I watched This is 40 and one of the things that stood out to me was when she said she didn't want to shop in the old people stores like Chicos... But I'm turning 40 and freaking out!! I don't feel 40, I don't look 40, but I don't want to be a 40 year old that still is dressing/acting like she's in her 20's!! But I'm not ready to wear khakis and button down shirts and be done with it all either! It's so hard now, I don't feel different. My friends and I who are late 30's/early 40's feel the same as we used to! I'm not married, but live with my boyfriend. We have no children and no plans to. I hear other women at work who are my age and my life sounds so different than theirs. They seem old to me, and I look at myself and I don't see them in me. I mean I've changed in that I'm not out in bars every night and my idea of a great night is now a long, late dinner at a fantastic restaurant, but I'm not dead! I never, ever thought I would be this person, who didn't want to admit their age, but here I am! Apparently women are no longer attractive, should pretty much cut off their hair, buy mom jeans and be done with it when they are 40? You read as much on this board. I fully realize I'm in the midst of a meltdown, my boyfriend just left to go buy a bottle of wine and I will get over this. Just had to get it out Anyone else have a 40 freak out????