Yet again I defend!!!

[btass]

My oldest sister just ripped me a new one about going to WDW "Yet again" as she said! I hate that!

I told her that she goes away multiple times a year (for long weekends) to Pennsylvania and Vermont and New Hampshire. I go away once a year for 4-5 days to Florida. Otherwise I am home.

She says that I am "so much better off than her" because I go to WDW. I told her it is my choice where I go and how I spend my money on vacations and for that fact, I SAVE MY MONEY TO GO! I don't have a credit card, I pay with cash or my debit card for everything.

I told her that she owns a home and is a SAHM and can still afford to go away multiple times a year and I know that they work hard on their budget to be able to do that. I live in an apartment and I work 40 hours a week and I am carfull with my budget so that I can vacation the way I want to.

She is still not convinced that I am not somehow secretly rich. She started getting really nasty about some personal stuff too and I think she just needs to go take some pamprin and nice long bath.

Thanks for letting me vent, I feel much better now!

 

[Michie]

I make it a rule to never discuss our vacation plans with anybody evenmoreso relatives; it makes life so much easier.

 

[JoeEpcotRocks]

Let her think that you're filthy rich . I'd even brag a bit. Just don't loan her any money.

 

[bevtoy]

My sister doesn't like it either when I go, I think your sister and mine are a bit jealous.

 

[Princess Mindy]

unfortunatley the sad truth is that "they" (be them family, friends or coworkers) will never understand what WDW means to us. Personally I feel kinda sorry for them that they have not been able to immerse themselves in the magic of WDW! There is pure joy for you!

 

[lucyanna girl]

I have stopped telling most people when we go. DD and I love WDW and DH doesn't care for it. He does love us and encourages us to go. As long as he feels this way it isn't anyone else's business.
Go and have fun!

Penny

 

[Microcell]

My sister doesn't like it either when I go, I think your sister and mine are a bit jealous.

Mine too! I don't care, as long as I am not asking her for money to go there!

 

[2nd childhood]

unfortunatley the sad truth is that "they" (be them family, friends or coworkers) will never understand what WDW means to us. Personally I feel kinda sorry for them that they have not been able to immerse themselves in the magic of WDW! There is pure joy for you!

I feel the same way. I always wait until a week or so before we leave to tell my family because I really hate hearing the "Disney again" speech or "you've been a 100 times" speech. They just don't get it the way my family does. Although I'm starting to think my DD16 is adopted. She is not the Diney lovers the rest of us are, but we drag her along anyway.

 

[CanadianPaco]

My oldest sister just ripped me a new one about going to WDW "Yet again" as she said! I hate that!

I told her that she goes away multiple times a year (for long weekends) to Pennsylvania and Vermont and New Hampshire. I go away once a year for 4-5 days to Florida. Otherwise I am home.

I like that approach! We're talking about going again next year - only our third time. Already I'm hearing the talk but now I have a better answer than trying to justify our own choices! Thanks!

 

[Iluvthemouse]

Sorry she does that to you...


My BIL is the same way. We have 1 child, live in a modest home and we travel in summer to Caribbean/Mexico and go to Disney in September.
He has 4 children and built this monstrosity house that they can barely afford. When he finds out we are going away all we hear is "must be nice", "wow, did you come into some money?", "are you related to Rockerfeller?"... Uhhh, no, we made our choices and you made yours.

 

[cinmell]

My sister doesn't like it either when I go, I think your sister and mine are a bit jealous.

Jealousy on your sister's part is what came to mind too while reading the OP. Ignore her and enjoy your vacation!

 

[ducklite]

Your sister needs to get a life and cut off her nosey-nose. Ignore her, she's probably jealous.

Anne

 

[s&k'smom]

I know we get that too, but we look for bargains and like others it's what we choose to spend our hard saved money on. Have a wonderful time and I know it's hard but just let go of her comments.

 

[MAKmom]

Let her think that you're filthy rich . I'd even brag a bit. Just don't loan her any money.

OP even if you are rich there is nothing wrong with that. You never have to defend your spending habits to anyone ...unless you are trying to borrow money from them.

Next time she brings money up just say " I'm very good with money...it's a gift" I always say WDW is the best value on earth for my money. Where else can I go & get what I get for my money. I would go insane on a beach for a week.

 

[btass]

OP even if you are rich there is nothing wrong with that.

I like this quote! I really do think she thinks I am rich, only because of the town that I live in. But I live within 3 miles of my parents and my inlaws. Because of all of the "oldies" and my sister in law have health problems, I feel the need, as my husband does, to be near them to help them.

Our son also has special needs and he is benefitting from the school system that can afford to offer the quality of services that he needs to be the boy that he is now and the man he is to become.

I tried to explain to her that me and my DH and DS are making sacrifices (not big ones, I love my apartment) with our living situation now in order to help those in our family with needs. Not financial needs but phsycological needs.

Plus, I would feel very guilty if I could not help them only because I wanted to own a house. I want to own a house but a house is a thing, it is not a person. The people in my family are important to me, not where I live or what "things" I have.

I think that is part of the reason I love WDW so much. When we go there as a family, we are all kids again! We laugh and have fun and play together! No one cares that I am 34 and wearing a funny pair of pink blinking Mickey ears on my head! They laugh along with me and the memories will last forever. It's Magic!

 

[Allison]

Don't worry about her. It really is jealousy.

She thinks you are so much better off than her and that you are secretly rich and this upsets her. So, does that mean all family members should earn the same amount of money and noone should be better off than the lowest wage-earner? Sounds like she needs a reality check.

It is none of her business. Go and have a wonderful time.

 

[Mizz Dizz]

OP even if you are rich there is nothing wrong with that. You never have to defend your spending habits to anyone ...unless you are trying to borrow money from them.

Next time she brings money up just say " I'm very good with money...it's a gift" I always say WDW is the best value on earth for my money. Where else can I go & get what I get for my money. I would go insane on a beach for a week.

Sounds goods to me.

 

[LVSWL]

Oh yeah, we get it all the time, and yet they all have the beach house, or the sailboat or the timeshare at this place or that or take the ski vacation to Colorado each year. We have learned who we can "share" our love of Disney with and who we can't. Oh well, back to planning the next trip!

 

[s&k'smom]

I have to say I agree with what everyone is saying. I know people think we are nuts but we haven't been in almost two years (hopefully 2007) and my kids still bring up some of the things we did. They even talk about the upcoming trip and where they think we should stay. To me that's priceless.

 

[Disney Doll]

Why on earth would you even engage your sister in a conversation about your vacation plans or your finances?

Neither one is any of her business.