sam_gordon
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- Jun 26, 2010
I don't think anyone has disagreed than pre-teen girls can be brutal. But just because that is possible, does NOT prove the shirt was worn with malicious intent. I think even those who said it's ok to wear the shirt would agree if the intent was to make others feel excluded, that's not good. But we don't know what the intent was. Just because YOU (and a handful of others) are willing to ASSUME the "party girl" had malicious intent, doesn't mean it's true.Okay, what the heck... I will put in my two cents worth.
I think it is funny that some of the things posted by those on one side of the fence, could actually be used to argue for those on the other side!
While I can not say that I know enough about this one situation to make a good judgement call... I have to say that, YES, as one poster said above, kids at this age are brutal. They just are... So that def. supports the argument that this was def. something to promote a 'clique'. I really do not see how that aspect of this could be overlooked, when it comes to a big birthday party, at these girls particular age. And, unfortunately, too many mothers are still emotionally/psychologically like middle-school aged girls, instead of middle-aged grown women. I just can't ignore that huge probability. I could never imagine even doing such a thing myself... EVER... Making a photo scapbook of the memories and comradary, certainly!!!! But, a T-shirt to be worn.... ummmmmm. NO.
I must have missed the post about vacation pictures. Can you link it please? A couple of us HAVE mentioned wearing Disney T-shirts. Do you think a child wearing a Disney (or concert/show/whatever) shirt is "indulgent, narcissistic, and presumptuous"?One poster mentioned, like, 'ohhh it 's no different than sharing vacation pictures.' I have to laugh!!!!! Do they not realize how indulgent and narcissistic and presumptuous it is to place others in the position of spending time acting like they care about YOUR photos/slideshow, etc... Can they not see the negative reaction, and the hidden eye-rolls????
But someone who DIDN'T make the team or organization might feel "left out" when they see others wearing the apparel. Often this team apparel might be worn OUTSIDE of team activities. My younger kids sometimes wear soccer jerseys to school, or they wear camp shirts. I guess everyone needs to wear plain colored shirts.If one person makes a team, or is accepted into an organization... that is the one person.. They not only have the right to wear the official shirt, t-shirt, etc... But, it is often a required part of their responsibility.
Def. completely apples to oranges....
And, an official organization or sports team is just not the same as a birthday party clique. And, often it is limited as to where the person can display these things. It is NOT okay for my son to wear his scout shirt unless it is at an event sanctioned by, and encouraged by, the scout organization.
You're taking a "middle ground", but don't "see how it could be anything but"? THAT'S a middle ground?While I am taking a middle ground here in the OP's situation, as we just do not know. For the reasons just described, I am leaning way, way, towards the 'tasteless', 'exclusive', 'clique', 'immature', 'narcissitiic', with negative undertones, type of behavior. I really do not see how it could be anything but.
Here's a hint for you... not every action is done to make someone feel bad. Sometimes a shirt is just a shirt.