*Adult* wedding guests who should not have been invited...

[yoopermom]

We've had so much seriousness in wedding discussion here on this board, let's turn it around and share those stories of not kids, but adults, who acted inappropriately...

1)Our wedding: groomsman (drunk) knocked his (also drunk) wife to the ground in the parking lot over her doing "the worm" (dance) on the dance floor with a different groomsman (who happened to be wearing only his boxers, but I digress...)
2)My DC's wedding: at a "member's only club" that the bride's dad was a longtime member of, our "country cousins" came in denim short shorts, wife beaters, and flip flops after stowing their kids at the closest McDonalds playland. When stopped and told there was a dress code, responded: "Hey, we were only told that kids weren't invited".
3)As we were waiting in a huge Catholic church, dead silent, for the bride to walk down the aisle, we hear screaming, and the MOTB comes running down the aisle saying, "(Bride's name) is dead, she's not breathing, call an ambulance". Woman in front of me turns to her husband and says, "Does that mean that the reception will be cancelled? I'm starving." (Bride had aneurysm, but is fine, by the way...)

Yours?

Terri

 

[HM]

Wow.
I'm glad we had no alchohol at our (daytime) wedding) reception.
No stories to add. Every wedding I've been to has seemed to go quite well (other than a fainting bride during Catholic Mass during long service) and if something happened, I wasn't aware.

 

[ckay87]

Why do awesome things like that not happen at the weddings I go to? hahaha.

 

[Pooh67_68]

My husband and I wish we would have eloped and lets just leave it at that.

 

[Rhombus]

The only thing I recall is years ago a Drunk Uncle grabbed the microphone at the reception and started telling off-color stories. Bandleader cut off the microphone after a minute or so and FOTB and another uncle had to escort Drunk Uncle out of the room.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I can't think of anything major. The best stories I have:

DH's cousins invited us over the day after their wedding when they were opening gifts. It was just the couple, her parents (whose house this was at), her aunt and uncle from NY who were visiting and DH and I who lived nearby.

Every gift that was not a "cover your plate" amount (which was not the norm in our area) was loudly criticized by the aunt and uncle---most of these were from the much less well off family of the groom. The groom's grandmother sent a ten dollar bill in a card (he was elderly and on social security) and these idiots mocked for a long time it and the groom was nearly in tears and that was what finally got the parents of the bride to say something. it was very uncomfortable.

DH's brother was our best man. He was 30 minutes late to the rehearsal. The priest was furious (and yelling at US; as if we could do anything about it). He had gone mountain biking and lost track of time and didn't realize it was really important to show up at the right time. He actually is that clueless much of the time.

We had an afternoon wedding with a "reception tea" afterwards (wedding at 2:00, tea from 3-5 and called a tea on the invitation). DH's aunt and uncle did not eat lunch before the wedding and loudly complained about the lack of an entree at the reception and gobbled huge amounts of the food there was (we did not run out we had prepared for tons preferring leftovers to not enough, though we did run out of meatballs, and we were told by multiple people they took a couple of dozen each while complaining). We were oblivious to it at the time and when told afterwards we actually thought it was pretty funny. Who goes to an event that starts at 2:00 and is labeled a tea (in the US) and expects a full meal?

 

[NHdisneylover]

Oh! I just recalled one. DH's sister and her husband have no intention to have kids. They have never wanted them and it has never been a secret--they dated 18 years and people used to ask when they would finally get married and have kids and they would say they may or may not get married, but there would never be kids. At their wedding her boss and friend of many years stood up to give a speech which basically was a LONG rant about how they will never be a family if they do not have children, and getting married is pointless if they do not get over their "selfishness" and create a family, etc. I think everyone was too stunned to shut him up or take the mic (plus, he was her boss) but it was SO rude and hurtful. I was terribly angry on their behalf.

 

[MickeySP]

Does the Bride getting arrested for drunk & disorderly & assault when she whacked her new MIL in the head count?

 

[bjscheel]

Wow.
I'm glad we had no alchohol at our (daytime) wedding) reception.
No stories to add. Every wedding I've been to has seemed to go quite well (other than a fainting bride during Catholic Mass during long service) and if something happened, I wasn't aware.

We did not have alcohol at our evening reception either. DH was a little taken aback at first at the idea, but neither he or I ever drink, and I didn't want any issues caused by drinking. Probably nobody would have gotten out of hand, but everybody got along fine without it and we saved money

 

[yoopermom]

Wow.
I'm glad we had no alchohol at our (daytime) wedding) reception.
No stories to add. Every wedding I've been to has seemed to go quite well (other than a fainting bride during Catholic Mass during long service) and if something happened, I wasn't aware.

Actually, only #1 involved alcohol, the other two just stupidity .

DH and I actually got to have a "couples night/overnight" at a wedding a few years ago that was held at a hall within sight of a cluster of hotels, restaurants, etc. I wanted to go back to the hotel earlier than DH did, so, since he was drinking and I wasn't, I took the car, after carefully telling him multiple times the name and room number of the hotel we were staying at. And, yes, he did go to two other hotels (right room number though!), before finding the right one at 3 am ! (He didn't have the courage to tell me about his little adventure for weeks afterwards...)

Terri

 

[spacemountainmom]

I'll play!

DH's friend dated a gal that I ended up becoming pretty close with. Friend and gal broke up, but I still stayed friends with the gal. We were invited to the gal's wedding several years later. Our oldest dd was 15 days old on the wedding day. I should have backed out, but dh and my parents insisted we go. My parents watched dd.

DH's friend (the ex-boyfriend) was invited as well. He brought his current girl friend. The pair of them had too much to drink and started fighting during the reception. The fight was about the bride and it was awkward having to sit and listen to them. I was more than ready to leave. I was 15 days postpartum, tired, missing my baby, uncomfortable wearing a dress that really didn't fit right yet, and not wanting to be in the middle of their stupid fight. Unfortunately my dh felt the need to try and mediate. He didn't want it to get any worse so that the bride or her family would know what was going on. I really did admire him for wanting to avoid having them spoil the reception, but I was tired, hormonal and not having any more of it.

I walked up to the fighting couple and quietly told them to grow up, take it outside or just leave. I told dh that I would be waiting in the car. If he wasn't out in two minutes, I would be leaving alone. I must have looked and sounded like I meant business. The fighters sat down and shut up, and dh followed me to the car.

My personal feeling is that the ex should not have been invited. However there were extenuating circumstances (his family and the bride's family had been friends for years) and they really could not have excluded him. Sadly, it make for an uncomfortable evening and the booze just made it worse.

 

[Gracie09]

my cousin and her date got so drunk at my sisters wedding that while "dancing" (he was basically throwing her away from him and pulling her back) they nearly knocked the cake over. Thankfully a waiter was setting up for the cake cutting and pushed her to the side. She was invited to my wedding the following year without a date and when she rsvp'd with one, I told her she was not invited with a guest and why. She went on a rant about how she was my first cousin etc etc. and she wouldn't come without a date. I said sorry, we will miss you and that was the last time I spoke with her. We were not that close anyway.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Does the Bride getting arrested for drunk & disorderly & assault when she whacked her new MIL in the head count?

Oh my! That does not bode well for the future family dynamics, does it?

 

[kamik86]

We had an afternoon wedding with a "reception tea" afterwards (wedding at 2:00, tea from 3-5 and called a tea on the invitation). DH's aunt and uncle did not eat lunch before the wedding and loudly complained about the lack of an entree at the reception and gobbled huge amounts of the food there was (we did not run out, though we did run out of meatballs, and we were told by multiple people they took a couple of dozen each while complaining). We actually thought it was pretty funny. Who goes to an event that starts at 2:00 and is labeled a tea (in the US) and expects a full meal?

My family things I am weird because when they have a party at 1:00 in the afternoon on a saturday I don't assume they will have food. so when we get there and they are doing burgers on the grill and I say I'm not hungry they all wonder why I ate...

As for my story:
At my sisters wedding (which was the trashiest event I have ever gone to... I have seen higher scale bbqs with friends) the groom (which none of us like) went out to the parking lot to smoke weed in the middle of the reception. He then offered some to my underage niece who was a bridesmaid in front of her father... didn't go over well. Honestly I kind of wanted to call the police but my mom told me I should be nicer for my sister on her wedding day.

My wedding had a few small issues but mostly not with guests (like the lady thta couldn't drive and almost slammed into my (parked) car during my hair appointment.

 

[jrmasm]

We did not have alcohol at our evening reception either. DH was a little taken aback at first at the idea, but neither he or I ever drink, and I didn't want any issues caused by drinking. Probably nobody would have gotten out of hand, but everybody got along fine without it and we saved money

Wow.
I'm glad we had no alchohol at our (daytime) wedding) reception.
No stories to add. Every wedding I've been to has seemed to go quite well (other than a fainting bride during Catholic Mass during long service) and if something happened, I wasn't aware.

Drunken guests are the best part of the reception. Snoozefest without.

 

[Adelle Dazeem]

At my cousin's wedding back in the early 90's, the alcohol flowed freely. The groom and several groomsmen were military and the reception was held on base in the Officer's Club. During the reception, one drunken person - never did find out who it was - pulled all of the flowers of the bridal bouquest apart and threw them on the floor. Several groomsmen and male guests decided to strip down and jump into the swimming pool. Luckily their plan of throwing the bride and groom into the pool was discovered and quashed before they could pull it off.

I was a bridesmaid and I confess that I left for the wedding around 11am on Saturday and didn't get hom until about 11:30pm on SUNDAY. Yeah - I had a fun time! LOL

Unfortunately, the marriage only lasted a few weeks - again, never did find out what exactly happened to make them split, but my cousin was always a little crazy.

 

[yoopermom]

Aside from the bride almost dying, I also had one DGM hospitalized at a cousin's wedding (nothing major, just dehydration, thank God) and the bride threw a fit because DGM wouldn't be in the pictures (I mean how *dare* she get sick ?) and my other DGM, at another cousin's reception, fall over unconscious and had to be hospitalized (found out that she needed a heart valve replacement ASAP). That was the reception that the "Daisy Duke" cousins showed up at, so I'm sure the bride's family thought we were a bunch of.....

Terri

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

A wedding in Vegas keeps sounding better and better.

 

[design_mom]

I can only think of three:

1) We were at a wedding for one of my husband's high school friends. We were seated at a table with a bunch of their other high school friends. One of the couples got into a nasty, loud argument right in the middle of the reception. I know all of the tables around us heard it and were looking. They ended up leaving early and announced their separation a few weeks later. Apparently the bride/groom didn't hear about it until afterward, so I'm glad it didn't ruin their day.

2) At another wedding, they hired a friend of the groom to be the DJ. He showed up in jeans and a t-shirt and was overall obnoxious/inappropriate, unprofessional and, in general, a terrible DJ. I am not sure if he was just a friend with no experience who did an awful job, or if he normally does a good job and somehow went rouge that night. I know the bridal party, including the groom, were very unhappy about it though.

3) The last one was at my cousin's wedding. Another cousin was getting married a couple of months later. The not-yet-married cousin spend the entire time berating the current wedding. "My dress/cake/flowers will be prettier than that." "We're not going to do something tacky like this at *my* wedding" "Just wait till my wedding..." etc. The not-yet-married cousin's wedding did end up being very nice and was fancier, but the wedding we were at was totally fine too. It was not very classy of her to talk like that about another person's wedding, and she annoyed a lot of people that night. My family, including her, are normally more gracious than that. I have no idea what got into her that night.

 

[Rhombus]

Does the Bride getting arrested for drunk & disorderly & assault when she whacked her new MIL in the head count?

Somehow I have a feeling that Bride may have been perfectly justified in whacking MIL in the head.