18 yr old is suing parents for college education

[JanaDee]

The lawsuit was dropped today.

 

[mnrose]

I've posted this before, but this is a girl with an ED. And, I know something about those, having a teenage DD who is recovering from one. Unless you have personally lived this nightmare, I don't think you can understand what I am about to write.

The young lady in this case, who told her mom such a vile thing (quoted above...), was in the grips of an ED. If you read the affidavits, when the young woman left this voice mail it wasn't about parental rules. It wasn't about her boyfriend. It wasn't about drinking or partying. It was about her mother "catching her" purging in the bathroom. That alone spoke VOLUMES to me about what was happening to this family. I feel nothing but empathy for them.

My D is a sweet, lovable teen who still enjoys snuggling with me in bed. However, when she was in the throes of her ED she hurled some unbelievable insults at me. She used foul language that she had not used before or since. It cut me to the core. But in my heart, I knew that it wasn't her. It was her horrible disease. And, she is now weight restored. She is happy. She is loving. She is kind. You'd never guess she would have said what she did. Sure, it's easy to sit in your chair a million miles removed from this young lady's situation or that of my D, and say "spoiled brat." I can flat out guarantee you that in the case of my D you could not be more wrong.

 

[LBIJim]

The lawsuit was dropped today.

No doubt the buttinsky friend's father saw the writing on the wall. No use throwing good money after bad by continuing to fund this lawsuit.

Jim

 

[j's m]

Here's Rachel's lastest adventure:

http://www.courierpostonline.com/st...parents-restraining-order-boyfriend/13035713/

 

[Tuffcookie]

Sean Canning said that since his daughter's return, the household has been peaceful and he and his wife had decided not to criticize Kitzmiller when Rachel continued to see him on an on-again, off-again basis.

"She has repaired her relationship with us," Sean Canning said. "She went off the deep end in the past, but things are good now. We said to her 'Listen, you're an adult. You make your own choices.' "

I guess now that mom & dad aren't forbidding the relationship it isn't so exciting anymore.

TC

 

[Robinrs]

MORRISTOWN, N.J. — Rachel Canning, the teenager who moved out of her parents' home and then sued them for support and college costs, has gotten a domestic violence temporary restraining order against her boyfriend — the man her parents had wanted her to stop seeing.

Canning, who graduated from Morris Catholic High School this spring and is headed for Western New England University this fall on a $56,000 scholarship, accused Lucas Kitzmiller, 18, of choking her with his hands during a quarrel early this past Sunday morning, according to Canning's father, Sean Canning.

Sometimes they have to learn on their own...

But Mama I LOVE him!!

yeah right...

 

[minkydog]

Wellity, wellity, it looks like this chick on well on her way to a promising career as a professional litigator.

 

[Imzadi]

Wellity, wellity, it looks like this chick on well on her way to a promising career as a professional litigator.

Professional VICTIM more likely. First her parents victimized her by not subsidizing her schooling. And now this incident, which, I usually do not question domestic violence situations, but she already lost credibility and integrity with me for having any rational sense. I wouldn't be surprised to learn that she was hitting him first and he used his hands to either hold her away or yes, he hit back. (When you hit someone first, you had better expect they are going to hit back. ) And when she ended up with marks on her, she ran to the police to yell "Victim" again.

 

[minkydog]

Professional VICTIM more likely. First her parents victimized her by not subsidizing her schooling. And now this incident, which, I usually do not question domestic violence situations, but she already lost credibility and integrity with me for having any rational sense. I wouldn't be surprised to learn that she was hitting him first and he used his hands to either hold her away or yes, he hit back. (When you hit someone first, you had better expect they are going to hit back. ) And when she ended up with marks on her, she ran to the police to yell "Victim" again.

I totally agree! I'm not of the "blame the victim" mentality, but I find it hard to have faith in her version of the story, based on her previous actions. She may not have brought suit against this guy YET, but mark my words, she will. People like her are always looking for someone to blame for their victimhood and some of them will lie and sue their way to prosperity.

 

[Disney Doll]

As a PP pointed out, Disney Doll does not have children. She also has a history of posting extremely negative views about children and teens (and parents) on almost every thread that mentions children at all. As a mother of two teens; I think a lot depends on the particular child and their personality--parenting is just not a one size fits all thing. I also really think things are much easier on everyone involved when parents see their job as primarily about guiding and teaching and helping their kids grow into themselves and not about controlling and molding their kids into some preconceived idea of who they should be.

Actually I feel sorry for children and teens based on the fact that they have no control over how they are raised. My actual problem is with the parents who are screwing them up.

Nope. Don't have kids. Spent a lot if money trying but it didn't work. I do, however, have eyes, ears and a brain and am quite able to process how the behavior of parents is impacting generations of children. You don't need to be a parent to realize that high school kids going into schools armed with weapons and killing people is a problem. You don't need to be a parent to realize that a 14 year old having a baby so "someone will love her" is a problem. You don't need to be a parent to realize that a teenager saying "my parents never tell me no" is a problem. A 20-something year old working adult who tells me I should be impressed that she got to work on time 1 out of 5 days is a problem.

Not having kids doesn't mean that I can't have observations and opinions about what's happening to them in today's world. We spend lots of time on the DIS discussing lots of things that we don't have personal experience with and no one seems to have a problem with that. I guess I hit a nerve with many of you.

With regard to issue, children learn what they live. I would find it hard to believe that the parents are completely blameless in what they created. That being said, this girl is an adult now do she'll be learning a few hard lessons about living in the world if you act like an idiot...at least hopefully she'll learn them.

 

[eliza61]

Actually I feel sorry for children and teens based on the fact that they have no control over how they are raised. My actual problem is with the parents who are screwing them up.


Not having kids doesn't mean that I can't have observations and opinions about what's happening to them in today's world. We spend lots of time on the DIS discussing lots of things that we don't have personal experience with and no one seems to have a problem with that. I guess I hit a nerve with many of you.

With regard to issue, children learn what they live. I would find it hard to believe that the parents are completely blameless in what they created. That being said, this girl is an adult now do she'll be learning a few hard lessons about living in the world if you act like an idiot...at least hopefully she'll learn them.

LOL, I know as a parent I do value the opinions of the childless many times. Now whether or not I take it in good grace is another question.
I realize the old saying "can't see the forest for the trees" can be very true.
Some times in the trenches of parenthood it does take some one not going through the same issues to throw in an alternate view.

LOL why do you think bartenders make such great therapist?

Anyhoo,
Rachael is not different than many "walk on the wild side" young adults who think they have it all together.

Remember guys this is the dis, not to be insulting but I am always amazed at how almost everyone here has teens that have it all together, are honors students, knew exactly what they wanted to do at age 6 and are emotionally mature the nanosecond they turned 18. So I do think our perception is skewed.

My sons are in their twenties and a few folks were aghast when I said that some days I like my dog better then them. Hey, they are absolute morons now and then. like when my idiot younger son and his buddy tried to hitchhike from Ohio to NC FOR A BASKETBALL GAME. with 13 bucks between them.


Anyway,
Here's hoping that Rachael at least recognizes that maybe her parents weren't as horrible as she thought and uses her college experience to learn and mature.

 

[minkydog]

Remember guys this is the dis, not to be insulting but I am always amazed at how almost everyone here has teens that have it all together, are honors students, knew exactly what they wanted to do at age 6 and are emotionally mature the nanosecond they turned 18. So I do think our perception is skewed.

My sons are in their twenties and a few folks were aghast when I said that some days I like my dog better then them. Hey, they are absolute morons now and then. like when my idiot younger son and his buddy tried to hitchhike from Ohio to NC FOR A BASKETBALL GAME. with 13 bucks between them.

I know just how you feel. There have been times when I said to myself, "I am surrounded by doofuses." My oldest son would never be taken for an honor student. We were just glad that he graduated at all and that he never got anyone pregnant or had scrapes with the law. My daughter was a straight C student who took Algebra 2 three times and almost didn't graduate. Of course, Christian is severely mentally handicapped so he's not winning any awards, other than Best Loveable Kid in the Whole World.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Actually I feel sorry for children and teens based on the fact that they have no control over how they are raised. My actual problem is with the parents who are screwing them up.

Nope. Don't have kids. Spent a lot if money trying but it didn't work. I do, however, have eyes, ears and a brain and am quite able to process how the behavior of parents is impacting generations of children. You don't need to be a parent to realize that high school kids going into schools armed with weapons and killing people is a problem. You don't need to be a parent to realize that a 14 year old having a baby so "someone will love her" is a problem. You don't need to be a parent to realize that a teenager saying "my parents never tell me no" is a problem. A 20-something year old working adult who tells me I should be impressed that she got to work on time 1 out of 5 days is a problem.

Not having kids doesn't mean that I can't have observations and opinions about what's happening to them in today's world. We spend lots of time on the DIS discussing lots of things that we don't have personal experience with and no one seems to have a problem with that. I guess I hit a nerve with many of you.

With regard to issue, children learn what they live. I would find it hard to believe that the parents are completely blameless in what they created. That being said, this girl is an adult now do she'll be learning a few hard lessons about living in the world if you act like an idiot...at least hopefully she'll learn them.

I agree that people without kids often have valid and even excellent perceptions about issues involving children. I have stuck up for many on this very board a few times when people automatically dismissed the opinion of a childless person (i have stuck up for you I think, Firedancer, etc).

That said (and having not gone back to read what caused me to make the comment several months ago that you are referring to ) you are one of two posters here who tends to be very, I would say, "anti child" Someone who often goes overboard and seems to have pretty much decided that no one in the current crop of parents is doing a decent job and no one in the current crop of kids, teens and young adults is anything other than a spoiled brat. The other poster does have children and grandchildren. For me, it is not that you do or do not have kids of your own but rather your history extreme negativity about children in nearly every situation that colors my views on your posts.

It is as over the top and unrelenting as another poster's negative views on adoption. In either case, when someone constantly seems to harp on a subject and never has anything but negative comments on one topic, it is quite noticeable.

BTW--I never knew that you wanted kids and could not have them. I am really sorry about that.

 

[Robinrs]

Remember guys this is the dis, not to be insulting but I am always amazed at how almost everyone here has teens that have it all together, are honors students, knew exactly what they wanted to do at age 6 and are emotionally mature the nanosecond they turned 18. So I do think our perception is skewed.

My sons are in their twenties and a few folks were aghast when I said that some days I like my dog better then them. Hey, they are absolute morons now and then. like when my idiot younger son and his buddy tried to hitchhike from Ohio to NC FOR A BASKETBALL GAME. with 13 bucks between them.

The NANOSECOND!! LOL!!

I made the abysmal statement of saying that an 18 year old is NOT an adult in my mind and you'd think I told them the world just ended.

I don't consider an adult an adult at ANY age until they've proven to make wise decisions, are financial dependent and have a modicum of maturity.

I had two sisters who were like that but I was NOT. Did I consider myself strange or demented? No. Everyone matures on their own time, NOT by blowing out candles.