"You're to old to be here...."

[nerdboyrockstar]

I would've dropped an F bomb at that lady. And it's not Fantasy. How's that for the kids?

 

[Dive Bar Casanova]

I’m sorry that happened to you.
She sounds like an ignorant idiot.
Next time someone is behind you complaining, fart.

Lots of these kinda people.
On the cruise ships we encounter like people that criticise single seniors that bought their cruise a year earlier and their spouse died in the meantime, and they take the cruise in their memory.

 

[Bearval]

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FELLOW DISNEY SENIORS...I returned a week ago from a 5 day visit for the Flower & Garden Festival. I'd like your opinion on how you would have handled a situation I encountered. BOTTOM LINE...I was told by a fellow Disney guest (youngish mother) that (direct quote), "You're to old to be taking up a viewing spot for the fireworks; after all, Disney is for THE KIDS"

Briefly, I was solo at this point and chose to not watch the fireworks on Main Street because of the crowd. I'm "vertically challenged" and 99% of the time my view of the Castle is blocked. I wanted a few pictures of the Castle during the show and 30 minutes before went to the spot in the picture above...the area to the right of the Tomorrowland entrance behind the "rocks". While the spot wasn't perfect, I was able to view the top of the Castle. As the show began a youngster, maybe 4-5 years old, pushed me aside. I moved slightly but didn't want to loose my view (the area had become crowded compared to when I arrived and there were only 2 other adults in the spot) when the mother made the statement from behind me. She kept making unkind comments about "elderly people taking spots from children" and after about 5 minutes I left. As I passed by her she told me, "It's about time!" I won't deny, my feelings were hurt; I don't ever remember being addressed like that before. I met some WONDERFUL people on this trip but this lady wasn't one of them! What would you have done?

I would have hit my med alert button and told them I was pushed over by a mother and her child and have fallen and cant get up while giving them a full description of the two.

 

[tjmw2727]

I would have hit my med alert button and told them I was pushed over by a mother and her child and have fallen and cant get up while giving them a full description of the two.

We had the opposite a few years ago, at Epcot on the railing by Canda. We were between a table with other guests and a wall on the other side against the railing over an hour before one of the final showings of Illuminations. My two dd's (early 20's) against the rail and me behind them. My younger dd is a former CP and loved Illuminations so it was important to her to see this, so we lined up as soon as spots started filling.

About 15 minutes before the start of the show a group of 4 adults tried to push from beside us up to the rail and my dd turned sideways, grabbed the rail and stood her ground. That's when one of the women said, "omg see, young people these days have no respect for their elders!"

We were floored, when I finally picked by jaw up from the ground I politely said. She is very respectful and has been waiting patiently here for over an hour. What is disrespectful is expecting a prime spot at the last minute. I normally wouldn't have said much but my dd was very hurt by the statement, so I felt I had to stick up for her. Thankfully they moved on, and we watched in peace.

 

[Miffy]

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FELLOW DISNEY SENIORS...I returned a week ago from a 5 day visit for the Flower & Garden Festival. I'd like your opinion on how you would have handled a situation I encountered. BOTTOM LINE...I was told by a fellow Disney guest (youngish mother) that (direct quote), "You're to old to be taking up a viewing spot for the fireworks; after all, Disney is for THE KIDS"

Briefly, I was solo at this point and chose to not watch the fireworks on Main Street because of the crowd. I'm "vertically challenged" and 99% of the time my view of the Castle is blocked. I wanted a few pictures of the Castle during the show and 30 minutes before went to the spot in the picture above...the area to the right of the Tomorrowland entrance behind the "rocks". While the spot wasn't perfect, I was able to view the top of the Castle. As the show began a youngster, maybe 4-5 years old, pushed me aside. I moved slightly but didn't want to loose my view (the area had become crowded compared to when I arrived and there were only 2 other adults in the spot) when the mother made the statement from behind me. She kept making unkind comments about "elderly people taking spots from children" and after about 5 minutes I left. As I passed by her she told me, "It's about time!" I won't deny, my feelings were hurt; I don't ever remember being addressed like that before. I met some WONDERFUL people on this trip but this lady wasn't one of them! What would you have done?

My reply--if I'd thought of it fast enough--would've been "You're too rude to be at Disney."

 

[Dive Bar Casanova]

My reply--if I'd thought of it fast enough--would've been "You're too rude to be at Disney."

Good take.

 

[goopysolelady]

I would have said ’Sorry sweetie - I’m old and I don’t hear real well, could you repeat that a lot louder please so everyone can hear’…

AND THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN THE TRUTH! I do struggle with hearing, especially in crowded areas, which was probably a blessing since I honestly, did NOT hear all the things she was saying behind me...she was talking the entire time I was there. I could hear her and that's why I finally turned around. I POLITELY said, "I'm so sorry, I'm a little hard of hearing, are you speaking to me?" Face to face I can hear a statement plus the added advantage of reading lips...that's when I totally understand her "issue with me" being in that spot.

 

[goopysolelady]

We had the opposite a few years ago, at Epcot on the railing by Canda. We were between a table with other guests and a wall on the other side against the railing over an hour before one of the final showings of Illuminations. My two dd's (early 20's) against the rail and me behind them. My younger dd is a former CP and loved Illuminations so it was important to her to see this, so we lined up as soon as spots started filling.

About 15 minutes before the start of the show a group of 4 adults tried to push from beside us up to the rail and my dd turned sideways, grabbed the rail and stood her ground. That's when one of the women said, "omg see, young people these days have no respect for their elders!"

We were floored, when I finally picked by jaw up from the ground I politely said. She is very respectful and has been waiting patiently here for over an hour. What is disrespectful is expecting a prime spot at the last minute. I normally wouldn't have said much but my dd was very hurt by the statement, so I felt I had to stick up for her. Thankfully they moved on, and we watched in peace.

Good for you! And totally agree...YOU'VE spent the hour "claiming your spot" and deserve to keep it! I only waited 30 minutes and this spot, by far, was NOT a "prime viewing location"! I just wanted a nice picture of the Castle...the fireworks "show" was mostly behind the building! I couldn't understand what her "beef" was; if the kid wanted to see the fireworks in their full full glory this was not the spot to be! You're a good person for standing up for your daughters, no matter if they ARE in their early 20's! (And I know the exact spot you're talking about and it IS a good one for the show !)

 

[Dive Bar Casanova]

I’ve been sitting at a table with our lunch as my wife takes the granddaughter to the restroom.

Had an insult hurled at me, and responded “does my wife need your permission to visit the restroom?”

 

[Bad Pink Tink 2.0]

I’ve been sitting at a table with our lunch as my wife takes the granddaughter to the restroom.

Had an insult hurled at me, and responded “does my wife need your permission to visit the restroom?”

I bet you were sitting alone at a large table "taking a place from a family"

As a solo traveler I get this a lot, people being mad that I am taking up a space that others need. Big swing, I got here first, and no one has the right to make me feel guilty for being a solo person. Also, just as you experienced, a person sitting alone does not necessarily mean that they are solo.

 

[Dive Bar Casanova]

"after all, Disney is for the kids" Using her logic, she shouldn't have been there either.
Disney is for everybody!
And I love your photo!

Are the cocktail bars for the kids? I’d respond.
Watching the Diz You Tube streamers videos notice more than half the guests have no kids with them.

DCL 2/3 passengers have no kids. +Adult only zones only on DCL.
Our last DCL cruise the director told us only 6 kids on a sold out cruise. We never saw any.

People grow up with Disney in their heart doesn’t mean you can’t still enjoy it without kids.

My nurse wife works 12 hr all nighters and sleeps in at the hotel for several days before she adjusts and hits the parks.

I find a shady spot to read amongst beautiful Disney landscape or have a solo lunch, usually at a Disney bar where I only take up one seat.

 

[vakamalua]

We have been going to Disney a long time, first with our daughter & now as empty nesters. We have seen the stress of the steady increase of the cost of everything (accommodations, food, tickets, etc), the huge crowds, the level of advance planning & checking your phone all day now required, then add in the heat almost all year; it makes so many people frustrated & rude while they desperately try to make the most of their trip & creates kids who are screaming from exhaustion. No excuse for treating anyone with less than kindness but it is the reality now.

 

[BalooFan]

In your place, I probably wouldn’t have said anything because I wouldn’t want a confrontation. I really wouldn’t care what she was saying because I don’t know her and don’t care what she thinks. I also wouldn’t have budged one inch; I hate when people try to bully or intimidate me. If I thought I was in any physical danger though, I would get out of there!

 

[goopysolelady]

Are the cocktail bars for the kids? I’d respond.
Watching the Diz You Tube streamers videos notice more than half the guests have no kids with them.

DCL 2/3 passengers have no kids. +Adult only zones only on DCL.
Our last DCL cruise the director told us only 6 kids on a sold out cruise. We never saw any.

People grow up with Disney in their heart doesn’t mean you can’t still enjoy it without kids.

My nurse wife works 12 hr all nighters and sleeps in at the hotel for several days before she adjusts and hits the parks.

I find a shady spot to read amongst beautiful Disney landscape or have a solo lunch, usually at a Disney bar where I only take up one seat.

"People grow up with Disney in their heart doesn't mean you can't still enjoy it with kids." ... AMEN ... and, I might add, as long as I'm physically able to get on and off a plane and make my way to the parks I will do so...no matter HOW OLD I am.

 

[snowwite]

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FELLOW DISNEY SENIORS...I returned a week ago from a 5 day visit for the Flower & Garden Festival. I'd like your opinion on how you would have handled a situation I encountered. BOTTOM LINE...I was told by a fellow Disney guest (youngish mother) that (direct quote), "You're to old to be taking up a viewing spot for the fireworks; after all, Disney is for THE KIDS"

Briefly, I was solo at this point and chose to not watch the fireworks on Main Street because of the crowd. I'm "vertically challenged" and 99% of the time my view of the Castle is blocked. I wanted a few pictures of the Castle during the show and 30 minutes before went to the spot in the picture above...the area to the right of the Tomorrowland entrance behind the "rocks". While the spot wasn't perfect, I was able to view the top of the Castle. As the show began a youngster, maybe 4-5 years old, pushed me aside. I moved slightly but didn't want to loose my view (the area had become crowded compared to when I arrived and there were only 2 other adults in the spot) when the mother made the statement from behind me. She kept making unkind comments about "elderly people taking spots from children" and after about 5 minutes I left. As I passed by her she told me, "It's about time!" I won't deny, my feelings were hurt; I don't ever remember being addressed like that before. I met some WONDERFUL people on this trip but this lady wasn't one of them! What would you have done?

I would have told her she was rude and a lousy example for her children and then stayed and enjoyed the show. Mean people suck.

 

[snowwite]

I would have said ’Sorry sweetie - I’m old and I don’t hear real well, could you repeat that a lot louder please so everyone can hear’…

This

 

[PollyannaMom]

Wasn't there a very famous Disney speech about age and youth? Oh, yeah...



If the show hadn't started yet, I might loudly have played a clip of it on my phone.

The mom was very wrong to say you didn't belong there. I hope she was just tired from a long day at the parks and doesn't usually talk to people like that.

In general, I do offer to let little kids in from of me, since I can see over them, but the pushing would definitely have dulled that instinct.

And you can't even get a cast member, because leaving to find one would give them just what they wanted.

I'm glad you still got your picture, but sorry they tainted the experience for you.

 

[Dive Bar Casanova]

In South Hampton England we shared a Taxi with a SUPER couple and headed to our DCL cruise. The cab driver hated Americans and made it clear immediately.

As we pulled into the ships unloading zone the cab driver said "These cruises are for kids!"
The lady riding with us responded pointing out the several hundred passengers lined up to board "Look at the cue, not one child amongst them boarding the ship."

Driver was dumbfounded.

Narrowminded people that talk through their stinky orifice.

 

[Dive Bar Casanova]

But,, returning to the Southampton Airport after the DCL cruise our Taxi Driver was a fabulous, fantastic Brit with native British humor and keen on History.

He asked if I was "familiar with the WWII Spitfire." (That's World War 2 to you Zoomers, not world War Eleven). I responded "You mean the Mitchell designed Super Marine Built airplane?"

Cab driver lit up and drove us past the spot where the factory was bombed out by the Nazis, then we headed up to Mitchells grave.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

We had the opposite experience on our cruise recently. Not a DCL one. We were the youngest on the ship (of around 600 passengers) being in our mid-30s and everyone and anyone commented on it. It was our second cruise with that company and the first one skewed younger than normal as well but also had a few kids (not common on this cruise line) so we blended in a tad more.

I actually do understand some of the age comments on the cruise line we took because of the price tag and what is has to offer (meaning it doesn't have slides, ziplines, go karts, etc) but we got "you're too young to be cruising" "okay I have to ask are you bored?" "are you on your honeymoon?" (to which I responded nope celebrating our 12th anniversary though) and then on our last evening a passenger stopped us as we were leaving the main restaurant asking "I've got a daughter who is in her mid-30s do you think her and her husband would like it, they are active people" and so I responded giving my honest opinion but then she asked "do you travel with your parents" which I'll be honest did sorta grate at me because there have been some comments on the FB pages about younger people and presuming they are only there on the ship because their parents paid for it. I know that passenger was more asking would we feel okay traveling with our parents which we have taken vacations with my in-laws but we've paid for our portions of it since the beginning, but still yeah. Every time a passenger would make a comment I would explain "this is more our pace, we use the ports for action, etc"

So sometimes the age thing goes both ways where you're presumed to be too old or presumed to be too young (not talking about places where a child would actually be considered to be too young). I can understand how it feels getting those comments but I would also stand my ground in them in this case staying put to watch the fireworks. People don't need to get satisfaction from guilt tripping you when you're not at all being inconsiderate to others and just trying to enjoy your own time there. I get the feeling too that people who proclaim the loudest that Disney is for kids while there with their kids don't care at all about Disney and are only there because it's considered a thing you're supposed to do with your kids meaning their snide comments hold no actual weight (not that they would anyhow but you get what I'm meaning).