princessbride6205
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- May 8, 2006
I was going to suggest FMLA (the federal law that requires employers to hold your job for 12 weeks while you tend to a family medical issue) - but you have to have worked at your company for a year to be eligible. However, I see that CA actually has 6 weeks of paid family leave or disability benefits for pregnancy/new moms. Do you think your job would give you some time off now, possibly unpaid, and then the 6 weeks after the baby is born? You could stay with your parents for the next few months while everything is getting figured out. You could see if there are employment opportunities in that area of Canada while you are there. And then you'd have more of a time frame to make a real decision about staying in Canada or returning to your life in CA.
I understand the job being important to you. I am in a field that I don't want to give up, but I've had a very hard time finding another job (currently employed, but no raises in 3 years!). We are the same age, so I get having worked hard to get to a place you like in your industry. But I will also tell you that having my mom live with us the first 3 weeks after DD was born was the best thing ever! Consider the importance of family.
It sounds like despite this complete upheaval of your life, you are taking control and taking care of yourself. It's great that you've been focusing on eating and taking walks. You've made appointments for the doctor and the attorney. You've vented to some friendly folks here on the DIS. You are so strong and capable.
I know it's hard to think, "What does this girl have that I don't? How could he prefer her? And what does that say about me?" This girl is shiny, but she's broken. His choice of her says absolutely nothing about you. It is only evidence of his own character. You are awesome, no matter what crazy things he does or says.
I wish you all good things and hope you'll update us. Please give yourself a hug!
(And if you'd like an anonymous friend to chat with, I'm happy to volunteer - PM me)
I understand the job being important to you. I am in a field that I don't want to give up, but I've had a very hard time finding another job (currently employed, but no raises in 3 years!). We are the same age, so I get having worked hard to get to a place you like in your industry. But I will also tell you that having my mom live with us the first 3 weeks after DD was born was the best thing ever! Consider the importance of family.
It sounds like despite this complete upheaval of your life, you are taking control and taking care of yourself. It's great that you've been focusing on eating and taking walks. You've made appointments for the doctor and the attorney. You've vented to some friendly folks here on the DIS. You are so strong and capable.
I know it's hard to think, "What does this girl have that I don't? How could he prefer her? And what does that say about me?" This girl is shiny, but she's broken. His choice of her says absolutely nothing about you. It is only evidence of his own character. You are awesome, no matter what crazy things he does or says.
I wish you all good things and hope you'll update us. Please give yourself a hug!
(And if you'd like an anonymous friend to chat with, I'm happy to volunteer - PM me)