arielsleepingbeauty
I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way.
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- Jan 14, 2006
My mom would feel the same way. She would never leave a grand child behind. I think it is a great idea if you could reward your older daughter for understanding.
Well, that's why I asked. As the mother of an 11-year old DD I know exactly how hormonally challenged they can be. Honestly, anything that I can think of which is truly awful enough to cancel a family trip needs more than just a punishment. It needs a professional intervention.For those of you who say an 11 year old cannot do something bad enough to warrant canceling a trip, you don't know what the child did. I have a child who has been awful: very disrespectful, rude, mean and horrible. She is almost 11. I would do the same thing if I had to just because sometimes you have to teach lessons. They might be hard on the parents and children. These days most parents don't follow through with their threats and that is the problem. Sorry that you had to do this but I hope it works out for you later.
Due to DD11 misbehaving, we are canceling the trip. I am so sad (mostly because of the misbehavior). Hopefully DD will get her act together so we can go in 2012!
Wow that sounds so far away though...
To all of you who are going, enjoy it for me!
Due to DD11 misbehaving, we are canceling the trip. I am so sad (mostly because of the misbehavior). Hopefully DD will get her act together so we can go in 2012!
Wow that sounds so far away though...
To all of you who are going, enjoy it for me!
I definitely thought about it. The trip was a gift from my mom and she will not leave one grandchild behind. I might look into taking DD14 during Spring Break, but she is very mature and understands the situation. I think she deserves a trip just for her understanding!
I truly wasn't expecting so many answers! And opinions...
Only DD14 knew about the trip and she is well aware of her sister's issues. So she knew it was a possibility that we cancelled if DD11 ''relapsed''. Ongoing issue for a while now and we have tried to put many things in place to help her...
Again, I wasn't expecting so many reactions to this, and yes I absolutely agree that it has consequences to all other members of my family. I still think that we need to be very clear as to what behaviors are accepted and what isn't, and I don't feel as though I am punishing my other kids by not going on the trip this year.
Everyone has a right to their opinion, feel free to judge me! I truly believe I am doing what's best for my family.
I truly wasn't expecting so many answers! And opinions...
Only DD14 knew about the trip and she is well aware of her sister's issues. So she knew it was a possibility that we cancelled if DD11 ''relapsed''. Ongoing issue for a while now and we have tried to put many things in place to help her...
Again, I wasn't expecting so many reactions to this, and yes I absolutely agree that it has consequences to all other members of my family. I still think that we need to be very clear as to what behaviors are accepted and what isn't, and I don't feel as though I am punishing my other kids by not going on this trip. I truly believe I am doing what's best for my family.
OP, if I were you I would delete the title of this thread and any subsequent posts that you have made to this thread. Unfortunately you are going to hear from all the psycho "do or die" Disney nuts out there who don't understand how you can decide to put parenting first and a trip to Disney World second. Some of these people are making it sound like you are going to scar your children for life. It's a vacation for goodness sake, it's not the end of the world. People cancel vacations every day. When you're in a family where there are siblings one child is always going to be affected by his or her sibling for good or BAD. A family has to pull together to get past obstacles. The OP probably feels bad enough about her decision to cancel. She doesn't need people making her feel like she is tearing her family apart. Good grief!!!!
Well, that's why I asked. As the mother of an 11-year old DD I know exactly how hormonally challenged they can be. Honestly, anything that I can think of which is truly awful enough to cancel a family trip needs more than just a punishment. It needs a professional intervention.
Thank you for your support. I guess I set myself up when I it up the post, however i did not expect the turn of event! I feel pretty confident in my parenting skills, regardless of what others might say. Just wanted to share my sadness of not going... Just as many do when they cancel.