WWYD ? 2 differnet social situations ?

[pandora174]

Ok, I tend to be oversensitive so recently within days 2 different social situations have happened to me ? What would guys do ?

1) My DS has been playing with 2 little neighbor girls for the last 3 months, every Sat & Sun they ride his Escalade & ride bikes. I stand outside & their mom also watches from her driveway. We've chatted a few times. I know she comes over on the weekends only as her fiancee lives there. Well my DS gave them his b-day party invite & was assured by the mom & the little girls the day before how excited they were to be coming. I got a bounce house, cotton candy etc. Well party day we see their car but the girls never come. No explanation. Do I ignore it & when the weekend comes just let the kids play like nothing. But my son wants to ask them why they didn't come to his party. His feelings are hurt.

2) My DS tutor became my "friend" on Facebook. While she tutored him I sent her a few pix of my DS & this went on for several months. I think I sent a Happy Thanksgiving card, then this week when I was going to send her a Happy Hannukah card I see she's no longer on my "friend" list. I'm a little offended as she asked to be my friend ?

It's just I don't get people. I'm sure there is a reasonable explanation. But why can't people think that in situation A) a little boy's feeling might be hurt or in situation B) I wouldn't notice you removed me as a friend ?

 

[ajk912]

For the party I would just ask nonchalantly.."Hey, we missed you at the party this weekend! What happened?"

For your son's tutor..maybe since you have a working relationship she took you off if she was going to post some pics/tell stories of her (ahem) escapades. I wouldn't take it personally!

 

[NMAmy]

Ok, I tend to be oversensitive so recently within days 2 different social situations have happened to me ? What would guys do ?

1) My DS has been playing with 2 little neighbor girls for the last 3 months, every Sat & Sun they ride his Escalade & ride bikes. I stand outside & their mom also watches from her driveway. We've chatted a few times. I know she comes over on the weekends only as her fiancee lives there. Well my DS gave them his b-day party invite & was assured by the mom & the little girls the day before how excited they were to be coming. I got a bounce house, cotton candy etc. Well party day we see their car but the girls never come. No explanation. Do I ignore it & when the weekend comes just let the kids play like nothing. But my son wants to ask them why they didn't come to his party. His feelings are hurt.

Perhaps one or both of the little girls were ill? I'd give them the benefit of the doubt. I'd tell my son that he could ask them why they couldn't come or I'd ask the mother. I'd also tell him not to take it personally--it may have been out of their control.

2) My DS tutor became my "friend" on Facebook. While she tutored him I sent her a few pix of my DS & this went on for several months. I think I sent a Happy Thanksgiving card, then this week when I was going to send her a Happy Hannukah card I see she's no longer on my "friend" list. I'm a little offended as she asked to be my friend ?

I'm not sure on this one. I don't use Facebook so I don't know how easy it is to remove someone as a friend accidentally. I'd send her an email and ask her what's going on.

Now my main question. Isn't an Escalade a Cadillac? It's been awhile since I've had little ones so perhaps this is something I'm not familiar with. You don't say how old your son is but it doesn't sound as if he's driving to me.

 

[pandora174]

Perhaps one or both of the little girls were ill? I'd give them the benefit of the doubt. I'd tell my son that he could ask them why they couldn't come or I'd ask the mother. I'd also tell him not to take it personally--it may have been out of their control.



I'm not sure on this one. I don't use Facebook so I don't know how easy it is to remove someone as a friend accidentally. I'd send her an email and ask her what's going on.

Now my main question. Isn't an Escalade a Cadillac? It's been awhile since I've had little ones so perhaps this is something I'm not familiar with. You don't say how old your son is but it doesn't sound as if he's driving to me.

His toy Escalade truck ! He's 6. I think you guys are right. Thanks !

 

[NMAmy]

His toy Escalade truck ! He's 6. I think you guys are right. Thanks !

Well, THAT makes more sense!