OK..I need to vent alittle. Hope you guys understand. Today is DS's 24th birthday..sigh..my baby is getting older

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Now, I married his SP(sperm Donor) when I was 20. We were together from 81 until I finally left in 84 when DS's were 18 months and 6 months. I knew at the time that he was just gonna disappear and not be apart of their lives. I also knew that his family would do the same. My brother had met my mil at one point when I went to get the rest of our things, and he said wow..she is nice, I am sure she is gonna keep in touch. I looked at my brother and laughed. I said no, she wont. MIL did not like me. I think most of it was that I was Jewish, she was German born and her father was an SS officer. Nuff said... She and her current husband and 3 kids didn't even come to our wedding. We were married by a Rabbi in Temple...they went camping instead. SD and his mom had a bad relationship to begin with. If anythign I made him contact her at time. Anyway...I left SD and took my kids and moved in with my parents who helped me raise them. No bday cards for kids no nothing. SP called once about seeing the kids when they were 3 and 4, and I said fine, but under certain conditions..nuetral place, your slut of the day can't be near them...things like that. Well, he never called back. Ex-mil never called for years.
Now I was remarried, DS's were 12 and 13, and I get a call from my brother in NY. MIL called him (my maiden name is uncommon and she got lucky). Brother was smart and said I can't give you her number, but I can give your number to her and she can call you. I was honeslty hoping she was calling to tell me that SP was dead, and there was insurance money!!

No such luck, her youngest DD Shari was thinking about her 2 nephews that she hasn't seen in 13 years, so ex-mil tried to track me down. Well as far as I was concerned... too little too late, and your DD wanted to know..not her. That was my last contact with them.
Now I had all their info for when DS's were old enough and wanted to contact them. Now also understand, I never bad mouthed any of them to my DS's. Basically nothing was said, if they asked, I gave honest answers, of I don't know where they are, or why they didn't keep intouch. Oh, and during all this time I never received 1 red cent in child support.
I also had my DS's last name legally changed to my maiden name.
Now..to current times of this saga. Last year DS (oldest) got an myspace message, and asked me if he had an Aunt named Shari. Seems like they made contact

. I really had no issue with the Aunts and uncles, I mean they couldn't cotnrol what their mom did. But I really HATE my ex-mil. And DS has visited them and he knows I am not happy about it, but it is his life he is an adult and can make his own choices. But today being his birthday, he gets a card from that women. ARGH!! I want to shred it and burn..I won't..but I want to. As far as I am concerned she gave up all rights to them years ago. My other DS wants nothign to do with any of them. DS asked Ex-MIL questions concerning me, but she wouldn't asnwer them. I am hoping 1 day she does and DS just writes her off. My biggest concern is when DS gets married. I DO NOT watn this women at my son's wedding. My mom sacrificed and gave everythign she had druing my marriage to her dirtbag son, and until the day she died. This women doesn't have the right to see the fine men both my sons have become, courtsey of me, my mom, my DH and my current in-laws. And I can't not go to my DS's wedding if she does..but I don't want to be in the same room with her. I really hope that when DS plans his wedding to my future DIL (we adore her btw and no, they aren't engaged yet), that they elope!!
Now we tracked down the SD years ago, and he is uggh... lets just say..life is it's own revenge

. I have 4 beautiful children..husband home, family, and he is miserable

. Oh, and he still hasn't sent a dime!!
Sigh..ok, thanks for letting me vent this saga!!