I guess it's a matter of upbringing. It's a "didn't your momma teach you right?"
Is it about YOUR kid or are you magnanimous enough to think about more than just your own? Pat yourself on the back when you write a check to charity, but take a second prize, because you know the hint from the DIS board, and leave another kid in the dust. Not a very big person.
Somethings used to be understood, things like "no line jumping" or "be polite". I would like to teach my children that it's better to be unselfish than get. It's the content of the character.
And again, that being said, does anyone know how to get extra tickets for breakfast at the 3B if you are staying at the resort?
I assume then that you always hand your winning lottery tickets over to people who haven't won anything yet?
After all, that would be the "unselfish" thing to do.
The OP's kid in this debate is 10. He got what they perceived to be the "wrong" wand the first time he went through (it was for a different birthday than his own). So - knowing full well his chances of getting picked twice - he decided to try again. He waited in line just like everyone else. He was lucky enough to be the only child in his group, and he got picked. And this time he got the wand he wanted. Hurray!
I don't have any issues with this. I think the kid has learned that perseverance has its reward.
This kid is not "Veruca Salt", and it's not kind to call him that. As soon as a real "Veruca Salt" realized she had the wrong wand, she would have elbowed her way to the front of the line and demanded an immediate redo. Why should she have to wait in line again just because THEY got it wrong? They should make it right! Immediately! And there would be tantrums.
My children both want wands. A lot! They're teenagers, and as tall as adults. I've already warned them that they may have to return multiple times, try to get into groups where they're the youngest and/or least-homely, make eye contact with the shopkeeper, and do their darndest to out-cute the little kids.
Sometimes it works. My daughter took my advice and got picked for the Sorting Hat at the Harry Potter Traveling Exhibition recently. She beat out several younger kids, including some who really, really wanted to get picked and were quite sad when they didn't. We felt no guilt.
If I got picked I would pass the chance to one of my own children, but not to someone else's child. It's MY lottery ticket, after all.