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[An72]

Yes.. Wonderful advice. Thanks for sharing these thoughts!

 

[CityGirlLost]

Great advice!!!

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Wedding/Reception is at a medieval themed banquet hall called the Castle in my state (MA). It really looks like a castle, right down to the drawbridge and moat and armor etc. all over the place. It's a bit out of the way from the big cities and an old school family run small business so they are not expensive at all. We've sampled the food and it's amazing. I'm seriously psyched for our buffet...

Is it just "The Castle" or is it the Castle of Knights? We were interested in the 2nd one, but they never returned our calls...in fact, a lot of places never returned our calls. We were starting to think we'd have to get married out in the street

I will admit that I did order my dress from the internet and it was PERFECT. However, I'm not wearing a traditional white dress (my 2nd marriage, plus I look terrible in white/ivory). I found a gorgeous purple dress on Nordstrom.com and everyone loves it - or they say they do.

Unfortunately, my mother is becoming a problem - again. She's so worried about what everyone is going to think if we do things that we really like. For example, black roses are my favorite flower. DFi likes to keep things somewhat masculine, so he's completely on board to have, say, black roses on the cake. My mother is flipping out over that. I would like to have a black and white rose bouquet. My mother gives me "The Look." We're leaning toward using "Lovesong" by The Cure as our first dance. My mother doesn't want any "mopey" music being played at a wedding.

We should have gone to Vegas...

 

[PartofDisney'sWorld]

Is it just "The Castle" or is it the Castle of Knights? We were interested in the 2nd one, but they never returned our calls...in fact, a lot of places never returned our calls. We were starting to think we'd have to get married out in the street

I will admit that I did order my dress from the internet and it was PERFECT. However, I'm not wearing a traditional white dress (my 2nd marriage, plus I look terrible in white/ivory). I found a gorgeous purple dress on Nordstrom.com and everyone loves it - or they say they do.

Unfortunately, my mother is becoming a problem - again. She's so worried about what everyone is going to think if we do things that we really like. For example, black roses are my favorite flower. DFi likes to keep things somewhat masculine, so he's completely on board to have, say, black roses on the cake. My mother is flipping out over that. I would like to have a black and white rose bouquet. My mother gives me "The Look." We're leaning toward using "Lovesong" by The Cure as our first dance. My mother doesn't want any "mopey" music being played at a wedding.

We should have gone to Vegas...

Sorry you have to go through that with your mom. Is she paying for the wedding or any part of it? If not, I would just tell her to take a back seat and keep her opinions to herself!

HAHA, Just kidding. But in all seriousness, maybe just tell her that it's what YOU and DF really want, and it's YOUR wedding, especially if you are paying for it.

 

[Disney-Chick]

I realize after telling everyone we were engaged that they all have opinions on what YOUR wedding should look like. But once we started I must say things have gone smoothly for us. Especially with my mother. She is very opinionated.

I am sorry that your mother is doing what I thought mine would. But as I told my family when they groaned about Disney. We will be there, whoever can make it great, if not we will have loads of pics and video when we return.

Do what will make you happy. Somethings in life you never can re-do.

Good luck.

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

Is it just "The Castle" or is it the Castle of Knights? We were interested in the 2nd one, but they never returned our calls...in fact, a lot of places never returned our calls. We were starting to think we'd have to get married out in the street

I will admit that I did order my dress from the internet and it was PERFECT. However, I'm not wearing a traditional white dress (my 2nd marriage, plus I look terrible in white/ivory). I found a gorgeous purple dress on Nordstrom.com and everyone loves it - or they say they do.

Unfortunately, my mother is becoming a problem - again. She's so worried about what everyone is going to think if we do things that we really like. For example, black roses are my favorite flower. DFi likes to keep things somewhat masculine, so he's completely on board to have, say, black roses on the cake. My mother is flipping out over that. I would like to have a black and white rose bouquet. My mother gives me "The Look." We're leaning toward using "Lovesong" by The Cure as our first dance. My mother doesn't want any "mopey" music being played at a wedding.

We should have gone to Vegas...

Just "The Castle" . A full banquet buffet with sirloin, stuffed chicken, fettucine & more sides than I could count + cocktail hour hors d' ourves and a fruit/cheese platter w/ open bar + the room rental + the linens etc. for 5 hours for 70 people came to just over $3K when all was said and done. Fabulous service. I would recommend them to anyone. The owner was on hand for the reception and took part in serving and making sure everything was going well. He also let my MIL come in late and early whenever she wanted really to set up.

Black roses are my favorite flower too. We worked them into the centerpieces. I wanted to carry red though, since my BMs were in black. I thought the red would just "pop" better…if that makes sense.

As far as your DM goes, just do what you want and your DM will either accept you as you are and get into it or think it's awful but then get over it. My mom is the most conservative person on the planet who always dreamed of having a perky blond cheerleader for a daughter. With that in mind….

We had a full out goth wedding on Halloween in a place where the chaneliers are not made out of crystal, but instead of old axes, and where our sweetheart table had a candelabra with skulls on it. We toasted with pewter dragon flutes whose tails formed a heart. Our cake was blackish gray with skulls and black roses and topped with a Dia De Los Muertos skelton couple. Our first dance was Bella Morte's version of Earth Angel. I walked down the aisle to an instrumental version of Tori Amos' 'Snow Cherries From France' and everyone else in the wedding processional walked to Blind Guardian's Skalds and Shadows. The recessional was a song by Versailles Philharmonic Quintet. The kids trick or treated from table to table to a Nekromanix song called Trick or Treat. Much Voltaire was played. The dance mix was a blend of Halloween music and 80's new wave/dance rock. We took our formal photos in a spooky old graveyard. My jewelry had skulls and crossbones on it. I had a very unusual hairstyle…something I'd call a cross between Emilie Autum and maybe one of the suicide girls. My hair is already dark but I had it dyed even darker. DH wore a top hat, tails and carried a cane with a skull on it. His top hat had a Dia de Los Muertos pin on it. I carried blood red roses tied with a black ribbon. My BMs wore black. One of them incorporated a lace jacket with skulls and bats on it into her dress. The flower girls carried pumpkin pails instead of white baskets and wore dark maroon "princess" costumes. My rings are black diamonds. Our cake cutters and guest book had skulls on them. Our centerpieces were made of black roses and candleholders tied together with skull ribbon.

And Mom loved it. She went crazy buying candy for the trick or treat bowls we had set up, and looking for cute Halloween stuff for us to use.

Numerous other people applauded us for doing what we wanted. One girl said the music we picked was the best wedding music she'd ever heard. My BMs were psyched that they didn't have to wear some horrid color and that they could just wear whatever they wanted. Anyone worried that people won't eat black cake… my cake was literally gone within the night. For real, we barely got to have any because someone dragged us off to take pics and when we came back, people were on their second slices…

Other non-traditional stuff we did was I did not let the JP ask my dad if he was "giving me away". I am almost 35 years old and have been on my own since I was 19. I'm giving myself away, thanks. Dad was a touch put off by this at first but after I explained that I was against the whole "dad giving someone away" because he raised me to be a strong, independent woman he agreed with me and was actually kind of proud of me.

I did not call my BMs bridesmaids. I called them all women of honor. I hate the term maid because that sounds like the person who cleans your hotel room, or like someone who milks cows or something. They were all pretty happy about it. I did not have a MOH because I love my 4 best friends equally and I do not have a sister or close cousin.

 

[PartofDisney'sWorld]

Congrats on your wedding! It sounds amazing, and sounds like you had tons of fun!

 

[Disney-Chick]

GoldieSaysMeep - I would love to see some pictures. Your wedding sounds like so much fun. I am glad that you had your wedding and not others. Congrats on a great wedding!

 

[DoomBuggy0922]

Oh my gosh your wedding sounds like a BLAST! You need to post pictures.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I would LOVE to see your goth wedding photos! I haven't fully outgrown goth myself (it's not just a phase anymore! )...I guess it's a good thing that I lean toward the "elegant Victorian;" we can put some gothic touches into it without making it obvious.

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

Thanks all. When we get our pics back, I'll post some

 

[sw33t_angel]

Wonderful post! Thanks for the great advice!!! Mine will be a year from tomorrow, and I am just getting started!!

Your wedding sounds beautiful! Enjoy!