FlightlessDuck
Y kant Donald fly?
- Joined
- Jun 20, 2006
I did it for the lulz! *jazz hands*
Why thank you.
Since I was born without a conscience of my own it is always helpful when somebody else comes along and gives out yet another "Everything I Need To Know I Learned in Kindergarten!" lecture.
And you're also setting yourself up for a lot of responses along the line of (as my great-grandfather used to say), "who made you king?"
Yes, actually, some people do have to be downright mean. Some people have no filter, some don't realize how they're coming across, some just don't know how to temper a response to provide an opinion without an attitude. And some people come here to be downright mean because they can. It's anonymous and they see it as fun and entertaining.This is why I think twice before starting a thread asking for opinions.
But really, do people have to be downright mean?
Exactly! I love when people feel the need to sit everyone down and lecture them about the correct (their) way of responding to others. Are there people here who are often nasty? Absolutely. There are also people who are offended at the slightest hint of disagreement or suggestion. That's what happens when you have a bunch of personality types discussing a number of hot topics.
I find posts like this just as obnoxious as the nasty ones.
Oh, and I would hate for my post to be construed as rude so here's some pixie dust for good measure:
Yes, actually, some people do have to be downright mean. Some people have no filter, some don't realize how they're coming across, some just don't know how to temper a response to provide an opinion without an attitude. And some people come here to be downright mean because they can. It's anonymous and they see it as fun and entertaining.
In fact, it's exactly the same as in real life! Some people are nice, some are neutral, some are nasty. Welcome to humanity.
If you would never in a million years walk into a roomful of strangers and ask for opinions on a personal matter, then don't do it here. If you DO decide to wander into this cyber-roomful of total strangers and ask for opinions, realize that you're going to end up with some constructive and well thought-out responses, some annoying "more questions than answers" types of responses, and some downright nasty "how much fun can I have with this person" responses. It's up to you as the asker to filter out the ones that are helpful and ignore the ones who are trying to get a rise out of you. There is no place on earth -- from a therapist's office to your family dinner table to the home of your most beloved friend -- where you will ALWAYS get 100% support and understanding and NEVER get anything you perceive as inappropriate or rude. And if you're not going to get automatic support from people who know and love you, you're sure as heck not going to get it from a bunch of strangers.
On the flip side, though? A place like the DIS is absolutely perfect when you want no-holds-barred honest responses and you're willing to provide enough information to get everyone to understand what it is you're trying to resolve. IMO, the people who most often end up with an avalanche of negative responses are those who forget that (a) every story has more than just their side; and (b) the only information we have to work with is what we're given.
I did it for the lulz! *jazz hands*
Ironically, 90% of the truly rude and abrasive posts I see on the DIS are by OPs getting angry and defensive when they ask for advice or opinions and then don't like what the see and lash out. Usually those posts involve calling perfectly reasonable and polite posts "rude" or "mean" or even "bullying" for no other reason than someone has an opinion the OP dislikes.
I love the discussions and variety of view points on the DIS and hope that it never turns into a place where people are afraid to disagree for fear of being seen as unpleasant. Sometimes the truth as others see it is unpleasant--but that is part of having multiple view points.
Wow, I am out of here. I was not lecturing nor trying to teach anyone. But thank you all for showing just what I was talking about. Civility is a lost art. I am neither offended nor too sensitive but you have proven that what I said was true. Whether to this response or that to "which restaurant should I go to in MK" I am sure that many people will show that they have the inability to respond in a manner befitting that of a helpful response or even one of a differing opinion done with humility. I suppose I will think twice about ever posting again for fear of being torn a new one. Thanks for the eye opener.
'ceptin' that you spelled "the" wrong in yer poster there ... which kind of takes away from the instant recognition of it all ...
I know you say you're out of here, but most people who say that do tend to come back out of curiosity if nothing else, so I'll take a chance and ask the question.Wow, I am out of here. I was not lecturing nor trying to teach anyone. But thank you all for showing just what I was talking about. Civility is a lost art. I am neither offended nor too sensitive but you have proven that what I said was true. Whether to this response or that to "which restaurant should I go to in MK" I am sure that many people will show that they have the inability to respond in a manner befitting that of a helpful response or even one of a differing opinion done with humility. I suppose I will think twice about ever posting again for fear of being torn a new one. Thanks for the eye opener.
Wow, I am out of here. I was not lecturing nor trying to teach anyone. But thank you all for showing just what I was talking about. Civility is a lost art. I am neither offended nor too sensitive but you have proven that what I said was true. Whether to this response or that to "which restaurant should I go to in MK" I am sure that many people will show that they have the inability to respond in a manner befitting that of a helpful response or even one of a differing opinion done with humility. I suppose I will think twice about ever posting again for fear of being torn a new one. Thanks for the eye opener.
Me thinks the OP was baiting folks to prove her point.
Me thinks the OP was baiting folks to prove her point.
The site has moderators to deal with issues.