ronandannette
I gave myself this tag and I "Like" myself too!
- Joined
- May 4, 2006
Let's work this backwards - there's been lots of threads about this issue from the perspective of the parents:
"My DS and future DDIL are mature adults and live independent lives in a city away from ours. They have planned an interesting wedding to suit their own style, with no input from us. Up until now there has not been any discussion between us about how it will be paid for. We are greatly looking forward to the event and would like to contribute but don't know what might be appropriate. We're not familiar with how much these arrangements cost, nor are we sure we're able to cover any specific item due to our own personal circumstances (that DS may or may not be aware of). What should we do??"
If this was the question, most of us would tell the parents to decide for themselves how much they are able and willing to give, and to offer it as a lump-sum to be used as the couple sees fit (no strings attached). That scenario tends be the simplest with the best odds of an uncomplicated outcome. Congratulations!
"My DS and future DDIL are mature adults and live independent lives in a city away from ours. They have planned an interesting wedding to suit their own style, with no input from us. Up until now there has not been any discussion between us about how it will be paid for. We are greatly looking forward to the event and would like to contribute but don't know what might be appropriate. We're not familiar with how much these arrangements cost, nor are we sure we're able to cover any specific item due to our own personal circumstances (that DS may or may not be aware of). What should we do??"
If this was the question, most of us would tell the parents to decide for themselves how much they are able and willing to give, and to offer it as a lump-sum to be used as the couple sees fit (no strings attached). That scenario tends be the simplest with the best odds of an uncomplicated outcome. Congratulations!