16yo Spring Break ?

[LvsTnk]

Would you let your 16yo go with her BF to his Mom's house for spring break?

The BF lives with his Dad and will be going to his Mom's over the break. The girl has been dating him a year and a half. The Mom lives in one of the Southern states on a lake. They have a jet ski and a boat.

Hmmm.... I don't know if I would.

 

[mommytotwo]

If it was my daughter, I wouldn't let her unless I was accompaning them.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Well, I don't have children, but I'd have to say it would depend.

I vacationed with my high school boyfriends family when I was 16 or so. But my mom knew the guy and his parents well and they knew we would be spending probably less time "alone" than we did at home.

 

[RoyalCanadian]

You just have to mention teenagers and Jet Skis and I would strongly urge you to say no. Jet Skis are very dangerous pieces of equipment with no ability to brake or turn when the power is reduced or cut -- as one is inclined to do when speeding towards another object at high speed. Numerous people have died in Jet Ski accidents and yet these devices are still allowed to be sold without simple pieces of safety equipment that can be easily installed by the manufacturers to allow for greater control in such circumstances.

 

[ksjayhawks]

One word

"no".

 

[Disneymomma]

NO WAY!

 

[PrincessaC]

Probably Not. Maybe if you speak w/ the boys mother?

 

[Beast fan]

My first thought was "NO WAY! THE PARENT OF THE GIRL WOULD HAVE TO BE NUTS!" Then I thought about it..... at 16, I was so naive a GF's mother would almost "have" to trust me.

I guess it would just depend upon the "boy" and "girl".

Dave

 

[holycow]

No

 

[aprilgail2]

When I was 16 my friends and I took a bus trip to Canada...we were only 3 girls but boy were we looking for trouble at that age....it was cool that my parents didn't smother me when I was younger but in todays world I would have to say I am not sure if I would let her go or not..depends on if I knew the mother well. My boyfriends used to come on vacations with my family from the time I was about 15 but like everyone always says "oh its different for guys".....

 

[shortbun]

If there is ANY question, don't. My god daughter went on
a camping trip with her boyfriend's parents and the result
was a horror. Her parents felt uneasy but did not want to
be the "bad guy." Turns out the boyfriend was the bad guy
and his parents left them unsupervised. Plenty of time for
vacations together if they get married or AFTER they are out
on their own and supporting themselves.

 

[dumboiu]

Absolutely NOT!!!!

 

[antmaril]

I took my son's 16 year old girlfriend with us to Disney/Universal this year over Presidents' Week. They have been going together for two years. Her mother knows I am a very responsible person and these are good kids. They have never given us one minute of trouble. It was just the three of us, since my husband couldn't go this time. We had a blast. They were perfectly behaved - never tried to ditch me once. We went to Epcot, Magic Kingdom, MGM, Islands of Adventure and Universal Studios. We had a great time. It went so well, that my husband and I are taking them on a Disney Cruise in February for their "senior trip."

My son's girlfriend had never been on a plane. She had never been to Disney and had not traveled at all. She was thrilled and we had more fun because we got to show it to her. Wait till she gets on the Disney Wonder - she is going to flip!!!

Every situation is different. No one's opinion counts but yours.

Good luck!

 

[chesirechik]

If there are going to parents there, what's the big deal? My parents let me go with my BF & his family to their cottage on a lake when I was 16. We had fun and were with his family the entire time.

If you trust your DD and like her BF I don't see what the problem is there.

However, if you've never met the mom, that's another story I suppose.

 

[chrissyk]

It depends on the kids, honestly. If you're at all worried, don't let her go. There is indeed plenty of time for that sort of thing once she's over 18 and on her own.

I also agree about the jetski thing above. I had a friend in college who got injured on one. Jetskis don't seem to be very safe, especially if you're an inexperienced operator.

 

[POOH&PIGLET]

Another vote for "No way!"

 

[sue1013]

I would and have. When my DD was in HS she went on a few trips with her boyfriends family as well he went with ours. DS's girlfriend will be with us in December for a week at WDW. Is it the lake and jet skis that have you worried or the thought of them being alone? If its the time alone part, teenagers will find a way at home or away to be alone.

 

[dg39]

If your comfortable with the situation then I say,Yes. You may want to call up the mother and speak with her about it. That may make you feel better about letting her go. Like another poster had mentioned, if your concerned about them having "alone time", they can have "alone time" at home.

 

[LvsTnk]

Well, to be honest the thing that worries me the most is the jet ski! She is a daredevil and very athletic.

I know the mother will probably not give them a minutes" peace" as well as the older brother. I have them here all the time and they get along well and are very respectful of one another.

We had planned to ask him on our trip to WDW this summer but this spring break thing caught me off guard. His Mother just moved there this summer and the BF moved in with his Dad so he didn't have to change schools. I don't even want to call the Mom unless I am really thinking of letting her go.

I never thought when they were little I would even entertain the thought of a trip like this....how things change