lizzyb
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Oct 8, 2007
If the 11 year old didn't know about the trip, it isn't a punishment.
Thats what I was thinking.
Sorry that you have to cancel your trip and are having issues with your DD.
If the 11 year old didn't know about the trip, it isn't a punishment.
Thing is, we DONT know what the problem/issue is with her dd, and for all we know it's something that would not go away if they went to WDW and it would just be a wasted trip for all involved.
OP, have this thread closed please. I know you're lurking about, but I am having a hard time biting my tongue for you. LOL!!
I re-read the OP's posts and saw nothing about the 11-year old not knowing about the trip. Did I miss something? Was there something in her signature that is now changed?If the 11 year old didn't know about the trip, it isn't a punishment.
I don't get the obsession with wanting threads closed.
I re-read the OP's posts and saw nothing about the 11-year old not knowing about the trip. Did I miss something? Was there something in her signature that is now changed?
I think it's because people are so freaking sensitive and don't have the stones to own their opinions and posts. Not saying the OP of this thread, I mean in general. If you post something, people may disagree with you.. So what? I think barring threats, and true verbal assault, threads should not be closed. But, I'm not a moderator- I don't make the rules.I don't get the obsession with wanting threads closed.
I don't get the obsession with wanting threads closed.
Ah! I see now. I skipped over the word "only".She said only the 14dd knew about the trip.
I applaud you as well.
I'm shocked that so many here don't think an 11yo can do something "bad enough" to warrant them losing a PRIVILEGE such as Disney.
I can think of a few things!
I truly wasn't expecting so many answers! And opinions...
Only DD14 knew about the trip and she is well aware of her sister's issues. So she knew it was a possibility that we cancelled if DD11 ''relapsed''. Ongoing issue for a while now and we have tried to put many things in place to help her...
Again, I wasn't expecting so many reactions to this, and yes I absolutely agree that it has consequences to all other members of my family. I still think that we need to be very clear as to what behaviors are accepted and what isn't, and I don't feel as though I am punishing my other kids by not going on this trip. I truly believe I am doing what's best for my family.
Wow what could an 11 yr old do to get a whole trip for the family canceled? and do the other kids know they were going and now aren't because of her? that's a good way to set up life long hard feelings and problems.
Thing is, we DONT know what the problem/issue is with her dd, and for all we know it's something that would not go away if they went to WDW and it would just be a wasted trip for all involved.
OP, have this thread closed please. I know you're lurking about, but I am having a hard time biting my tongue for you. LOL!!
And I don't get the obsession with people belittling and second guessing other peoples' parenting techniques.
She did NOT start this thread for advice on what she should do. She came on here for sympathy for her, because the trip is cancelled and she's bummed out.
Dissers never know when to shut the hell up. I'm posting now under my alias I started because I have a personal question thread up on the family board, but I am a LONG time Disser with over 10,000 posts, and this is nothing new to me, this thread going to the dumps. I just don't GET the constant need of (most) dissers to put people down who have different opinions/values/expectations from their own.
Dissers never know when to shut the hell up. I'm posting now under my alias I started because I have a personal question thread up on the family board, but I am a LONG time Disser with over 10,000 posts, and this is nothing new to me, this thread going to the dumps. I just don't GET the constant need of (most) dissers to put people down who have different opinions/values/expectations from their own.
Ah! I see now. I skipped over the word "only".
So ... this is NOT a punishment. How could it be? The 11-year old didn't even know what was secretly at stake by "relapsing". So much for everyone patting the OP on the back for "sticking to her guns" .
The OP's decision seems even stranger to me now.