Wow, just Wow, what a thread! I can't believe I've read it all, so far
I just have to say that we have been Disney fanatics for a long time. Our friends never understood it, but accepted it! We were asked for our info on all things Disney for years, and we gave it happily. The why and how we love it and all the wonderful times at Disney. Some got it, some didn't.
Now when people ask us, I find it difficult to try to explain all the changes a Disney vacation involves. When I say you have to make adr's 180 days in advance at certain parks you have to pick for that day, and you get penalized if you don't make it? They don't understand! What? you have to decide when and where you are going to eat that far in advance? on a vacation? (I know I know, you don't have to make adrs, but come on, get real, if you want to eat at your favorite sit down restaurant, you do have to) Then I try to explain the fp+ concept in addition to adr's. What, you have to set up 3 attractions for each park while you are there? (again, you don't Have to, but we all know you have to if you really want A&E, 7dmt, tSM, etc) I get the responses of," How do we know which park we will want to be in at 60 or 30 days out? What if the kids are sick, we just don't want to go to HS that day, change our plans and do a water park? There's no way to know that? Get real! By the time I get through fp plus, with restrictions such as tiering, they are shaking their heads at the amount of planning involved. Almost to a person, they say that Disney is too much planning for them. I tell them we still go, but yes, it is a lot of preplanning.
When someone who does not know about all this preplanning learns what hoops you have to jump just to go there, they are rightfully amazed!
Telling people all this now is a big change from what we used to tell them about Disney. It is just sad. The only ones who thought nothing of it were my daughterinlaw and family. She just said, yea but we are going. They paid a huge amount for the family, and when asking the grandkids what they did, I found out they did not really ride anything, esp the headliners. They did the 3rd rate, no=need for fp type of rides, and not many of them due to the lines. They were disappointed, but not to the point of us Disney veterans are. They just didn't know better. And they are one and done with Disney. Just not interested enough in a repeat because of the cost and experience.
This is what I think will ultimately hurt Disney in the future. The word of mouth is very important to a business. When the veterans such as us have difficulty trying to explain it all, what then? So, I think it is right that the people who are "recent years" visitors might be one and done too, or they might hang in there because they don't know the how it used to be with customer service, great meals, ambience, the importance of show, and just too much more that we have seen decline and have been mentioned over and over here.
I am saddened more than anything, but we are going this fall and hope that the decline doesn't continue as we have seen in recent years.