keep a copy of. No worries--Rev. Day is a professional that has been doing this a long time, and one of Disney's preferred vendors--meaning he has been vetted.

The rest of the pack consists of the various ceremony options that we have been discussing on this thread. He will use what you select from those, or any other vows you wish to use.

Hope that answers your questions! Rev. Day is our officiant for our December wedding.

 

[Belle83007]

Kimnkel- congrats to u on your upcoming wedding and thanks for the info

 

[Summer-Caitlin]

I'm in the SAME situation. My first name on my birth cert. and that I go by professionally is NOT the name that all of my friends and family call me. So, in the introduction of the ceremony Rev. Day will say we are here to unite "J., Caroline, Blah" and "Michael J. Blah" in marriage. The rest of the cermemony he will say do you "Caroline" and do you "Michael"

Ah, I never knew this. I'm in the same position, my first name is Cassandra but no one calls me that anymore and for about 6 years I have went by my middle name Summer-Caitlin. I didn't know you could request the rev to use your middle name in the ceremony instead, that's great . Can I ask though, what about the Wedding Certificate? Will that read the first name or for example C. Summer-Caitlin Lee Carson?

Thanks