I'm pretty new to the boards, and I honestly spend most of my time reading the posts and just a little bit of time asking questions or opinion here and there. For the most part I've seen people answering questions in a kind manner and stating their opinions, whether for or against the OP politely and without judgement. I'm disappointed in the responses received by the OP in this thread.
She has every right to ask a question, even if deep down she already knows the answer or has made her decision. She's obviously torn both ways by this topic and just wants to hear some kind advice (whether criticisim or not). I can understand her feelings both ways and I'm sure she has her reasons for taking the two older children. Maybe she wants to give the two older ones some extra attention, maybe the two younger ones are "difficult" to handle by just her and her husband. Whatever it is, parents inflict enough guilt on themselves daily without others making it worse by their judgemental attitudes.
OP - you do what's best for your family and know that either way, the children will survive and go on to have wonderful vacations together as they get older. Good luck!
She has every right to ask a question, even if deep down she already knows the answer or has made her decision. She's obviously torn both ways by this topic and just wants to hear some kind advice (whether criticisim or not). I can understand her feelings both ways and I'm sure she has her reasons for taking the two older children. Maybe she wants to give the two older ones some extra attention, maybe the two younger ones are "difficult" to handle by just her and her husband. Whatever it is, parents inflict enough guilt on themselves daily without others making it worse by their judgemental attitudes.
OP - you do what's best for your family and know that either way, the children will survive and go on to have wonderful vacations together as they get older. Good luck!