pryncess527
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- May 26, 2013
I wonder how many will be shaking their heads on the way home judging what she did and didn't do at her wedding by her own choice? It's good your co-worker has people around her telling her not to worry about it, but it appears she's gonna come to the attention of at least a few individuals if she does anything they don't agree with. I had no idea all this finger waving and silent judging was going on at all the weddings and events I've attended.
I'd be shocked if it were much. There is a difference between wedding traditions like the first dance, dance with her father, throwing the bouquet, garter, etc. and wedding etiquette "rules" regarding invites, hosting, and gifts which are about making your guests comfortable. A bride who does not want a specific tradition is just expressing a personal preference. A bride who makes a choice that is perceived to be rude or to cause discomfort to her guests is another story. Although as this thread makes clear, what sorts of behavior will be perceived as rude or causing discomfort might vary significantly by social group.