suejai
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Some background: My brother, his wife and two daughters(7 & 9), used to live about 40 minutes away and we would either go to his place or they would come to ours for holiday meals, birthdays etc and for Christmas. So obviously we would exchange gifts. Two years ago he moved across the country so we haven't seen them since then. We continued to send my nieces gifts for birthdays and Christmas, as well as souveniers from our first Disney trip. They have never reciprocated by sending gifts or even a card for my son's birthday or Christmas. I figured that it was because they were on a very tight budget, and I understood, but they could have acknowledged the occasions in some way. Add to this I have recently discovered that my nieces have either destroyed or let the dog destroy basically every thing we have ever given them - very disheartening. However, we give gifts because we enjoy giving them and want my nieces to know that we miss them and still think about them. We spent a lot of time and energy getting them special things that we thought they would treasure, based on their interests.
Would you still send gifts or just a card with money and maybe a book or DVD or just not send anything at all. I'm torn, DH thinks we should send nothing as he is ticked off that they take no care of their things.
Would you still send gifts or just a card with money and maybe a book or DVD or just not send anything at all. I'm torn, DH thinks we should send nothing as he is ticked off that they take no care of their things.