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[KariC]

You know, I don't remember where I read this....why am I so forgetful of that type of thing when I'm pregnant????

Anyway, our first mission field is our family (and that goes for all of us, not just pastors). If we don't dedicate ourselves to this, we open ourselves up to major scrutiny....AND (more importantly) are not fulfilling our roles. This even relates to the Timothy books....pastors/ministers are considered elders (don't know how all denominations work it), but they are called to be the leaders of their families. In the OT, we are told to tell our children God's ways as we go about our daily business.

Anyway, something to think about....I think it was Josh McDowell who I first heard this from, at a conference he spoke at.....

So, I know it's hard to have someone criticize your DH, but try and let it role off your back. Maybe she had a nasty day....pray for her (way way easier for me to type that than for anyone to do that! )

 

[Pembo]

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[Disney Doll]

Wow!!!Why does a nasty 75 year old woman have so much power that she could force your parents to change churches.

That would happen on a cold day in Hell. If naything, I'd be so in her face and smiling and being sickenly sweet all the time that she's rue the day she was born!

 

[Zippa D Doodah]

She needs points or banning!!!

*points or banning for church members* snort!

 

[goofygirl]

Every church has one of "those people" who want to nose into everybody's business and start trouble.

If she's that unhappy, she should leave the church.

 

[Towncrier]

Wow. This is deja vu. My dad is a retired United Methodist minister. I use the word retired very loosely because he has continued to serve various churches since he "officially" retired from the ministry.

Regardless, when my dad was around your DH's age, he decided that he needed to earn some extra cash by being a substitute school bus driver. He loves to drive and the opportunity to earn some money for the college fund at the same time was a win-win situation for our family. That is, until someone in the church complained that my dad wasn't working enough hours and that his moonlighting as a bus driver was interfering with his pastoral duties. I guess that this church member felt that my dad should be on call 24/7 (which, in reality, he has always been when it comes to church emergencies). So my dad had to start keep a diary to track his hours. And he gave up his role as substitute bus driver in order to appease the local church council. And, much like your DH, he work a WHOLE lot more than 40 hours a week.

Good luck with this disgruntled church member.

 

[KariC]

Wow. This is deja vu. My dad is a retired United Methodist minister. I use the word retired very loosely because he has continued to serve various churches since he "officially" retired from the ministry.

Regardless, when my dad was around your DH's age, he decided that he needed to earn some extra cash by being a substitute school bus driver. He loves to drive and the opportunity to earn some money for the college fund at the same time was a win-win situation for our family. That is, until someone in the church complained that my dad wasn't working enough hours and that his moonlighting as a bus driver was interfering with his pastoral duties. I guess that this church member felt that my dad should be on call 24/7 (which, in reality, he has always been when it comes to church emergencies). So my dad had to start keep a diary to track his hours. And he gave up his role as substitute bus driver in order to appease the local church council. And, much like your DH, he work a WHOLE lot more than 40 hours a week.

Good luck with this disgruntled church member.

I find this a bit ironic....he was providing a community service and outreaching beyond his church. He was creating relationships with children that might not "see" other Christians in their daily life. He was showing families that serving others and providing for his family were not mutually exclusive activites. And he had to quit. That's a bum.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Freyja wrote: However, I do not think it is right for you to quote your husbands letters on the Dis.

First of all, the OP does not use her real name on the DIS.

#2, the OP came here to vent. Pastor's wives have feelings too!

#3 Never once did the OP reveal names here on the CB.

Geez, someone needs to take a chill pill!

TC

 

[ozarkmom]

Several years ago a pastor and his family that we knew had decided they were going to make this town their home and wanted their children to finish school here. The church had a small house for them to live in but they decided they wanted to "own their own home" pretty normal in my opinion. There were people in their church that wanted them run off. The wife had a job and that bothered some of the parisheners too. I don't know what people expect from their pastors.

 

[Pembo]

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