6th, 7th and and 8th graders (boys and girls) are brutal.. I serve them lunch 5 days a week!! Seriously...at that age I really do not pick out their clothes and would never tell my 7th grader not to wear a shirt like that if it was within the schools dress code. Heck...half the time I could not even tell you what my dd12 is wearing until she gets into the lunch room to say hi to me. My dd12 tried out for and made a travel softball team that one of her friends tried out for and did not make. Are you telling me I am a bad parent for allowing my dd to wear the team sweatshirt to school? Do you feel she is rubbing in the face of the other girl who did NOT make the team? About half the girls did not get invited to this party....it is not like 1 or 2 did not. There are kids who are way more sensitive to this kind of stuff then other kids...both boys and girls...and it is a PARENTS job to see that if YOU have a kid like that to make sure YOU give them the tools to deal with these kinds of situations... it is not my job to make sure my kid does not offend your kid by wearing a party favor.