WWyd? neighbor kid shows up

[luvmyfam444]

to play w/mine. Have just been introduced to this 5yo girl by another neightbor (girl lives 2 houses down)....she came over 1st day & stayed playng probably 1 hr in our bkyrd, driveway ---eventualyl her mom called out for her to go home (it was about dark) my neighbor introduced us "sally this is clair - clair, sally" & she waved (still in her own yard)....that's it all I've ever seen of the mom.

Now the girl comes over daily - came over @ naptime & when we didn't answer the door she looked in the windows (she told my kids this)...she wanted to see their room in person since she'd already seen it thru the window....

She's come over when dh was home & follwed my kiddos inside (they were to be cleaning) he had to send her out...she's even come once & looked thru the windows when just dh & kids were home & tried coming in the door....

Dh does NOT want her there when he's there - afraid of being accused of something...

I don't want another kid @ my house 'cause I don't want to be responsibel for her when something happens to her...

WOuld you just ignore her - brush her off or would you go down & meet the mom?

My neighbor said mom is a single mom & is just too tired to watch after her after work - this child rides her bike in the street (dh has almost hit her 2x's) she has older brothers (teenage I think) that visit on weekends & according to this neighbor they usually watch after her outside - but when they aren't there she just roams the block.

I feel sorry for her she is a sweet kid -from what I've heard her say...BUT then I DON"T want to be her babysitter either...KWIM

What would you do?

Last few days we jsut haven't been here...that's helped!

 

[PixieDust32]

to play w/mine. Have just been introduced to this 5yo girl by another neightbor (girl lives 2 houses down)....she came over 1st day & stayed playng probably 1 hr in our bkyrd, driveway ---eventualyl her mom called out for her to go home (it was about dark) my neighbor introduced us "sally this is clair - clair, sally" & she waved (still in her own yard)....that's it all I've ever seen of the mom.

Now the girl comes over daily - came over @ naptime & when we didn't answer the door she looked in the windows (she told my kids this)...she wanted to see their room in person since she'd already seen it thru the window....

She's come over when dh was home & follwed my kiddos inside (they were to be cleaning) he had to send her out...she's even come once & looked thru the windows when just dh & kids were home & tried coming in the door....

Dh does NOT want her there when he's there - afraid of being accused of something...
I don't want another kid @ my house 'cause I don't want to be responsibel for her when something happens to her...

WOuld you just ignore her - brush her off or would you go down & meet the mom?

My neighbor said mom is a single mom & is just too tired to watch after her after work - this child rides her bike in the street (dh has almost hit her 2x's) she has older brothers (teenage I think) that visit on weekends & according to this neighbor they usually watch after her outside - but when they aren't there she just roams the block.

I feel sorry for her she is a sweet kid -from what I've heard her say...BUT then I DON"T want to be her babysitter either...KWIM

What would you do?

Last few days we jsut haven't been here...that's helped!

No kidding. To bad that her mom is tired but hello everybody is tired and have things to do.
Well, I think you should talk to her mom about it, you cannot have her there all the time, and you don't have time to watch her or be responsable for her.

 

[kaw1218]

The next time she shows up and you don't want her there, firmly tell her that she needs to go home.
You may have to walk her back home and tell her mom that while you don't mind her coming to visit, say on saturday afternoons, other days are just to hetic for you to care for another child.
I have a next door neighbor child that used to come over everyday -before and after school. I had to start telling her that my kids have chores, they will not be playing right now, and when they are done we will have dinner, and then they need to get their showers(by the end of the list, the girl was backing away!LOL)
It is a very difficult position to be in.
And I don't blame your DH for not wanting to be alone in the house with her. You have no idea what her parent is really like.

 

[PixieDust32]

We had a similar situation with a next door kids, 4 of them, (the moved, well child protection took them)

One cold, very cold day, the kids got off the bus, their Mom wasn't home, and they came to my door and asked me if they could wait for their Mom here, b/c it was so cold, of course I said yes, they came in, and then like 3 hours later their Mom showed up, with a big story about her car and bla bla bla, no big deal, they left.

Then a couple of days later, the same thing, kids came to the door with the same issue, so I let them in, they told me that they were very hungry, so I gave them some food and hot cocoa, they watched TV with my girls, then she just send another kid to get them. OK.

Then a 3rd time, and we were getting ready to go out, then I told the kids that I couldn't stay just b/c her mom was never home when they got off the bus, and we couldn't take them either.

I didn't know what to do, it was a terrible feeling leaving those kids like that.The older was 8!. Then she showed up and I talked to her, I told her that we couldn't take care of her kids for her all the time.
Then one day the police knocked my door and asked me about the kids and the Mom and apparantly someone called to report that the kids were home alone and they had no heat, so they took her kids for about 6 months and then they moved.