Your opinion on teen motherhood

[BabyPiglet]

They could have used protection, but it might not have worked

The only way to insure not getting pregnant is to not have sex

True, but it doesn't happen that often.

 

[I'm a Divaaaaa]

Let's just say that I know a 16-year-old mother that does a hell of a better job than a lot of 20 something parents.

 

[Addicted.to.Speed]

isnt it illegal to have sex before you turn 18?

 

[BabyPiglet]

Lol, no. Just if it's a minor and a person overage. Or if the 2 minors are 4/5 years apart.

Or at least that's how it is in my state.

 

[HouseMD1120]

isnt it illegal to have sex before you turn 18?

Only with another person over the age of 18.

And I can tell that this is going to be an entertaining thread.

 

[The Wendy Bird]

They could have used protection, but it might not have worked

The only way to insure not getting pregnant is to not have sex

 

[Addicted.to.Speed]

Oh okay i wasnt sure if its a state-to-state difference or a nationwide law, cause its illegal in the state that i live in

 

[saratogadreamin09]

I have a feeling this is turning into a teen sex thread



Honestly, I dont see why teens are having sex. Sure its enoyable, but do you really have to as a teen? Life is so much easier as a teen not having sex, no STD's, no babies.


No offense to the teen mother, I still think your really brave and I think its wonderful you didnt get an abortion. I just dont get why teens have to have sex

 

[imabrat]

I think, if protection is used and it fails, you can't condemn the mother. Accidents happen. They were practicing safe sex, because face it - people are going to have sex anyway. If they want to practice safe sex and it backfires, I can't condemn them. It takes A LOT of cajones to abort a fetus. I honestly don't know if I would be able to do it - and yes I absolutely support a woman's right to choose.

The way I see it, if I am blessed to be pregnant, I'm going to have that baby, God willing! Maybe it's just because I know there is a possibility of being infertile, but that goes for anyone. The only way I would abort my fetus would be if I was in dire financial strait where I could barely support myself. That's just my opinion for me, not for anyone else.

YMMV.

 

[imabrat]

I have a feeling this is turning into a teen sex thread



Honestly, I dont see why teens are having sex. Sue its enoyable, but do you really have to as a teen? Life is so much easier not having sex, no STD's, no babies.


No offense to the teen mother, I still think your really brave and I think its wonderful you didnt get an abortion. I just dont get why teens have to have sex

I think teens have sex because it's a thrill. People get bored in little towns where there's nothing to do but drugs or sex. Others, it's the "I'm doing something my parents say I'm not to!" thought. Some people are just naturally, uh..ahem, randy. Humans are very sexual creatures - we are either the only or one of the few species who have sex for pleasure, aside from reproduction.

 

[princess_adriela]

I totally agree with most of you, others not so much. Yes at 15 I shouldnt have been having sex but I was n that was my choice. We were inexperienced, young, and stupid but what we did was already done n adoption or abortion was not an oppt. so we took responsibility for our actions n like that overnight we were made into adults not by will but by force. Just because Im a teen mom Im not what everyone sterotypes a teen mom to be like. I actually finished high school n Im going to start college in the fall. True I started out life waaaaaaay sooner than girls my age but thats life for me I made a mistake but I learned from it n Im incredibly happy being a mom. N no people dnt have the right to judge me or anyone else for that matter! But thanks for everyones opinions especially for those encouraging ones

 

[saratogadreamin09]

I think teens have sex because it's a thrill. People get bored in little towns where there's nothing to do but drugs or sex. Others, it's the "I'm doing something my parents say I'm not to!" thought. Some people are just naturally, uh..ahem, randy. Humans are very sexual creatures - we are either the only or one of the few species who have sex for pleasure, aside from reproduction.

I think sex for pleasure is fine, but I just dont think its fine for teens IMHO

 

[imabrat]

I think sex for pleasure is fine, but I just dont think its fine for teens IMHO

May I ask why not?
What suddenly makes it okay to have sex when you're 20, and not 19? Age doesn't determine maturity - quite frankly some people in their 30s shouldn't be having sex!

 

[saratogadreamin09]

May I ask why not?
What suddenly makes it okay to have sex when you're 20, and not 19? Age doesn't determine maturity - quite frankly some people in their 30s shouldn't be having sex!

Let me re-word that, having sex while your still in high school or college.

There are so many things that can happen because of sex and in most cases they are going to negatively effect our life. Its so much easier to go through school not worried about being pregnant or having a STD. Theres so many other ways you can bond with your boyfriend, without taking risks. I just dont get why its so necessary for some people to ruch sex

 

[The Wendy Bird]

I totally agree with most of you, others not so much. Yes at 15 I shouldnt have been having sex but I was n that was my choice. We were inexperienced, young, and stupid but what we did was already done n adoption or abortion was not an oppt. so we took responsibility for our actions n like that overnight we were made into adults not by will but by force. Just because Im a teen mom Im not what everyone sterotypes a teen mom to be like. I actually finished high school n Im going to start college in the fall. True I started out life waaaaaaay sooner than girls my age but thats life for me I made a mistake but I learned from it n Im incredibly happy being a mom. N no people dnt have the right to judge me or anyone else for that matter! But thanks for everyones opinions especially for those encouraging ones

I don't think having sex at a young age is a good thing, but I do admire you for taking on the responsibilty of raising your child. I also admire the fact that you are doing everything like finishing school and going to college to do everything to provide for your child.

 

[BabyPiglet]

You don't think we should have sex at college? That's a lot longer than most people are willing to wait.

People have sex when their teens for the same reasons adults have sex -- for pleasure, money, or because they're pressured.

Turning 18 or 21 or even getting a college degree does not magically make you mature.

I really dislike the way people are antagonizing this thread with their smilies and posts of 'oh, this will be interesting...'.

On another note, my 15 year old cousin had a baby. She didn't know who the father was because she slept around so much. In the end her mother (my aunt) ended up taking custody of the child and my cousin went off to have more kids who have been in and out of the foster care system. She got married to a random dude after knowing him for a week, and she is now to mooching off the welfare system and calling the cops every 5 seconds.

That is when I am not in support of teen sex, and that is why I do not talk to my cousin anymore. It's weird because she's only 4 years older than me, and we are more than complete opposites. We were raised similiarly, yet she chooses to live her life like that.

So, the point of my story is...if you're going to act like my cousin, don't have sex at all. And don't reproduce, please.

 

[Disney Dork]

I think teens have sex because it's a thrill. People get bored in little towns where there's nothing to do but drugs or sex. Others, it's the "I'm doing something my parents say I'm not to!" thought. Some people are just naturally, uh..ahem, randy. Humans are very sexual creatures - we are either the only or one of the few species who have sex for pleasure, aside from reproduction.

We aren't the only ones, trust me.

*Just saw a movie about it in Biology Tues.*



But anyway, my opinion on the matter is this (and I actually have a friend who is 19, married and has a 1 1/2 y.o. son):

It's your life and your body. You can do what ever you want to with it. Teens want to have sex? Fine. Let them have sex. But, they're going to have to realize that there are consequences to that sometimes, one of which is becoming pregnant (and I actually know a lady that was on the pill and still got pregnant anyway. So those don't work 100% of the time).

OP: I'm sorry you get treated that way. Some people really need to mind their own buisiness. You having a child right now does not affect them in any way, shape or fashion. So they have no right to be treating you that way at all.

 

[bananda]

i personally dont think teenagers should be having sex. part of this is religious so i wont go into that. but i think most teenagers are not mature enough. however, i dont think anyone has the right to judge. we all do things that not everyone will approve of. and good on the mothers for actually keeping the baby.

princess_adriela, i really respect you for accepting the responsibility of becoming a mother and still finishing high school

 

[saratogadreamin09]

You don't think we should have sex at college? That's a lot longer than most people are willing to wait.

People have sex when their teens for the same reasons adults have sex -- for pleasure, money, or because they're pressured.

Turning 18 or 21 or even getting a college degree does not magically make you mature.

I really dislike the way people are antagonizing this thread with their smilies and posts of 'oh, this will be interesting...'.

On another note, my 15 year old cousin had a baby. She didn't know who the father was because she slept around so much. In the end her mother (my aunt) ended up taking custody of the child and my cousin went off to have more kids who have been in and out of the foster care system. She got married to a random dude after knowing him for a week, and she is now to mooching off the welfare system and calling the cops every 5 seconds.

That is when I am not in support of teen sex, and that is why I do not talk to my cousin anymore. It's weird because she's only 4 years older than me, and we are more than complete opposites. We were raised similiarly, yet she chooses to live her life like that.

So, the point of my story is...if you're going to act like my cousin, don't have sex at all. And don't reproduce, please.

Honestly, Im more afraid of having sex in college then in high school. Anybody can have a STD, but most of the people I go to high school with Ive known for awhile. While the people Ill meet in college I wont known for that long.

Im actually scared to death of dating in college at all

 

[Sparx]

i lost my virginity when i was fifteen. was it a mistake? yes. yes it was. i was pressured into it and could i make another decision, i definitely would. but the past is the past, and all it can do is influence the way i live my life now. so judge me all you want for having sex young. but i'm not a bad person, i just made a bad decision, and i have since recovered from it and i am in a long term, serious relationship, and guess what. we're not having sex. my boyfriend is 22 years old, a virgin, and we plan to keep it that way until marriage. we're moving in together in a few months, for college. but we're not having sex. most people have a hard time wrapping their head around that. i haven't had sex since i was fifteen, and i won't until i'm married, probably.

but back on topic.
i have two teen mothers in my homeroom. and i think its a bad decision, but i only say that because i made the same decision that they did. i've had sex, so i can tell you that when youre young you don't need it. and you definitely don't need a baby. but since some of us end up with them, judging and condemning them won't help anything. personally, i take teen mothers as a learning experience of something i don't want to be.

my mom was 19 when i was born. she dropped out of highschool and we lived under the poverty level for many years. but my mom went back to school and now she is in graduate school, working for the state of tennessee, and making more money than she ever has.

so, it doesn't always end badly. it doesn't have to. but its very hard. it will be very hard. and i wish all of you luck, that someday you'll end up where my mom is, or in an even better place.