I totally disagree that a big scholl is just more to offer. The environment, the classes, etc., are totally different. People like a big school, people hate a big school; if you're going to be living there for four years, taking classes, etc., you're not going to do well if it's an environment you hate.
Big schools absolutely have more to offer: Greater selection in majors, professors, housing, travel, internships, jobs, social opportunities. Big schools often have the name recognition that matters to some people /in some fields. A big school often means that the student can change majors without changing schools. There's just no doubt that a big school offers more than a small school.
You could argue that those things aren't important to you personally, or that the benefits of a small school overshadow them in your mind . . . but a big school absolutely does have more offerings more than a small one. And usually for a smaller price.
My daughter and I visited one small school, and we were so not impressed. The student body is smaller than our high school, which is neither good nor bad, but it does limit one's social life. One cafeteria. A two-story library with no technology. No sports. What it offered was almost laughable. And couldn't they have chosen a tour guide who understood subject-verb agreement? (Might not have been so offensive, if she hadn't been an English Education major.) Really, that school did not put its best foot forward for us. At slightly more than 3Xs the cost of the state school my daughter chose, I can't believe they can get anyone to attend that small school.
Also, don't forget that a great deal of variation exists within the realm of "small school" and "big school". We visited one school that has 27,000 undergrads, and we both felt it was too much of a good thing -- its size was just overwhelming. We also were a bit turned off by the fact that the school was sort of "integrated" with the town; that is, the town wove in and out of the college, and you couldn't tell where one began and the other ended. But my daughter didn't have to choose between that huge school and the miniscule, lackluster one described in the paragraph above. She ended up in a medium-sized school of 14,000. Plenty big enough to offer a wide variety of . . . well, everything, plenty big enough that everyone knows the name, plenty big enough that the costs can be kept down, but also not the urban giant of 27,000.
I think Penn would have been better for her because it is one tenth the cost. ALthough she is in a cozy environment now, I'm sure she won't think that 4 years of that is worth it in a few more years when she sees what is left of her paycheck after loan payments. She might as well skip college and work at McDonalds and make the same money.
Yeah, you have to help your 18-year old weigh the pros and cons. How strongly do you prefer that small school? Enough to postpone a nice wedding, travel, home ownership? Enough to accept a smaller paycheck for the next decade or so? Is it a matter of, "I am just paralyzed with fear when I set foot on the campus", or "I prefer small", or somewhere in between? 18-year olds just don't think this way yet.
but really, I'd rather see kids get a degree in a career field, not a hobby.
I'm all for the concept of education for education's sake . . . but with the cost of college today, few families can afford a college education that doesn't include some financial payback. I do expect my girls to come out of college better-rounded, having improved themselves as human beings, etc., etc., etc., -- but my #1 goal is for them to find work in a profitable field.