your funeral

[tammy]

Bet: I am so sorry to hear about your mom.

 

[Beast fan]

After some thought, here are my conclusions of what I want for my funeral and burial.......
Casket....should be purple. What other color would the Beast want?
Music.... I want our church hand-bell choir to play two songs...... Amazing Grace and the theme song from "Beauty and the Beast".

Burial or cremation.... that, for me, would be up to the family. I'll be in heaven. They would have to live with their decision.
If a burial, I would want on my tombstone the following "He's been a son and a dad, now he's home with the Father".

 

[WDW Poly Princess]

Between my dad passing away earlier this year, and one of my best friends being a funeral director, I've had a lot of chances to think about it!

I wish I could be burried with no coffin, so that my body could go back into the earth, but apparently they have rules against that, so now my only real want is for Grim Grinning Ghosts to be played at the funeral. I'd rather have people smiling than crying!

I also know that I want the quote "I have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night" on my tombstone. And it should be one of those nifty ones with a big drawing of some sort on the back.

Plan B is simply to live forever, which I favor.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

I want to be cremated, then have my husband and kids take my ashes to WDW, and discreetly sprinkle them throughout Disney property.

You know, I bet I am not the only one who like to to spend ever-after in WDW, I wonder if they will ever cash in on that. Section off a piece of land to have your ashes buried or sprinkled. Offer a nice service, maybe by Mickey himself. Heck, they do weddings, why not funerals? I would buy a funeral package from Disney!

 

[LisaZoe]

Originally posted by Mskanga
First take every single organ that can possibly be donated to save someone else, then cremate me.
After that I want my ashes to be thrown in the ocean and for my family and friends to have a party celebrating my new life.
I don't want anyone crying for me.

This is very similar to my wishes. My siblings and I lost 5 close family members in less than 2 years - and I was 20-21 at the time. My Grandfathers' passings were somewhat expected as both had been having health problems. However, my Father and younger sister were in a fatal car accident. My Mother died within a year from cancer that was diagnosed just 3 months after the car accident.

As a result, I had a several services close together that made me think about what I'd want when I go. Take what is usable, cremate the rest, scatter the ashes wherever is allowed and have a big party. While I'd hope no one cries, I doubt that is realistic. However, I want more laughter than tears to be shared when people gather to discuss my life and their memories of me.

Of course, I don't plan for any of this to be needed for 50 or 60 years at least and by then I'll just get myself cloned and avoid the issue even longer.

 

[DisneyDreamer8]

I want every piece of me that is still useful to be taken and givin to others so they might have a better life. Then cremate what is left. Take half of my ashes to Sisters Oregon and spread them beneath a tall ponderosa pine out in the woods where I hunt. Then take the rest and spread them at Wickiup, the lake I love.

If relatives needs a place to be near me then I would want them to plant a tree in my honor and think of me when they look at it.

 

[LisaZoe]

Originally posted by Disney1fan2002
You know, I bet I am not the only one who like to to spend ever-after in WDW, I wonder if they will ever cash in on that. Section off a piece of land to have your ashes buried or sprinkled. Offer a nice service, maybe by Mickey himself. Heck, they do weddings, why not funerals? I would buy a funeral package from Disney!

I'm suprised they haven't developed something already. I can see that they wouldn't want to have a cemetary on sight - although that could really add to the Haunted House ambiance. However, ash scattering wouldn't seem like it would be a major hurdle to cover. I know I'd be happy at the thought of my family and friends gathering to have fun together in remembrance of me - and what better place than Disney.

 

[ladydancer]

My daughter and I just had this discusion the other day. A friend of her's father is dying and the son has no idea about any ins. policy's or what should be done for the funeral or the estate ect. We have had this talk a few years ago but she just wanted to update with me on things.

I want just a 1 day viewing. No need to drag it out. I just want friends and family to tell some story of something funny we did together or anything they might like to say.

They can either bury me or cremate me. I don't care.

I have told her where my ins. policies are located. Where the combo to my safe is located, where important papers are kept. Also what to do incase we are unable to make decisions about our heath care. We have all the paper work done medically and financially so they will have all the information.

So hopefully they it will be less burdensome.

 

[~*Belle 2003*~]

I want a Green (environmentally-friendly) Burial.

I'd like a Willow coffin, short non religious service/cremation and my ashes scattered in a wood or meadow in England.

I'll leave it up to DH to choose some music, he knows what I like.

We don't have viewings/wakes in our family - thank goodness!

 

[Kitty 34]

Originally posted by wvjules
I wonder how many people actually care about me enough to even show up at the darned thing.

I would, Wvjules.

I'm sorry to hear about your Mom, Bet. That's got to be so hard.

I want there to be lots of laughter at my funeral as they remember all the fun I had in life.

 

[missypie]

I'm getting of an age where I go to the funerals of people I don't know or don't know well...e.g. the parents of my friends, the spouse of a client, etc. As a Christian, I really don't mind going to Christian funerals. The scriptures that are read are so comforting. And I enjoy hearing about people's lives, even if I didn't know them.

I have a file folder that gives my funeral preferences in music and in scripture. I'm a real estate lawyer, so I want the choir to sing "When I Can Read My Title Clear." I hope that folks will see the humor in that.

What I would really like is to have a DJ for the visitation, to play as background music all my favorite songs...you know, oldies from when I was in high school, etc.

 

[nativetxn]

I have no special requests or even ideas for what type of funeral I would like to have (in about 75 years)

I want my loved ones to arrange a funeral that helps <i>them</i>. I learned a very hard lesson this past summer when my mother died. You need to have a funeral.

My mother always wanted to be cremated and forbade her children to have any type of viewing or visitation or funeral service at all. We followed her wishes.

We met as a family in Sabine County, Texas, where she was born and scattered her ashes.

It has been difficult for me. It's like she's not really gone. I have this insane desire to drive to the nursing home to see her, I keep picking up the phone to call her. It really hurts me that we didn't have that final ceremony, but I promised her and I couldn't break that promise.

I hope that when I die, people can smile through the tears and remember the good things about me or at least not dwell on my shortcomings.

Funerals are for the survivors--not the deceased. I learned that the hard way.

Katholyn

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Originally posted by nativetxn
I have no special requests or even ideas for what type of funeral I would like to have (in about 75 years)

I want my loved ones to arrange a funeral that helps <i>them</i>. I learned a very hard lesson this past summer when my mother died. You need to have a funeral.

My mother always wanted to be cremated and forbade her children to have any type of viewing or visitation or funeral service at all. We followed her wishes.

We met as a family in Sabine County, Texas, where she was born and scattered her ashes.

It has been difficult for me. It's like she's not really gone. I have this insane desire to drive to the nursing home to see her, I keep picking up the phone to call her. It really hurts me that we didn't have that final ceremony, but I promised her and I couldn't break that promise.

I hope that when I die, people can smile through the tears and remember the good things about me or at least not dwell on my shortcomings.

Funerals are for the survivors--not the deceased. I learned that the hard way.

Katholyn

Katholyn, I agree 100%! You definitely need closure.

 

[mrsltg]

Well, having been through my son's death in May, a family friend's in August, and my Nana's last week, I can say with great certainty what I want as death has been a central focus for me for about 5 months now.

I want a Mahogany casket with white satin lining. I want my son's urn placed in the casket with me. I want a wake (2 days) and a funeral with a mass. I want to be buried next to my husband. I want my family to laugh and cry. If there is no crying, they're not sad that I'm gone, and that means I didn't impact them. I want my daughter to deliver my eulogy, and I want her to speak of our time together with warm memories. I want beautiful music and white roses, and most of all, I want the people that I have loved to look at their lives and realize the impact that I had on them.

Erin

 

[VampHeartless]

"Put the Keg on my coffin...and think of me every so often...

Have a loser's day parade for all my friends!!"

Hey Jolie C, get ?!?




I dunno...I want to have a party.

Does Disneyworld do funerals?

Plan on being frozen after I die.

(In case you are all wondering...the Keg is filled with kool-aid as I do not drink alkie-hol)

 

[deborrah]

I have been a store manager for years. Hiring and firing alot of people. I have been nasty to some people. A evil women in the grocery store. I will take your cart , if you have left it in the middle, and move it over the next lane if you are not looking. Have to confess to road rage a more then 10 times. and 2 x husbands.
My new husband says for my funeral he is makin a profit. by selling poking sticks at my funeral. OUCH!. SO if you know me. and want to get threw my funeral quick as possible. Take the non poking lines. Cause I have a feeling there will be a refreshement served in the poking line. cause you will be there for awhile waiting to poke me..

 

[septbride2002]

I want to be buried in what I like to wear - jeans and sweater. Nice jeans - but just jeans - don't put me in a dress or business suit. I want people to get up and talk about me. About the good times so that they can smile when they think of me. Amazing Grace and Ave Maria are NOT to be played! I would prefer music like, "Imagine" by John Lennon. Yellow roses - no red roses or white.

~Amanda

 

[CajunDixie]

After several family funerals last year I told my DH I know exactly what I want for myself. I want to have any useable organs donated, be cremated, have a 1 day outdoor service that includes none of my relatives getting overly religious (one cousin at my uncle's service insisted my uncle was going to he** since he had never asked this nephew to "be saved" then proceeded to ask all of us to raise our hands if we thought we were going to Heaven...my bro and I told our parents to get rid of this cousin in their funeral plans or we wouldn't be there), have a bagpiper play Amazing Grace at the end of the service, and then spread my ashes in Yellowstone.

My parents have everything preplanned (and yes they agreed to drop the nutty cousin since they found him to be offensive too) including already having their stone and plot at the family cemetery.

 

[WDWFAN9]

I already have my marker designed - and it includes an engraved Cinderella's Castle! I have shared many, many WDW vacations with my loved ones, and when they "visit" I want them to smile.

When my Mom died we placed small Mickey and Minnie beanie babies in the coffin during the viewing, and when it was time to close the casket each grandkid put in something special as a remembrance of a really terrific grammy. My dad was so heart-broken he didn't want any other special touches - the obit was very straightforward and we only displayed their wedding picture and a recent picture on display.

My Dad passed away only 9 months after my Mom. His obit included a lot of personalized info, even mentioning his and my mom's love of WDW and how he always remembered to buy every one Mickey ears ice cream when we were there. My sister took one of those Mickey shaped forms and using clay, a popcycle stick, and some brown paint, created a Mickey bar to put in the casket. We displayed lots of photos - and - not everyone would be comfortable with this - we took pictures at the funeral home. After Mom's funeral we realized that so much of it was a blur, the beautiful flowers, etc. So my sister and I took pictures.

Everyone grieves differently, and everyone has different ideas. That is why it is so important to talk with your family about this difficult subject. My parents had pre-arranged a lot with the funeral home, and that definitely made such a sad time just a little bit easier. This is not an easy subject to think about, but it is so much kinder for the survivors if some decisions have been made.

 

[totalia]

What I would really like is to be boxed up and have one of the space capsuls jet me into the sun. But since that isn't going to happen.

I haven't thought much about the actual service except that I want to be cremated and I don't want it to be a Christian ceremony (I'm Wiccan).

The rest of it, what do I care? I'll be dead.