But what could we do? We couldn't let him end up on the street.
You need to put her in a home.
That is classic. I might have to steal this and get me a new ring tone
Why not?
Well, to be honest, if it were me, I would. But DH can't do that. I guess no matter what he is his father. I hate, hate, hate him being here. But I make the best of it because the last thing DH needs is me adding to his stress about the whole situation.
My FIL had to move in with us because he has nothing and did absolutely nothing to prepare for old age/retirement. He is the king of the entitlement mentality and just seems to have assumed that someone will always take care of him (and I guess he was right). He also has alcohol-induced dementia, so he can't be left alone for very long. He's like a giant 3 year old in some ways.
The worst part is that he was a HORRIBLE father to DH (never paid child support, went to prision, was emotionally abusive) so it's pretty stressful having him here in the house because there is so much underlying resentment of him by both DH and me. But what could we do? We couldn't let him end up on the street.
My in-laws and I have gotten along great for the last 3 years, it could be because they have both died and I stopped speaking to my DBIL at the funeral of my DFIL. Much less stress in my life.
My MIL on our wedding night gave us an envelope with a letter in it telling us how important s*x(wasn't sure if I could put the actual word) was and a "how to" description. She isn't really evil or anything she is just not a nice person.
I hope the results are not cancer for your MIL.
I have forgiven my mom for alot of the stuff, not forgotten. And you know, some people like your MIL have stuff happen that gives them a wake up call, but sadly that isn't always the case.
It is what it is. You can tell someone you are"sorry" but if you keep doing the same thing over and over again, then you are not. I have resigned this is how it is, I will continue to "have her back" I promised my DF i would take care of her, and in the end I know I did a dang good job when most people even my relatives would have just left her, I have to pay my aunt to stay here with her if I go on vacation.
Why do you say that? because it would be easier? because if it happened to you that is what you would do? and nursing homes I don't trust, we have all ready had 1 incident when she was in a rehab/nursing home they discharged her with a uti-and those are actually dangerous to older people. she was confused and then she fell the same day she was discharged ,i'm talking as soon as we came home. ambulance had to take her to the hospital and she had to go to another rehab after that.
Putting her in a home wouldn't change how she is. This isn't a case of a dementia/alzheimers' person who was sweet before then changed, she has always been the way she is, even before I was born, even before she met my DF, according to my aunt and her friends from years ago. And honestly, I don't have it in me to discard her like that. Have you ever been to a nursing home and seen the patients who's relatives don't have anything to do with them for whatever reason?
There is no one else, my aunt lives in Florida, everyone else has passed on,moved away or not have anything to do with her. I am only child and thank God for that-because I would have had to take care of myself and a sibling.
OMG I forgot about the book that MIL gave us the night before the wedding! I'll have to dig it up.. it's from around 1965 (no exageration) and it's an instruction manual on how "good christian newlyweds" should have sex. It's hysterical. I'm pretty sure most adults know how the mechanics work, virgin or not. It took everything inside of me after flipping through it to say, "Wait.. that goes WHERE?!" I hope you know that if you have sex for any reasons other than procreating, you're going to hell. Just a heads up.. the book told me so.