your funeral

[Trish5768]

I want this written on my tombstone:

Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, proclaiming loudly "Wow, what a ride!"

Yellow roses and stargazer lilys and a simple service given by the people closest to me at my church.

 

[luvdisney81]

Organs donated. Then if i die and still look like me (meaning i don't get sickly looking or scars, cuts, stitches showing) then i will have a viewing if my family chooses. I understand some people need to see the body and say goodbye to feel closure, that evening can be more somber. Then be cremated.

The ceremony: No one in black or dark clothing is allowed. Sorry my life is not a sad one and anyone who has ever met me knows that. I want the happy times and life to be remembered. Amazing Grace will be played but it will be up tempo. I like flowers but they die and are costly. Send the money to Make-A-Wish so a child can experience Disney with their family. My favorite place and memories are their so I want more people to have that same experience. Then a party afterwards. Don't think it is appropriate, well then don't come. I want good food, no casseroles! I want lots of laughs, have a well mixed drink on me too. I love alcohol, I appreciate a good martini like a fine wine. I also like fine wine so have that too. Ideally, I want a jazz band there, something New Orleans style.

 

[luvdisney81]

oops forgot to say. My ashes, placed at a theatre somewhere, whatever theatre i feel is my home by the end of my life, with a little plaque that says

"Travel is not about seeing sights. It's something deep and permanent in the way you live."

 

[JVL1018]

I can SAY I don't want anyone crying for me..but really that's not going to happen. Of course people will cry, and laugh and reminisce, it's all a natural part.
I am sure my Mom would not have wanted us to be sad when she died, but we were.
I was okay at the wake, sometimes laughing, joking, but whenever a close friend of my Mom's, or someone that has been Mom-like to me, and most of all when our neighbor, a friend of my Mom's and the mom of the kids across the street growing up, someone who reminded me so much of my childhood came in, I held on to her for dear life and bawled my eyes out.
And that was fine, even though my Mom would not have wanted me to be sad, *I* needed to be.

Wakes and funerals are for the ones remaining so as far as I'm concerned my closest relatives can make whatever arrangements will make THEM feel best.
I just hope that it is my great grandchildren along with my children and grandchildren making these arrangements. LOL

If I had to choose:a wake, closed casket, cremation and scatter my ashes someplace beautiful.

 

[Tinkertude]

My dd jokingly suggested that I request to be cremated and that my ashes be spread in Hawaii.

I have been in a breast cancer support group for 8 yrs now. One night this topic came up. Linda said she would like to be buried in the middle of a grain field. That way her husband would atleast come to visit once a year. Opening day of Quail season.

When my dear friend died she had written instructions on a yellow legal pad. And signed it "Say Goodnight Gracie"

Some will not appreciate our dark humor, sorry, but ya gotta laugh to get thru it .

 

[disykat]

organ donation, cremation, followed by a memorial at my church with lots of music. I want as little money spent as possible and for my loved ones to use memorial funds on whatever charitable donation that they decide would best remember me. I don't want flowers - send money for charity!

I don't care where my ashes go. Can't they just leave them at the place they cremate me or do they have to take some?

 

[danacara]

When my stepfather died of cancer in 2000, we found his instructions - I think he used a program called Willmaker to generate them and they were awesome. Really prevented a lot of family conflict. In any case, he didn't want a wake or funeral, he wanted a party. Specifically, he wanted a get-together at the funeral home cause the director was a friend of his, and then he wanted a backyard barbeque with a deejay and catering. And, that's exactly what we got. Years later, people still remember it as a particularly good time.