So, venting
My DS's school rang my DH today because the little fella got a fat lip while playing tag in the playground.
But when DS is telling me the story of how it happened it turns out the kid slapped him across the face
I am madder than a cut snake.
This is the 4th incident with a student this year.
1st one was a kid stole his money out of his hand in the classroom
2nd was another kid in his class yelling at him and pushing him around
3rd was pushed in the mud by same kid two days in a row
4th slapped in the face playing a game of tag
My DS isn't an angel but he's a pretty good kid, and clever (the bully in his class doesn't yell at him anymore because he helps him with his schoolwork ) and he's small.
Might be the end of big holidays for a while, because i'm probably putting him in another school which may cost alot more than where he goes now
So, venting
My DS's school rang my DH today because the little fella got a fat lip while playing tag in the playground.
But when DS is telling me the story of how it happened it turns out the kid slapped him across the face
I am madder than a cut snake.
This is the 4th incident with a student this year.
1st one was a kid stole his money out of his hand in the classroom
2nd was another kid in his class yelling at him and pushing him around
3rd was pushed in the mud by same kid two days in a row
4th slapped in the face playing a game of tag
My DS isn't an angel but he's a pretty good kid, and clever (the bully in his class doesn't yell at him anymore because he helps him with his schoolwork ) and he's small.
Might be the end of big holidays for a while, because i'm probably putting him in another school which may cost alot more than where he goes now
So... have just been to the Dr.
A couple of weeks ago, when my DS was away in Canberra on a school trip. I had to take over the dog feeding duties. One night I knelt down to put the dog food in the bowl and heard this massive pop.
That did not sound good I said to myself. Over the next couple of days i had a very sore knee, that seemed to go from under me when I walked. But it did settle down.
Last friday I went for coffee with a friend and the coffee shop had these stupid couches that were really low, so when you sat down, it was way lower than you expected and we both went, Woooo as we sat and seemed to fall for ever. It was hard to sit in the couches and I think getting up I kind of crunched my knee again. So friday afternoon/evening my knee was getting sore. By Saturday morning I could not walk. Well I could not bend my knee. It was so sore and swollen. It isn't sore when I am not moving it, just when I try to bend it.
So it's been almost a week and I was working/vouluneering yesterday at a local charity and it was the first day since that I had been on my feet for an extended time. Up until then, whenever I'm home I try to keep it up as much as possible. Well it blew up like a balloon yesterday and they were all saying that I should go and get it looked at.
Never having had knee issues before, i just expected it was some sort of stretched muscle and would heal eventually. But after nagging and the way it was so sore last night after being on it all day. I decided to head to the Dr this morning!
Told the Dr what was wrong... showed him where it was sore, how it goes from under me when I walk down the stairs, kind of seems to want to flick out to the side when I walk, can't bend it, very swollen etc!
He has told me that I have done some major damage, I'm booked in for an MRI next week and at the end of the week he has booked me in to an Orthopaedic surgeon. Not liking the sound of that! Don't want surgery!
So... have just been to the Dr. ...
He has told me that I have done some major damage, I'm booked in for an MRI next week and at the end of the week he has booked me in to an Orthopaedic surgeon. Not liking the sound of that! Don't want surgery!
So, venting
My DS's school rang my DH today because the little fella got a fat lip while playing tag in the playground.
But when DS is telling me the story of how it happened it turns out the kid slapped him across the face
I am madder than a cut snake.
This is the 4th incident with a student this year.
So, venting
My DS's school rang my DH today because the little fella got a fat lip while playing tag in the playground.
But when DS is telling me the story of how it happened it turns out the kid slapped him across the face
I am madder than a cut snake.
This is the 4th incident with a student this year.
1st one was a kid stole his money out of his hand in the classroom
2nd was another kid in his class yelling at him and pushing him around
3rd was pushed in the mud by same kid two days in a row
4th slapped in the face playing a game of tag
My DS isn't an angel but he's a pretty good kid, and clever (the bully in his class doesn't yell at him anymore because he helps him with his schoolwork ) and he's small.
Might be the end of big holidays for a while, because i'm probably putting him in another school which may cost alot more than where he goes now
While we are ranting,
My DD has just come in from having her first driving lesson with an instructor
Anyway the guy was beyond middle age, wearing fleecy track pants...
Apparently he spent the whole time telling her how much money he gave his kids, 50k each on their 21st, their first cars, 300 pw to survive at uni - and how terrible it was that she had to work part time for her own spending money.
TBH I dont believe any of it, but she hasnt shut up about it since - and how we are such terrble parents because we cant afford all of that.
I am laughing it all off - and I dont think she is serious (much) but its annoying me - and I think it was really unprofessional of the instructor. I have a mind to call the company and complain (the driving bit was OK though)
and since it seems to be rant day.. i'll add my rant to the pile...
so tuesday i get told at 10.50 that i have an 11am meeting with my manager and my manager's manager.
get pulled into an office in the middle of the company with glass walls, just the 3 of us and told very politely that i'm not meeting the requirements of my employment, and this is a formal hearing about my absenteeism. i'm warned that if it continues, 'disciplinary action' will be taken. my manager is there to take notes apparently.. this is a meeting where it is carefully explained that i have exceeded the allocated quota of leave, it's impacting the business and i need to shape up or ship out. they're not questioning the validity of my leave, but you know... it needs to stop.
then they ask for details. why was i taking so much leave? why have i not been doing my job? etc etc. i tell them the same thing i have told them all along. escalating medical issues leading to gall bladder infection, diagnosis, treatment and eventual removal. that was a kind of one time event. sure, it lasted the better part of approx 6 months from onset to extraction, but it's over. it's not like it's gonna grow back... yeah, they say, but what about the 2 days you had off last week? oh, you mean when i got electrocuted and couldn't use my hand/arm etc? that little thing? yeah... how was i supposed to control that one, genius?
but i smile and utter polite niceties about how i understand their position, and that i will agree to fortnightly meetings to monitor my absence... if i have one more day in the next 3 months, i'm gone... so come hell or high water or bubonic plague or car accident or missing limbs... i'm going to be at work as i don't relish having to look for a new job in this current climate.
i had to sign a document that says that i agree to their 'disciplinary action' if i have more leave... oh, and a project that i spearheaded and shepherded and freaking well implemented has been taken from me and given to someone else in the team.... because apparently if you've had a period of indefinite leave, it means that you don't get development opportunities til you're a better employee.
and i get it, i really do. they pay me to be at work and they don't pay me when i'm sick. but it's not like my gall bladder is going to grow back. i have a medical certificate for each absence (and those aren't cheap with the cost of visiting the doc these days) plus the loss of pay for each absence. i've complied with their leave policy and i disclosed to them details of my health that i wouldn't even share with family, all in the hopes of making them see that i am being completely open and honest about a genuine medical issue here... but all they see is the bottom line & # of days absent. so... that's where i am at.
oh, and i got my performance appraisal today. Exceeding expectations on every single performance criteria, and for some of them, exceeding the exceeding expectations criteria.
so on the one hand... i suck and they want me to shape up or ship out.
on the other hand... model employee.
Umm WT heck?and since it seems to be rant day.. i'll add my rant to the pile...
so tuesday i get told at 10.50 that i have an 11am meeting with my manager and my manager's manager.
get pulled into an office in the middle of the company with glass walls, just the 3 of us and told very politely that i'm not meeting the requirements of my employment, and this is a formal hearing about my absenteeism. i'm warned that if it continues, 'disciplinary action' will be taken. my manager is there to take notes apparently.. this is a meeting where it is carefully explained that i have exceeded the allocated quota of leave, it's impacting the business and i need to shape up or ship out. they're not questioning the validity of my leave, but you know... it needs to stop.
then they ask for details. why was i taking so much leave? why have i not been doing my job? etc etc. i tell them the same thing i have told them all along. escalating medical issues leading to gall bladder infection, diagnosis, treatment and eventual removal. that was a kind of one time event. sure, it lasted the better part of approx 6 months from onset to extraction, but it's over. it's not like it's gonna grow back... yeah, they say, but what about the 2 days you had off last week? oh, you mean when i got electrocuted and couldn't use my hand/arm etc? that little thing? yeah... how was i supposed to control that one, genius?
but i smile and utter polite niceties about how i understand their position, and that i will agree to fortnightly meetings to monitor my absence... if i have one more day in the next 3 months, i'm gone... so come hell or high water or bubonic plague or car accident or missing limbs... i'm going to be at work as i don't relish having to look for a new job in this current climate.
i had to sign a document that says that i agree to their 'disciplinary action' if i have more leave... oh, and a project that i spearheaded and shepherded and freaking well implemented has been taken from me and given to someone else in the team.... because apparently if you've had a period of indefinite leave, it means that you don't get development opportunities til you're a better employee.
and i get it, i really do. they pay me to be at work and they don't pay me when i'm sick. but it's not like my gall bladder is going to grow back. i have a medical certificate for each absence (and those aren't cheap with the cost of visiting the doc these days) plus the loss of pay for each absence. i've complied with their leave policy and i disclosed to them details of my health that i wouldn't even share with family, all in the hopes of making them see that i am being completely open and honest about a genuine medical issue here... but all they see is the bottom line & # of days absent. so... that's where i am at.
oh, and i got my performance appraisal today. Exceeding expectations on every single performance criteria, and for some of them, exceeding the exceeding expectations criteria.
so on the one hand... i suck and they want me to shape up or ship out.
on the other hand... model employee.
So true, I was also bullied at school and it never leaves you, although karma has come back to bite my bullies as one of them is a drug affected scum bag who is ****ed in the head, it's a pity she bred...I cant stand seeing the little ones getting bullied, I'm on it like a flash when I see it....why are we so cruel to each other?????
MY DH was bullied in yr 10,way before anti bullying policy was popular and he still relives the pain of it 25+ years later. It scars the soul.He only mentioned it again last night, so those wounds run deep, even with successful middle aged men.
So if I could ever get my hands on those guys who did it to him......but funny he bumped into one of them a few years ago...it turned out he was actually working as a contractor for DH, so karma is a B*tch...
So true, I was also bullied at school and it never leaves you, although karma has come back to bite my bullies as one of them is a drug affected scum bag who is ****ed in the head, it's a pity she bred...
and since it seems to be rant day.. i'll add my rant to the pile...
so tuesday i get told at 10.50 that i have an 11am meeting with my manager and my manager's manager...
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