Yet another potty training problem.....

[dyna]

Gson is 3.7 yrs old WANTS to use potty ASKS to use potty is still in diapers an told to just go in diaper. He has a peter potty an 2 regular pottys in bathroom at home but the door is locked to keep him an his brother out who is 2.2 months an curious about potty an has pottyed more than once for me.

The older one seems willing to poop in potty as well as pee in it as he said he had to poop the other night an was told to go in diaper an he needed changed about 5 mins later.

I've suggested putting potty out in kitchen where he can get to it but parents thought that was nasty I said living room then well the baby 2 would play in it. I said empty the potty soon as he uses it rinse it out a bit it will be fine.... NO still to nasty to have in living room.

DD has made a few attempts at potty training the 3 yr old but most of those was done way to early. DD also goes to school an sometimes her DH watches the boys says he wants no part of potty training that he will put them in diapers while she at school.

It's summer time the ideal time to potty train when the boys can just run around in training pants at home an don't have to push pants down too, I've bought DD every pair of the thick crotched trainin pants I can find she washes diapers just about every day cause the 2 yr old wears cloth diapers.

I'm to the point I'm ready to put Gsons parents in diapers for a couple weeks an make them wear them till I tell them they can go change diaper.

Any suggestions as to how to get these brats to get the lead out of their pants an get them to potty training their son?

TiA

 

[Peanut&Piglet'sMom]

Sounds mean...but show her this post. Public humiliation usually does the trick.

Do you know how many parents WISH that their child wanted to use the potty rather than a diaper?

Totally laziness on the parents part for sure.

 

[SaraMc]

Why would you still want to change diapers at almost 4! Oh my. My son is almost 3 and is almost fully trained. Partly because neither DH and I want to keep cleaning up his bum, plus he's a big boy and a big brother, he has to show his sister how good he is with the potty.
We also hae him in daycare, when they are 3 and fully trained the cost drops quite a lot. That right there was an incentive for us to get him out of diapers ( and pull ups)

Also, eventually size wise they only go so big.

 

[letsgoagainsoon]

It will be SO much easier for THEM, once he is trained. Don't they get that? Oldest DS was completely trained before he was 3, hoping my youngest 2 will be that easy.

If he is that interested in it, I would think he would be pretty easy to train, plus he is old enough to know when he has to go.

Good luck convincing them...

 

[Zeebs]

Any suggestions as to how to get these brats to get the lead out of their pants an get them to potty training their son?

TiA

Maybe it is time to just let them sort it out as they are their children, although I suspect given this quote you are not going to be able to do that.

We never had a potty anywhere but in the bathroom, (and we only have 1 bathroom and that is upstairs) my view on it was that you need to be able to get to the bathroom to go at some point so why not do it from the start. I have a sucessfully trained son who was certainly not behind any of his peers in being trained. So it can be done without one in other rooms around the house.

Ultimately there isn't much you can do to get them to start potty training, unless you can have your grandson for a week or so and do it while he stays with you.

Kirsten

 

[greens_in_WA]

That's just crazy talk... I don't understand anyone telling their child to do their business in a diaper if a potty was available. The *only* time we told my DD to go ahead and use her pull-up was when we were 30 min. from our destiniation - she held it anyway and that's when I consider her trained - accidents after that, yes, but she knew what to do where.

My MIL was happy to work with potty tranining mine when she watched them and that was fine with me. If it bugs you that much, maybe you could offer to take the older for a bit and work with him - really and truly. But they need to figure out how to keep the younger out and let the older in. But I bet if the older could unlock the door, so could the younger. I'm sure at 3.5, he'd be able to open the door if they showed him how.

Uggh... good luck to you, but yeah, they (esp. the DH) sound a bit selfish.

 

[kevschickee]

I would stay out of it. You aren't his mom she will take care of it.

 

[JoshChristineplus3]

I'd stay out of it because it will just cause drama however unfortunately it sounds like they are lazy and should probably have rethought the parent thing if they didn't want the job. Kids begging to use the potty and them telling them to use diapers is downright WRONG...and pathetic on the parents part.

 

[dyna]

Don't worry unless I can make a simple suggestion to get mom an dad started on potty training I'm stayin out of it....

I'm not bringin Gson to my house to potty train him either. He's here more than enough as it is.

When the Gsons was babies I volunteered to change diapers sometimes when they was here I don't do that no more. DD wants to change diapers I now tell her when the boys need changed. In other words I don't make the diaper thing any easier on DD.

Not that I'm called upon to babysit that often only a couple times since the oldest was born I might throw in I don't babysit children old enough to be potty trained but aren't. Which I need to rephrase because the younger one has PVL an he might not have the control to be accident free for a very long time if ever. In his case tho that is very dif than a mom that is to lazy to potty train.

As far as me not babysitting.... My momma told me I raised you it's now your turn when I had my kids. I told DD the same thing an just like my momma I do babysit when needed. I have another older DD who has watched those boys while their mommy slept because she was up to late on the computer the night before. A long with babysittin the little that DD has worked an almost always while she at school an did her school work. It's not like she not had help maybe sometimes it's been to easy to call upon someone to come help.

 

[bumbershoot]

With our guy, we definitely followed his lead (which started at 18 months). He wanted to use a potty, but did NOT want to go into the bathroom. So we ended up with two cheapie Baby Bjorn Little Potties...one next to the bed, one downstairs in the living room. SO EASY.

It was small enough that it could be moved over to him if he suddenly did his "omg can't move must poop" thing. It was so easy to clean. It was NOT gross.

A friend of mine felt it would teach him to "go" in the living room, but all it did for him was to show how easy it was to poop in a proper receptacle, and that it was so much easier to clean him up after using the potty rather than pooping in the diaper.

Once DS reached a certain point, he would NOT pee in a diaper. He would scream and cry if we were in between stops on the road, and even though I toldl him it was OK if he absolutely couldn't hold it (we weren't going to pull over to the side of the highway, too dangerous), he would hurt himself rather than use the dipe/training pant. I delayed things enough by continuing to put training pants on him...he was done at 2 yo...I did the final wash of the cloth dipes and training pants at 2.5, well after he didn't need them, b/c following his lead and using those extra potties was so good for him.

The parents, if they refuse to follow his lead, are not serving anyone, especially not him, and they are wasting money if they are using disposables (along with landfill space) when he doesn't need to be in dipes anymore...I feel for you, but more importantly, HIM!