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- Jul 11, 2004
Great, he graduated yesterday.
Oh wow!! Congrats!!! Where does the time go???
Great, he graduated yesterday.
There's a minimum I give (I'm guessing most people here have one), regardless of the venue (but again, there are NO yard weddings here). I only gave DH's cousin $100, only because the wedding was in NW MA, backyard, and they gave us candlesticks, and I didn't want them to be uncomfortable. Loved the candlesticks, BTW. I would NEVER have expected them to give us money, because it's not the norm in their region.
I don't know why people are offended by this. I'm not offended that people have cake receptions, give toasters, or have cash bars, in other areas. I've never gone to a wedding reception with less than a $200 check (college days) - I would never give a $30 gift, and don't know anyone who would here.
What would you all do? I was kinda shocked when I got the invite and I know I cannont ask the family for ideas without being looked down upon...
I'm not offended by my custom being referred to as a "NJ" thing.
I totally did not mean that in a disparaging way. I just never heard of it before my family in NJ was talking about it, then when my nieces and nephew were planning their weddings, it was clear they expected money to cover the meals.
My NJ family thinks that buying off the registry is a Carolina thing (but they all registered anyway, I guess for the benefit of us Southerners).
I totally did not mean that in a disparaging way. I just never heard of it before my family in NJ was talking about it, then when my nieces and nephew were planning their weddings, it was clear they expected money to cover the meals.
My NJ family thinks that buying off the registry is a Carolina thing (but they all registered anyway, I guess for the benefit of us Southerners).
They took our invitation and matted it and framed it. The frame is inexpensive and I'm sure they found the matching matt, standard size, at a craft store and put it all together themselves. They did use brown paper to glue around the back of the frame and attached a hook for hanging.
I just feel like they took the time and love to make us this special gift. We'll be married for 10 years this August and we have moved 3 times since our wedding. The picture is still hanging in our home.
So... just a thought for a gift idea. I am sure you could put it together for under $10.00 and it would cost waaay more if you had if professionally done.
-Sarah
Silly you! Of course we register for gifts - how else would people know what to buy for the shower! Thanks to these boards, I know it's a very regional thing - never heard of punch, mints, or just cake at weddings - probably a lot easier, but I'm guessing the cost is about the same, when you factor in the cost of the reception, against the gifts.
Okay, now since everyone is comparing traditions at weddings, and some have never heard of punch/mints or just cake... it makes me wonder this...
How many places don't do the dollar dance? You know, where you pay to dance with the bride/groom?
This is so interesting to hear all the different "norms" in different places.
Reminds me of when we went to TN for the first time and I asked what kind of pop they had at dinner and they said uhhhh.. OH you mean soda?
I am actually wondering if there is even a plate to cover? It is at 2pm, so I am thinking maybe Cake only? Anyways, out here it is mostly registery gifts, not money. My wedding I did get some money, bt gifts were the norm. Interesting how it is in different parts.
Southerner here too. Never heard of Cover Your Plate, but I can understand that its customary in certain parts of the country.
Speaking of customs, and I don't mean to hijack this thread but many answers have already been given to the OP so maybe its ok (?).....
I know its not a light topic, but this thread made me think of it.....
Here in the South, especially where I am, it is 'customary' or 'traditional' to take food to the funeral home when someone dies. The thought is that the family is there all day and having food available is a nice gesture to do. It allows them to not have to worry about what to eat or having to leave to go eat. We take everything from KFC, cakes, desserts, finger foods, tea and other drinks, etc. At my grandfathers funeral I made a pot of turnip greens and took because it is a family favorite. Anyone can eat, not just the immediate family. Its not done as a celebration, rather as an act of kindness in helping a family who is aready sufferng. We also take food to their homes during a death as well.
A few years ago, my 19 year old neighbor shot himself. We took fried chicken and 2 cases of Pepsi's to his mothers house. My mother and father then gave them $300 to help with the cost of the burial.
My husband was appalled at this when we got together as he had never heard of it. Im curious to see if this goes on at other parts of the country too.
Southerner here too. Never heard of Cover Your Plate, but I can understand that its customary in certain parts of the country.
Speaking of customs, and I don't mean to hijack this thread but many answers have already been given to the OP so maybe its ok (?).....
I know its not a light topic, but this thread made me think of it.....
Here in the South, especially where I am, it is 'customary' or 'traditional' to take food to the funeral home when someone dies. The thought is that the family is there all day and having food available is a nice gesture to do. It allows them to not have to worry about what to eat or having to leave to go eat. We take everything from KFC, cakes, desserts, finger foods, tea and other drinks, etc. At my grandfathers funeral I made a pot of turnip greens and took because it is a family favorite. Anyone can eat, not just the immediate family. Its not done as a celebration, rather as an act of kindness in helping a family who is aready sufferng. We also take food to their homes during a death as well.
A few years ago, my 19 year old neighbor shot himself. We took fried chicken and 2 cases of Pepsi's to his mothers house. My mother and father then gave them $300 to help with the cost of the burial.
My husband was appalled at this when we got together as he had never heard of it. Im curious to see if this goes on at other parts of the country too.