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[C.Ann]

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[CEDmom]

I don't know whether my DD is being taught this is school. I do know the nurse visits classes on a regular basis to talk about a whole variety of things and I would imagine this is one of them. It doesn't really matter though, she's known the real names since she could talk.

I remember when she was about 2 or 3 and we were talking about how boys are different than girls. I explained what boys had vs. what girls had. She sat and quietly took it all in. That night DH came home and DD ran up to him as usual. She then proceeded to tell him not to worry that be didn't have a 'gina because we'd go to the 'gina store and get him one .

By the way, I agree that most young children wouldn't know the names for various activities but I don't think that's something most parents want their children to know anyway. I certainly don't. My DD knows how babies are made and where they come from but she doesn't know how things get where they need to be.

Qualified therapists will use anatomically correct dolls to allow children to show what happened. They don't need to understand or know the actual terms.

 

[mickeyboat]

I don't know whether my DD is being taught this is school. I do know the nurse visits classes on a regular basis to talk about a whole variety of things and I would imagine this is one of them. It doesn't really matter though, she's known the real names since she could talk.

I remember when she was about 2 or 3 and we were talking about how boys are different than girls. I explained what boys had vs. what girls had. She sat and quietly took it all in. That night DH came home and DD ran up to him as usual. She then proceeded to tell him not to worry that be didn't have a 'gina because we'd go to the 'gina store and get him one .

I have been open and honest with my girls, and they know the real names of what boys have and what girls have, but they generally collectively call them their privates. In K last year they had the lesson from the school counselor about good touch bad touch, and were taught about the "bathing suit" area as being private as well. It's a one piece, BTW.

Denae

 

[C.Ann]

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[CEDmom]

I have been open and honest with my girls, and they know the real names of what boys have and what girls have, but they generally collectively call them their privates. In K last year they had the lesson from the school counselor about good touch bad touch, and were taught about the "bathing suit" area as being private as well. It's a one piece, BTW.

Denae

My DD calls them private parts and she knows about good vs. bad touching. However, that's stuff we've taught since she was young. I'm sure her school teaches it as well because I'd imagine it's part of some required curiculum.

 

[CEDmom]

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How cute is that?

The school really made a big deal out of this on "Back To School Night" and kind of caught my DD and her DH off guard because of the way it was handled in her former school..

"Daddy" comes from a VERY modest family and I don't think he knew the "proper" terms until he learned them from his buddies..

I can understand how he's feeling. I made myself teach DD the correct terms. They don't come naturally for me either.

Maybe the school has had issues or knows of issues in other districts so they want to make sure it's covered. I think it's a smart thing to do but it does make a lot of people uncomfortable.

 

[NMAmy]

DD has known the proper names since she's been old enough to ask. It's always seemed pretty silly to me to call body parts by cutesy names--maybe because growing up, my mom always called things by their proper names. My ex's mom is a retired ob/gyn so he'd always called things by their proper names as well.

 

[beckmrk04]

I plan on teaching my children the proper names for their genitals. I don't think it's that big of a deal- it's what I call them and what doctors call them...

But, CEDmom- the 'gina store is cracking me up!!!

 

[CEDmom]

I plan on teaching my children the proper names for their genitals. I don't think it's that big of a deal- it's what I call them and what doctors call them...

But, CEDmom- the 'gina store is cracking me up!!!

Given all you've been through you deserve a laugh. I've been waiting for a reason to tell that story. It's one of my favorites because she was so serious about it . It's all DH could do to thank her without busting a gut.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Given all you've been through you deserve a laugh. I've been waiting for a reason to tell that story. It's one of my favorites because she was so serious about it . It's all DH could do to thank her without busting a gut.

So did you get DH his own 'gina?

 

[Jenn Lynn]

LOL, CEDmom!

We use proper names for body parts as well.

 

[poohandwendy]

I remember hearing of a number of cases where children were sexually abused and defense attorneys for the accused would often use the argument that children that young would not know the proper terms for such body parts or sexual activities and therefore must have been "coached"..

Any thoughts on this?

It would take alot more than knowledge of the proper terms for body parts for a defense atty to have a legit argument of abuse.

My kids have always known the proper words for their body parts, I saw no reason to skirt around the issue.

 

[phillybeth]

I don't think kids necessarily need to know the medical terms for body parts. HOWEVER, please do not used 'cutesy' terms- call them private parts, or girl/boy parts, or something that gets the point across.

The reason is: I was involved in a child sexual assault case where a little girl had been taught to call her girl parts her 'flower'. She had told her daycare teacher repeatedly that her uncle touched her flower, but because the teacher didn't know that to this child, flower= girl parts, the abuse went unreported- until the child wound up with a gonorrhea infection in her THROAT.

So please parents, don't use cutesy terms.

 

[poohandwendy]

I don't think kids necessarily need to know the medical terms for body parts. HOWEVER, please do not used 'cutesy' terms- call them private parts, or girl/boy parts, or something that gets the point across.

The reason is: I was involved in a child sexual assault case where a little girl had been taught to call her girl parts her 'flower'. She had told her daycare teacher repeatedly that her uncle touched her flower, but because the teacher didn't know that to this child, flower= girl parts, the abuse went unreported- until the child wound up with a gonorrhea infection in her THROAT.

So please parents, don't use cutesy terms.

That is really, really sad. I can't imagine how horrible the teacher must have felt. That would haunt me.

 

[piratesmate]

Our kids didn't learn the proper terms in school. Those terms were not used until 11th grade health, by which time you'd sure hope they already knew.

However, we always used proper terms with them from the time they could talk. It started with DS - who was always one of those kids who was "2 going on 40" if you know what I mean. When he started school I used to get complaints from the teachers that no one could understand him, because of his vocabulary.

The first day of 1st grade he asked to use the bathroom. But his teacher had a habit of asking the children why they wanted to use the bathroom. I guess she thought they'd 'fess up if they were just going in to play? Unfortunately, we didn't know this before he started school or we'd have prepared him for it.

Well, of course she asked DS "why" & he told her he needed "to defecate" - she got quite flustered. The rest of the class didn't know what he was talking about, but when someone asked if that was a bad word (based on her reaction I'd guess) she told DS he wasn't allowed to use that word in school anymore. By this time, he'd figured out that he was in trouble so he was afraid to use another term...but she still insisted on having him say what he wanted to use the bathroom for - "but properly". He finally asked if he was allowed to say "poop".

I honestly wouldn't have believed the story had the teacher not confirmed it at back to school night. She continued to complain all year about his vocabulary. I had no clue I'd screw up my child's socialization skills by speaking to him like I did other adults. Although my DDIL told me last year that she still can't understand half of what he says.

 

[aprilgail2]

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So please parents, don't use cutesy terms.

Since my daughter was little she knew the proper names for male and female parts. I HATE cutesy names. My friend told her son that it was called a Frosty and that was how he referred to it....until the day they went to Wendys and they asked him if he wanted his frost now or later and he SO confused about what she was talking about. Another friend calls it "peeps"...yea,,...Easter time must be very confusing for that poor kid!! I see no point in calling it anything other than what it is..you have an arm, a leg, eyes, nose, ******, ***** etc....

 

[CEDmom]

So did you get DH his own 'gina?

The mall was all out, they should be getting a new shipment any day .