Young dating...

[BabyPiglet]

First of all who are you to tell me how I feel and how people feel about me?

second no, he wasn't joking, he does love me, but as a sister and I love him as a brother.

That boy could have been in love. say the girl really really liked him but wasn't in love with him. He could still love her, because he could have been missled by her really liking him. Love grows on people, you don't love a person you just met. and no, you can't love someone from afar, that would be considered infatuation. But if you have been dating the person or have been really close to that person for some time, than yes, one of those people could be in love but the other doesn't have to be. just like you can like someone but the other person doesn't have to like you back.

and as for my ex boyfriend, again how can you tell me how I felt for him? I wasn't infatuated, I wasn't misled by having a boyfriend. He was really my first love. You can have many loves through out your life, but there is ONE that you trully love, and dating is what lets you figure out who is your true love. You may find your true love in highschool, but you aren't gunna find it with your first boyfriend with in the first couple of weeks or even months of dating him. Your true love might be your first boyfriend, but your not gunna know that within the first couple of months, EXPECIALLY if it is your first boyfriend and you haven't had any experience before, because everyone elses expeirence is different. You can't go off of what other people feel for their significant others, because it isn't you and it isn't your significant other. for you love could be he makes your heart melt everytime he looks in your eyes. But for me it could be someone putting me down and then picking me back up again. everyone is different, therefore everyones style of love is different. you can't tell people who they love and why. But you can be realistic about it.

Um. First of all I did not tell you how you felt about him. I said I don't THINK you loved him. That is all I have to say about that.

But what if the girl hadn't seen any signs of what is happening behind her back, and he actually does act like he loves her?

I honestly dont know about that situation.

 

[Sparx]

First of all who are you to tell me how I feel and how people feel about me?

second no, he wasn't joking, he does love me, but as a sister and I love him as a brother.

That boy could have been in love. say the girl really really liked him but wasn't in love with him. He could still love her, because he could have been missled by her really liking him. Love grows on people, you don't love a person you just met. and no, you can't love someone from afar, that would be considered infatuation. But if you have been dating the person or have been really close to that person for some time, than yes, one of those people could be in love but the other doesn't have to be. just like you can like someone but the other person doesn't have to like you back.

and as for my ex boyfriend, again how can you tell me how I felt for him? I wasn't infatuated, I wasn't misled by having a boyfriend. He was really my first love. You can have many loves through out your life, but there is ONE that you trully love, and dating is what lets you figure out who is your true love. You may find your true love in highschool, but you aren't gunna find it with your first boyfriend with in the first couple of weeks or even months of dating him. Your true love might be your first boyfriend, but your not gunna know that within the first couple of months, EXPECIALLY if it is your first boyfriend and you haven't had any experience before, because everyone elses expeirence is different. You can't go off of what other people feel for their significant others, because it isn't you and it isn't your significant other. for you love could be he makes your heart melt everytime he looks in your eyes. But for me it could be someone putting me down and then picking me back up again. everyone is different, therefore everyones style of love is different. you can't tell people who they love and why. But you can be realistic about it.

You seemed ready to tell me that I'm not in love, and thats okay, but its not okay when someone says the same to you?

 

[BabyPiglet]

First of all who are you to tell me how I feel and how people feel about me?

second no, he wasn't joking, he does love me, but as a sister and I love him as a brother.

That boy could have been in love. say the girl really really liked him but wasn't in love with him. He could still love her, because he could have been missled by her really liking him. Love grows on people, you don't love a person you just met. and no, you can't love someone from afar, that would be considered infatuation. But if you have been dating the person or have been really close to that person for some time, than yes, one of those people could be in love but the other doesn't have to be. just like you can like someone but the other person doesn't have to like you back.

and as for my ex boyfriend, again how can you tell me how I felt for him? I wasn't infatuated, I wasn't misled by having a boyfriend. He was really my first love. You can have many loves through out your life, but there is ONE that you trully love, and dating is what lets you figure out who is your true love. You may find your true love in highschool, but you aren't gunna find it with your first boyfriend with in the first couple of weeks or even months of dating him. Your true love might be your first boyfriend, but your not gunna know that within the first couple of months, EXPECIALLY if it is your first boyfriend and you haven't had any experience before, because everyone elses expeirence is different. You can't go off of what other people feel for their significant others, because it isn't you and it isn't your significant other. for you love could be he makes your heart melt everytime he looks in your eyes. But for me it could be someone putting me down and then picking me back up again. everyone is different, therefore everyones style of love is different. you can't tell people who they love and why. But you can be realistic about it.

Also you can have more than one person you truly love.

 

[AngienLuLu]

Also you can have more than one person you truly love.

 

[Mickey1122]

i go to a middle school (6-8) with a population of 1,000 and there are about 30 mothers already and about 20 more walking around pregnant. its incredible.

one of my best friends is a dad and he's in 8th grade. yeah.

An earlier post in the thread, but Yes, five shock smileys.
About the age, I honestly don't think it should start until 15/16. Elementary school, it should not happen period. That's absolutely preposterous. Middle school-ehh. I honestly don't believe it's 'for real.' It's almost a joke. You don't want to spend the rest of your life with the person, and a lot of it is for show.
High school is a different story, just so long as you know what doesn't happen.
In my town, there is a HUGE stigma against 'it.' It's looked upon as disgusting that people would do 'it' in high school. Again, you are getting another little sneak peak at my town, which seems to be extraordinarily different from everyone else's. Here, the majority is very conscious of school and fashion. We are all a bit preppy, and the whole relationship thing is not huge.

 

[Sparx]

An earlier post in the thread, but Yes, five shock smileys.
About the age, I honestly don't think it should start until 15/16. Elementary school, it should not happen period. That's absolutely preposterous. Middle school-ehh. I honestly don't believe it's 'for real.' It's almost a joke. You don't want to spend the rest of your life with the person, and a lot of it is for show.
High school is a different story, just so long as you know what doesn't happen.
In my town, there is a HUGE stigma against 'it.' It's looked upon as disgusting that people would do 'it' in high school. Again, you are getting another little sneak peak at my town, which seems to be extraordinarily different from everyone else's. Here, the majority is very conscious of school and fashion. We are all a bit preppy, and the whole relationship thing is not huge.

Honestly (and please don't take this the wrong way) it seems like anything that isn't "preppy" and "good" is shunned in your town. I dunno. I couldn't live there. It seems like a very sheltered town, to be honest with you. I'm not trying to attack you for living there, it just seems like your town is very very ultra "leave it to beaver" or "I love lucy". You know, the tv shows that show perfect wives, perfect (well, almost) kids, perfect dads working their perfect 9-5 jobs.

I'm probably way off, but from what you've said about where you live, that is the impression I'm getting. Please, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

 

[AngienLuLu]

An earlier post in the thread, but Yes, five shock smileys.
About the age, I honestly don't think it should start until 15/16. Elementary school, it should not happen period. That's absolutely preposterous. Middle school-ehh. I honestly don't believe it's 'for real.' It's almost a joke. You don't want to spend the rest of your life with the person, and a lot of it is for show.
High school is a different story, just so long as you know what doesn't happen.
In my town, there is a HUGE stigma against 'it.' It's looked upon as disgusting that people would do 'it' in high school. Again, you are getting another little sneak peak at my town, which seems to be extraordinarily different from everyone else's. Here, the majority is very conscious of school and fashion. We are all a bit preppy, and the whole relationship thing is not huge.

You are exactly right. A joke. Sex is the cool thing to do. It's like a game.

 

[Mickey1122]

Honestly (and please don't take this the wrong way) it seems like anything that isn't "preppy" and "good" is shunned in your town. I dunno. I couldn't live there. It seems like a very sheltered town, to be honest with you. I'm not trying to attack you for living there, it just seems like your town is very very ultra "leave it to beaver" or "I love lucy". You know, the tv shows that show perfect wives, perfect (well, almost) kids, perfect dads working their perfect 9-5 jobs.

I'm probably way off, but from what you've said about where you live, that is the impression I'm getting. Please, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

You are actually pretty close. No flames from me either--it's very, very sheltered. In a sense, my town isn't representative of typical America. It's small and suburban, near NYC, with a lot of wealthy businesspeople who make the daily commute. Everything is very uniform, and there is no graffiti or gang violence anywhere. Cliques don't really exist (excluding goths), and everyone gets along. The school has it's share of not-so-bright people, but for the most part, we are above averages in terms of grades and test scores on things like AP exams and SATs. There's never been anything to change this kind of view because the majority of the surrounding towns are similar. It's a blessing and a curse. The % that goes to college after school is close to 100, and many turn out successful, but we are shielded from the so-called real world.

 

[BabyPiglet]

You are exactly right. A joke. Sex is the cool thing to do. It's like a game.

Here, sex is one big joke. People joke about it all the time. Not many people do it underage, but some do.

Sex is nothing to joke about. The kids at my (old) school just didn't get this.

 

[Sparx]

You are actually pretty close. No flames from me either--it's very, very sheltered. In a sense, my town isn't representative of typical America. It's small and suburban, near NYC, with a lot of wealthy businesspeople who make the daily commute. Everything is very uniform, and there is no graffiti or gang violence anywhere. Cliques don't really exist (excluding goths), and everyone gets along. The school has it's share of not-so-bright people, but for the most part, we are above averages in terms of grades and test scores on things like AP exams and SATs. There's never been anything to change this kind of view because the majority of the surrounding towns are similar. It's a blessing and a curse. The % that goes to college after school is close to 100, and many turn out successful, but we are shielded from the so-called real world.

I could never live somewhere like that.

 

[LizzySwan1022]

I've only had "abstinence only" sex ed. and 4 years of it, at that. Nothing has soured me more on abstinence than that did. Other things should be taught. Abstinence only is bad.

My homeroom is a health room, there are tons of posters all over the place, but it's not an abstinice base program.

The house rule for me was 14 years old. Guys have asked me out, but I have yet to go on a date with any. I think you shouldn't date until you're ready, or into the person. Like, I haven't gone out on a date because I never really liked the guys who asked me out.

 

[2HOT2touch]

You seemed ready to tell me that I'm not in love, and thats okay, but its not okay when someone says the same to you?

I never said you didn't love him, I simply asked how you knew that you loved him after only dating him and not actually meeting him for like a month or less. and since he is your first boyfriend how did you know? I NEVER said you didn't love him and I never said you shouldn't. I just wanted to know how you knew, because to me it just isn't logical.

 

[BabyPiglet]

I never said you didn't love him, I simply asked how you knew that you loved him after only dating him and not actually meeting him for like a month or less. and since he is your first boyfriend how did you know? I NEVER said you didn't love him and I never said you shouldn't. I just wanted to know how you knew, because to me it just isn't logical.

I never said you postively didn't love him either.

I said in my opinion it wasn't real love. And it's bull crap that you can only have one true love.

 

[2HOT2touch]

back to the subject of the post. I have been dating since I was in 7th grade, but it didn't start to mean anything to me untill I got to high school. I have a boyfriend now, but I don't know if I love him, because we have only been dating for almost 2 months, but I know it is serious and I know he makes me happy. But for me dating young kind of helped me as I got older. and in my house my mom never told me I couldn't have sex, she just said she would rather me to have it after I turned 16 and just to make sure that I was careful.But I don't believe you should be intimate with someone unless you completely trust them, and are ready for anything that could happen.

 

[2HOT2touch]

I never said you postively didn't love him either.

I said in my opinion it wasn't real love. And it's bull crap that you can only have one true love.

Okay, so you can have more than one true love, but you can't love someone that doesn't love you back...I'm sorry but I'm a little bit confused. If you have a true love how do you know you have another unless one of them isn't in love with you, therefore you are no longer with them...?

 

[BabyPiglet]

Okay, so you can have more than one true love, but you can't love someone that doesn't love you back...I'm sorry but I'm a little bit confused. If you have a true love how do you know you have another unless one of them isn't in love with you, therefore you are no longer with them...?

Again I will say that there are different kind of loves.

I truly love me mother and my father, so does that mean I can't love them both.

Or when I had a boyfriend and was truly in love with him, I can't love all of them?

 

[2HOT2touch]

Again I will say that there are different kind of loves.

I truly love me mother and my father, so does that mean I can't love them both.

Or when I had a boyfriend and was truly in love with him, I can't love all of them?

Wait, I thnk you just proved my point!
you said WHEN you had a boyfriend you loved him. what happened? did he not love you? or did you fall out of love? because if he didn't love you then that means you loved someone that didnt love you back. and if you fell out of love then you loved him at one point but then you fell out of love and what if he loved you but you fell out of love with him, then he could still love you. therefore you can love somoene that doesn't love you back.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Wait, I thnk you just proved my point!
you said WHEN you had a boyfriend you loved him. what happened? did he not love you? or did you fall out of love? because if he didn't love you then that means you loved someone that didnt love you back. and if you fell out of love then you loved him at one point but then you fell out of love and what if he loved you but you fell out of love with him, then he could still love you. therefore you can love somoene that doesn't love you back.

WOW you are soo off...

I did love him. We went out for 3 years. Trust me, I loved him. I broke up with him because I needed some space, and I just wanted to be a teenager for a while before falling into a rut. I wanted to explore my options before becoming even more serious with Mason.

And do you want to know how I knew I truly loved him. Because I can't even explain the pain I went through after that. Crying myself to sleep every night, and everyday regretting it. But I knew it was for the best. I am still deeply in love with him. And it hurt me everyday at school when I saw him with his rebound girl.

I can't even explain this too you.

 

[2HOT2touch]

WOW you are soo off...

I did love him. We went out for 3 years. Trust me, I loved him. I broke up with him because I needed some space, and I just wanted to be a teenager for a while before falling into a rut. I wanted to explore my options before becoming even more serious with Mason.

And do you want to know how I knew I truly loved him. Because I can't even explain the pain I went through after that. Crying myself to sleep every night, and everyday regretting it. But I knew it was for the best. I am still deeply in love with him. And it hurt me everyday at school when I saw him with his rebound girl.

I can't even explain this too you.

well, I'm sorry you went through that.
But can you explain to me why exactly you think that one person can't love someone with out that person loving them back, because I really don't understand, and I would like to.

 

[BabyPiglet]

well, I'm sorry you went through that.
But can you explain to me why exactly you think that one person can't love someone with out that person loving them back, because I really don't understand, and I would like to.

It is hard to explain. But I believe it takes two to love. In romantic love that is. If the other person doesn't have that passionate, deep love then I don't think you can TRULY love him/her until he/she does.