1 in 4 Married Couples Sleep in Separate Beds

[disneyfans95]

It's not your view that makes it rude. It's the words you choose to express it.

For that then, I do apologize.

 

[blanq]

DH and I have been married for 26 years and we do sleep in the same bed. He is a shift worker though, and about 7 nights out of each month he is sleeping solo during the day and I am sleeping solo at night. Otherwise, we are together.

 

[Tracy Savage]

I saw this report on the Today show the other morning and I was so relieved. It meant we are somewhat normal. DH and I have different schedules but even when we had the same schedule, we wouldn't sleep together. I require totally dark conditions and white noise only (a fan is on year round) in order to go to sleep. He needs the tv on. It takes me about 45 min to an hour (on a good night, and thats with OTC sleep meds) to go to sleep and it takes him about 2 minutes. This man has fallen asleep in the living room while holding the remote to turn the channel!!! And not just once, but at least 3 or 4 times recently. It was at a point where I became concerned that he had some sort of condition.

This is my husband and I too!

 

[robinb]

I voted other. My DH travels 4-5 days per week so I don't sleep with him most of the week. The other part of the week I do sleep with him but I have been thisclose to buying another bed and sleeping in another room. His snoring, heavy and uneven breathing keeps me awake and it annoys her heck out of me that HE is asleep but keeping me up at the same time. Like other souses, he won't see a sleep specialist even though he has been told by doctors and anesthesiologists that he should.

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

My husband and I sleep in the same bed. We've only been married for 3 months, and so far no incompatible sleeping habits from either one of us.

What does DH mean? I'm thinking Disney Husband?

 

[Rora]

DH and I share a bed.

 

[PUZZLDY5]

DH means dear husband.
Anyway. My DH and I don't share a bed because he was disgnosed disabled a year ago and since then has developed a spuratic sleeping pattern and likes to fall asleep with the tv on and loud. I don't care if the tv is on but it can't be loud. So to SAVE my marriage and my sanity I moved into the spare bedroom. It has nothing to do with how much I love my husband.

 

[Piglets Mommy]

We start out in the same bed, but are both light sleepers, so often, one of us will wake up and go to the spare room to watch TV and sleep there. We used to end up waking each other up, by tossing and turning, thinking that if we didn't sleep in the same bed all night, we'd have a bad marriage. We discovered that we had a better marriage if we slept apart at times, because then we can actually sleep....makes us both much easier to get along with!

 

[arubio0801]

I think unless your "old" then you should and if you don't then I think pretty much the marriage is pretty much over!! IMOO

 

[JessicaR]

I think unless your "old" then you should and if you don't then I think pretty much the marriage is pretty much over!! IMOO

And by old you mean over 25 right?

 

[AristocatFan]

Yes, when we can. DH works in Dallas, TX through the week and is only home on weekends. But then sometimes on those nights his back gets to hurting and he's more comfortable moving to the couch. We so need a new mattress but can't afford one right now.

 

[disneyfans95]

I think unless your "old" then you should and if you don't then I think pretty much the marriage is pretty much over!! IMOO

Correct

Two things that ruin a good marriage..

Sleeping apart and keeping your bank accounts apart.

If you do either/both, you won't have a very strong marriage. Not saying you can't get it to work, but you are making it much harder and you are not as happy as other couples who do share both. Again, this is my opinion, so before people go off the deep end and say I am being rude, I am just saying what I feel and not picking on anyone.

 

[HelenePA]

I think unless your "old" then you should and if you don't then I think pretty much the marriage is pretty much over!! IMOO

What do you do while your sleeping that makes it so important to be together? I know when I'm sleeping, I'm asleep thus not really requiring to do anything. Its what you do while your both conscious that's more important IMOO

What happens when your old to make it any different? so only when your close to death should you get a good nights sleep?

 

[Mrs. Charming]

We share a bed, but I definitely wouldn't mind a King size bed.

 

[HelenePA]

And by old you mean over 25 right?

I'm old (very old) and I guess its okay for us not to sleep together

 

[NMAmy]

Correct

Two things that ruin a good marriage..

Sleeping apart and keeping your bank accounts apart.

If you do either/both, you won't have a very strong marriage. Not saying you can't get it to work, but you are making it much harder and you are not as happy as other couples who do share both. Again, this is my opinion, so before people go off the deep end and say I am being rude, I am just saying what I feel and not picking on anyone.

Oddly enough, for me personally, I agree that sleeping together and joint accounts work best for DH and I even if we are old. However, your delivery sucks.

You have absolutely no way of knowing if other couples are unhappier or happier than you are so why would you even use that as part of your argument?

 

[JessicaR]

I'm old (very old) and I guess its okay for us not to sleep together

Me too! I'm trying to figure out why old people dont have to sleep together.

 

[Kae]

Correct

Two things that ruin a good marriage..

Sleeping apart and keeping your bank accounts apart.

If you do either/both, you won't have a very strong marriage. Not saying you can't get it to work, but you are making it much harder and you are not as happy as other couples who do share both. Again, this is my opinion, so before people go off the deep end and say I am being rude, I am just saying what I feel and not picking on anyone.

And I have to nicely disagree. And DH & I do sleep in the same bed & have joint accounts.

Kae

 

[HelenePA]

Me too! I'm trying to figure out why old people dont have to sleep together.

Alot of old people have problems with incontinence... maybe that's why? or some are senile... maybe its okay cuz they dont remember who they are?

 

[Meriweather]

We do sleep in the same bed....but king size.
There was about 2 years that we didn't because his snoring was so bad. But he finally got his C-PAP machine and all is good now.