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[C.Ann]

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[raysnkaysmom]

Did they know it was the anniversary??
Anyways...as you know, their intentions were good - and at least you liked the guy 'enough'... lol Coulda been worse!

 

[Jeafl]

From all the posts I've read of yours over the years it seems like you have a good relationship with your daughter and son-in-law. My gut feeling is that they didn't mean to be insensitive. Chances are they didn't remember it was the anniversary of your brother's death.

The fact that you took an uncomfortable situation and tried to make the best of it says a lot about your character.

 

[Carly_Roach]

They were probably thinking that he was a nice guy, that they wouldn't mind having him in the family, and that you might like to date him. Nothing else should be read into it.

When he offered to take you on a ride, you probably should have politely declined with the excuse that your brother died on one of those things and you'd rather not be on one. That way he'd be the one asking your kids, "Woah! What were you thinking guys?"

 

[minniebeth]

So maybe the timing was off, but the sentiment sweet...
It was nice of you to be gracious to the man and go along with it.
You are certainly not too old for some nice company, it does not have to be a situation where you are "seeing" anyone if you don't want it to be.
If it were a different day, maybe you would be more open to the flow of the evening, but it sounds from a 1:30am evening it wasn't all that bad.
I'm sorry about your brother, it to this day must be very hard for you.

 

[Disney Doll]

I worked with a woman who was widowed young... I think she was 60 or 62.

She has dated a couple of men, but always comes back to "they aren't John" (her late DH, to whom she was married for 30+ years).

I always tell her "They don't have to be John. You don't have to marry them. They can just be a nice man friend whose company you enjoy from time to time".

The gentleman you met sounded nice...at least from your description. Perhaps if you encounter him again you could explain that you lost a brother on a motorcycle, which would explain your reluctance to accompany him on a ride. You never know...he might be quite understanding about it, he might also have a car he could pick you up in and you two could have a lovely time together.

I don't think your kids meant any harm, and they probably did not remember that it was the specific day your brother was killed.