I'm trying to find a group I might be able to meet w/ of other parents that understand and have the same issues. I haven't found one yet. I'm overwhelmed with how many things I'm supposed to be doing and reading, and listening to and..... you get my drift.
I'm with you on this. I work full time though. I've met with so many therapists that I have them all mixed up and so many things to try and nothing seems to work.
My son is 5yrs old and has been diagnosed recently with Aspergers/HFA. The main problem that they are working on is his social skills because he gets frustrated about it and then gets aggressive with the other kids. Well, there are other factors which they refuse to entertain. He does great with the speech therapists but had major melt downs when the ABA Specialist and Occupational Therapist was there. They all went on a Thursday which is also the same day as swimming so it is a lot of in and out of the classroom and he didn't know that the occupational therapists was coming and neither did I. Actually the ABA specialist told me that she was coming at the last minute too. My son really thrives with his schedules and I know that there will be problems that he will have to deal with like the occupational therapist told me in the EIP meeting but that major meltdown could have been avoided. The speech therapists even suggested that they try to see what is setting him off but they (occupational therapist & Educational Therapist said "no, he needs to learn to self-regulate". The occupational therapist was sort of rude to the speech therapist as well as she said, "the Social Stories are fine but they are just pictures not real life." She said it in a condescending way.
Another thing is when someone asked me if he had sensory issues, she jumped in and said, "no" yet she and the teacher were saying that he puts a bean bag on himself to calm himself down. Isn't that sensory?
Is it normal for them to make a diagnosis after seeing a child one time?
This is the first year that the school has an EIP so the teachers are starting fresh. I'm very new to this as he was just diagnosed in August. I'm thinking of just doing my own research and putting something together to see what works for him.
I don't know maybe I'm just very frustrated because I'm dealing with an elderly father, newly diagnosed son, high school graduate getting into problems, college son (1st year), and dead beat dad of the HFA son. I have spent almost every month this past year in court and spent my vacation days to go there. I'm newly married and my husband has been unemployed off and on so we are having loads of financial problems with him not having steady work.
okay, that's my vent.
You have so much going on!!! Also with so many therapists, I'd have a hard time sorting through it all. OUr dd is 6 with the same dx. She has received help from therapists for many years, starting at 7 mths because of hypotonia.
Have you had a chance to do some reading about sensory issues? I really liked The Out of Sync Child, by Carol Kranowitz. She has a series of books that offer many ideas for kids who are sensory seekers or conversely, avoiders. I also love Stanley Greenspan's books. He gives great ideas for engaging your child, and increasing their interaction and attention span.
I know when our dd was dx'd at 20 mths, I spent a lot of time researching and trying many different things. I know you didn't ask, but if I were you, I might slow down for a little while. It sounds like the speech therapists have a good repoire with your son. If the OT and ABA therapists are less effective, I might have them meet with him less often.
Normally, I'd never recommend decreasing services. But you're in a really unique situation with living on an island. If they're interacting with your son negatively, I think it could damage any progress he's making. Anyway, there's a lot you can do to try different sensory soothers etc.
BTW, I didn't think dd was getting enough help from the OT or PT at school, so we have her in private practice. This can be expensive, and again, you may not have a lot of providers close at hand, so I'm not sure this is an option for you.
Finally regardless of the specialty, it sounds like the speech therapists understand your son better than the others. A good speech therapist can cross over and help with sensory issues, even though it's not his/her specialty. Go with your gut instinct.