We have done the rays in Grand Cayman twice. Once with DD so I think she will be ok here. She just put her feet out of the boat in grand cayman.... but we will see. I would love to do the parasailing! DH brother drowned when he was 17 and DH mother drilled a fear of water so great into DH it is really a challenge for him to even snorkle. I was a lifeguard and DD is an excellent swimmer, so I can watch them both, but it would not be worth it for me to push DH that hard considering how hard it is for him to push through the fear. We usually trade off fears because I am scared of horseback riding and he is a pro. So I do one really scary thing, then he does. But DD is too young for all those activities. He has really been an incredibly good sport with me and is actually much more comfortable in water than he was when i married him...
Kim