In AK, my kids do the safari, Kali River Rapids, Triceratops Spin (identical ride setup as Aladdin's carpets in MK). They like the Lion King show and Nemo, but they both think the Nemo show is a bit too long. We've only done the train to Rafiki's Planet Watch one time. That is where we met Pocahontas. Both kids agreed that there wasn't a reason to do it again. My kids like animals, but not overly so. We have been to many zoos and the Cincy zoo is nearby with much better and closer animal viewing, so the kids don't like to do the trails because they can do that at home. They also like the parade. Last year the only characters we met at AK were Russel and Dugg.
At DHS, they do..
The Voyage of the Little Mermaid
Beauty and the Beast stage show (this is good because it is outside and if you sit toward the back then your daughter can walk around a bit and not have to stay still)
Disney Junior Live (you sit on the floor and kids can get up and dance, so not very structured in terms of having to sit still)
Disney Junior EMH dance party (only available during PM EMH-awesome event)
Fantasmic!
Animation academy
Lights Motor Action
HISTA playground (great for letting kids burn off some energy)
Muppetvision 3D (we do this more than once a day)
Backlot Tour
Pixar Parade (ends on April 6th, though)
Disney Channel Rocks (also ending April 6th)
Toy Story Midway Mania
The Great Movie Ride
Star Tours (even though they have never seen the movies, they LOVED the ride)
Character meet and greets...
Disney Junior characters
Phineas and Ferb
Buzz and Woody (the queue has 4 or 5 GREAT photo spots, too)
Monsters, Inc.
members of the Fab 5 in their Hollywood attire
Wreck-It Ralph and Vanellope
The Incredibles
Sorcerer Mickey
Characterpalooza (last year we saw Pocahontas and Meeko there)
Those are just the things I can think of at the moment. There might be more that I'm missing.
For food, we eat at Pizza Planet and the ABC commisary at DHS. At AK, we usually do Pizzafari. We are one of those oddball families that actually loves Disney's pizza.
If you are looking for TS meals, Hollywood and Vine does a Disney Junior breakfast that is good. We've never had a TS at AK, but most people like Tusker House.
Hope that helps.