anorviel
Earning My Ears
- Joined
- Apr 25, 2011
First, wow, lots of us in the same boat! Misery loves company!
I guess what I quoted is what bugs me....that to me sounds like "so you're 40, accept that you are no longer attractive" I'm sure that's not what the post meant, but that's what I mean. I don't feel all of a sudden not pretty anymore, I don't feel like my body is falling apart, and I know I could get away saying I'm in my early 30's if I chose to.
I do like that I'm not interested in staying out all night anymore, I will like a band now even if they aren't "cool", I have no desire to go to the coolest bar anymore and I'm happy to stay in more, but still love to hang out in my dive bars when I feel like it. Things like silver strands in my hair don't bother me at all. Today I wore a dress with my Vans (gym shoes). It's an outfit I would have worn when I was young, but I still dress like that now.
I got carded the other day for wine, then the checkout lady said "time is treating you very well" and it should have been a compliment to me, but all I heard was "wow, you're old, thank god you don't look it" or something like that.
I can't put into words what's bothering me really, it's just that stupid number.
I'm just being vain and silly, I realize that. I'm not one to freak out about anything much (other than my pets), so I'm allowing myself to wallow for a while. And I think it's great there's a bunch of you who never felt like this and I know there's nothing I can do, it's better than the alternative, age is just a number, but still....ugh!
This too shall pass...I have no choice!
Thanks all!
Oh my goodness! That's not what I meant at all! And I guess I should have clarified - I didn't mean I'm confident all the time or that I don't look at myself and wonder where my 20-year old self went. I do chafe at being 40. And I did indeed feel how you do now and I don't think it's vain and silly. But I'm also almost a year into being 40 and apparently that condition isn't going to change.
I took your original post to mean that you were feeling like 40 means packing it in, throwing on a pair of elastic waist jeans, and calling your sexy self done. What I meant in my response is that that is not the case at all and that there's a certain amount of confidence that comes as we get older. It was meant as a good thing. You're the only one who can decide if she's going to pack it in and I'm getting that you don't want to do that.
You can wallow and I am happy to hand you a glass of wine and mourn the passing of time with you. But there are good things that are associated with the passage of time and I was just trying to convey that. I meant no disrespect to how you're feeling at all.
Ann