I have about a billion cousins, one of them is an only child. Even when I was a little kid, I always felt sorry for her. She just seemed lonely. She was always sort of on the outside looking in around the rest of us. She never fit in. Her life was so different and she was never comfortable around all the energy and chaos the rest of us had on daily basis. Even though she had every toy imaginable and had her parent's undivided attention, her life was completely unappealing to me. Because of her, I knew at a young age that I would never have an only child on purpose.
I can't imagine growing up without my brother and sister. I remember staying up late watching the Three Stooges with them, whispering all night before we left for vacation because we were too excited to sleep, trick or treating, waking each other up on Christmas morning with screams of "Santa came! Santa came!" Playing together on rainy days, praying for school closings on snowy mornings. They both stood up with me on my wedding day and were there when all three of my kids were born, even my first child who was born in North Carolina over 1,000 miles away. I was my sister's matron of honor at her wedding and my brother stood up, too. We held each other up when Grandpa died, and did it again when when we lost Aunt Marilyn last year. We were there for each other when our parents seperated and rejoiced together when they worked things out. Sure, there have been times when we didn't get along (our fights are legendary)but when push comes to shove, they are my brother and sister. They are my family. Friends and cousins are great, they bring much love and joy to my life, but it is not the same. Sorry, but it just isn't.
I also cannot imagine my three kids growing up without each other. When I watch them interacting, playing, wrestling, and roaring with laughter together I know I made the right choice.
Adding to your family will only enhance your life and the lives of your entire family. I think a sibling is the best gift any parent can give a child.
That is a really beautiful explanation of the sibling experience. Thank you. I would add, too, that siblings are the only people in the world who truly understand what a pain in the rear your parents can be, even though you love 'em madly! You can say, "Oh, you know how mom (or Dad) is " and your sib can say, "Yup, I do."