1 in 4 Married Couples Sleep in Separate Beds

[fraggle551]

Read this article and thought it was very interesting. I knew some people did, but had no idea it was so popular. What does everyone think of this?

I for one am not yet married, but when I am I would hope to be sharing a bed with my husband.

http://www.today.msnbc.msn.com/id/38410209/ns/today-the_new_york_times?GT1=43001

 

[NHdisneylover]

I voted yes because when we are both in the same location we do. I almost voted other though because DH travels 40 weeks a year

 

[harleyquinn]

This same topic was on here recently.

I co-sleep with my daughter and my husband sleeps in another room. I'd love to keep this arrangement forever, cuz I sleep WAY better with her than I ever did with him. He snores and moves constantly and I'm a light sleeper who has trouble falling asleep.

It works for us and we're still very happy and very much in love. Probably moreso than when we slept together.

 

[Sgt Mickey]

Yes we sleep in the same bed. I couldn't imagine not.

 

[NMAmy]

I was aware of this from prior threads but it did surprise me. DH snores but I'm okay with that. It's gotten so I can't sleep if it's too quiet--when he stops snoring, it wakes me up. We share a full-sized bed which is not very usual either.

 

[Angelhalo]

We sleep together. My parents sleep separately because my dad snores and they don't like the same type of mattress and can't afford a sleep number bed.

 

[shortbun]

Yes we sleep in the same bed. I couldn't imagine not.

This. The only time we sleep apart is when someone is very sick and contagious.

 

[FayeW]

I read the poll question too quickly and answered incorrectly. I am one of the "no" answers, but it should have been yes.

Perhaps it was Freudian, though, because if we had a spare room we would sleep separately, or rather, after he fell into blissful, snoring slumber I would go to another room. Half of the time I end up on the couch anyway either from the snoring or the alarm going off every 5 mins, for 45 mins, every morning.

 

[maslex]

I voted other BECAUSE.....

I have trouble sleeping "lying down" for any periods of time. So most of the time I start off in the same bed with DH but I usually leave the bed after only a couple of hours and head to the living room where I spend the rest of the night on my recliner. I do not recline in the chair at all though LOL I will put the foot rest up and just sleep like that. I had a friend who use to sleep like this (due to a back problem also) and I always thought he was NUTS but let me tell you something.....sleeping like that is the BEST sleep that I get.

I also have a major problem sleeping in the same room with him because of his snoring and breathing. I pretty sure that he has sleep apnea, but he refuses to go to the doctors. But that's another story....Plus he likes to sleep in a quiet room while I like to sleep with white noise going on (a fan).

I can truly see in the future when the boys move out that we have our own rooms. LOL

 

[Rupert B Puppenstein]

Most of the time we sleep separately. He snores and stays up a lot later than I do and I cannot function without a lot of sleep. Plus, we have a ton of animals that love to cuddle. If they are all on one bed, it turns into a Sauna which he is happy with - not so much for me. So, we each have our groups and everyone gets sleep. When we are on vacation, we always sleep in the same bed. He doesn't snore on vacation usually.

 

[escape]

Most of the time we sleep separately. He snores and stays up a lot later than I do and I cannot function without a lot of sleep. Plus, we have a ton of animals that love to cuddle. If they are all on one bed, it turns into a Sauna which he is happy with - not so much for me. So, we each have our groups and everyone gets sleep. When we are on vacation, we always sleep in the same bed. He doesn't snore on vacation usually.

This is us half of the time except I'm the one who stays up late and have the animals with me during the night. When we go on vacation, however, we usually get two beds. Most of our "vacations" lately have been for running events and he's such a light sleeper, always tossing and turning, and I need my sleep.

 

[Poohbear123]

No he is 70, and I am much younger, and he sleeps with the dogs in a full size bed, and I have the Queen with the thick foam mattress topper that HE cannot get on or off of!

 

[palmtreegirl]

This. The only time we sleep apart is when someone is very sick and contagious.

Same here

 

[disneyfans95]

That is horrible to be sleeping apart from your SO.

My wife and I still snuggle up at night under the covers. 15 years of marriage.

I feel bad for couples that sleep apart. What a sad marriage they must have.

 

[ElizK]

I voted "other". In the last year we have spent more time sleeping seperately than together because I am a very light sleeper, and he snores. At certain times of the year we can go back to sharing. He doesn't snore as much in the winter (or I sleep more deeply, so it doesn't bother me). I'm not happy with our arrangement, but we were both unhappy with our poor sleep quality when we shared.

 

[Hutchy]

When he's home we sleep together. Right now he's on the other side of the world for a year. I get so used to having the bed to myself that there are times when he comes home I wish he would sleep on the sofa. Horrible I know! lol After our next move we will be getting a king size sleep number and I think that will solve a lot of our problems!

 

[Pakey]

That is horrible to be sleeping apart from your SO.

My wife and I still snuggle up at night under the covers. 15 years of marriage.

I feel bad for couples that sleep apart. What a sad marriage they must have.

Been happily married for almost 26 years now.

We have slept in separate rooms for 3 years now. Between the dogs and my medication condition, we both sleep better having our own space.

 

[Angelhalo]

That is horrible to be sleeping apart from your SO.

My wife and I still snuggle up at night under the covers. 15 years of marriage.

I feel bad for couples that sleep apart. What a sad marriage they must have.

Well that was rude

My parents don't have a sad marriage. They are happier because my mom isn't kept awake all night by my dad's snoring.

 

[stsomewhere]

I voted other. My DH travels for work and scouts.

He tosses and turns all night long. Plus, he is a loud snorer. If we had room, I would have separate beds in our bedroom. I do not sleep well when he is there. I try to go to bed 3 hours before him -so I can get some sleep.

 

[Planogirl]

Well that was rude

My parents don't have a sad marriage. They are happier because my mom isn't kept awake all night by my dad's snoring.

I think that it was rude too. People have different needs and it's unfair to be so judgmental.

DH and I have slept apart for many years. He snores like a freight train and nothing he's ever done (sleep studies, surgery, etc) has made a difference.