WTH Plus size clothes for kids!?! vent

[disneylizzy]

And no, I will not be tolerant when it comes to the life of a child. Enough is enough and these children deserve better. If you're feeding your child healthy foods - fine. If your child is genetically predisposed to being overweight - fine. But when you feed your child junk food, soda pop and they don't participate in any physical activity - that is YOUR fault and no one elses and it's downright abusive.

It must be hard to be responsible for everyone else's life and how they choose to raise their children. It would be so much easier if "those people" would watch less TV (but I bet PBS is okay), not buy Cheese Doodles and never eat at McDonald's.

I was very smug with my first two "perfect" children, too. Try not to be so judgemental, dear, life has funny way of biting you in the butt just when you think you have it all figured out.

 

[skiwee1]

Talk about being judgemental! So, Miss judemental here (me) cares enough about kids to try to make a statement for parents to wise up and care for their children. Doesn't anyone realize that in other parts of the world children are starving and here we are in the US with many families overeating. Use that extra money you spend on unhealthy food and help out others that are less fortunate.

You are judgmental. You have no idea what others do with their money. I can bet that even after buying our share of junk food I still help out the less fortunate more then most. We contribute a lot of money to feed the hungry. Most of which stays in this country to feed our own. We also give to a few favorite charities, toys for tots, and adopt families for the holidays. And yet we still find a few bucks to buy those darn happy meals once a week! So dear miss judgemental, do tell how much you spend to help out others. I think it rude to come here and treat others like they don't know how the hell to raise their children. You seem to think you know it all. Unfotunately by your posts you show just the opposite.

 

[lindalinda]

I dont think we are gonna change any "hearts or minds" here. It seems pretty much ingrained on the old cerebellum. Can we start judging someone else now? How about parents of stupid children.. ...thats gotta be someones fault....oh and yeah ....crying babies.....oh..wait what about those kids who scream those shrill shrieking screams.....oh wait..i almost forgot about the lock-key kids....oooh ooh ooh parents who smoke.....everyone hates them now......

 

[Marseeya]

Well, that's just as condescending as making fun of fat people.

Um, well, that was sorta kinda the point.

 

[iggbees]

i just want to say, i'm not really fat by any means (i'm a size 10 and i am 5'8), but when i go to places like old navy to find pants (jeans included), the size 10 that i normally wear are about a size 6 in the waist and a 12-14 in the thighs. i think that a lot of designers don't realize what most normal people look like. i'd believe that if it's that way for adults, it's probably the same way for children. people come in all shapes and sizes and just because some child is heavier (which could be genetics, people always automatically assume that if a person is fat it's because they eat too much, which is flat out wrong and as a scientist it makes me so angry when people say that!), doesn't mean that they shouldn't be able to buy clothing that fits them well.

 

[Wish Upon A Star]

I think that the OP and everyone else who is like the OP should stop being so judgemental. You shouldn't worry about what other people look like, you should worry about how other people act, and apparently you are worrying too much about appearance . . .Is this the message you are giving your two DD's? Do they go to school and pick out all the fat kids? That is unhealthy. Just like going to school and not hanging around with the kids who are a different color or race. If your DD brought home a friend from school and they were fat would you stare and make them feel uncomfortable? Ask them about their eating habits? Plop down a plate of good ole wholesome fruits and veggies and ask "when is the last time you saw something like this?"

People like you concern me . . .I was an overweight kid . . .and I had a neighbor just like YOU. This lovely neighbor used to call me "chubbette" and all through my early adolescence that is what she refered to me as. She had two very thin anorexic like daughters whom I was friends with. I didn't eat junk food at all . . .my parents never bought it . . .well there was that occasional treat of a brand of cereal I would want, some plain cookies but there was never any candy or ice cream at all . . .except around the holidays. My parents were old school and never bought that stuff . . .it was pretty depressing seeing everyone else at lunch having a cupcake or cookies and I had a piece of stupid fruit. When I got into high school I decided I was going to start taking daily bike rides . . .I was excersing more than I ate apparently and I became dangerously thin . . .I was anorexic at 15 years old but ya know what? Every time I looked at myself I still looked fat, still heard my neighbor saying "chubbette" . . .even though I had become nothing but skin and bones . . .I weighed 92 pounds at that point and I had to be hospitalized and treated. I haven't eaten right since my recovery . . .I still find myself skipping meals and not eating right . . .but that is my problem, not yours . . .and I don't want someone judging me before they know me.

I also have two children . . .DD was somewhat overweight until 8th grade, now she is a tiny little thing . . .DS was always in husky sizes, even as an infant he'd always wear bigger clothing . . .and I'm happy to say I wasn't stuffing his little 6 month old face with candy and cookies . . .its just the way he's built . . .Both my children are perfect to me . . .they are happy, healthy and have both me and DH to love them just the way they are.

Next time you look at someone, try not to judge them by the way they look and if you can't help but gasp in disgust about FAT people then I suggest you stop going out and start shopping from the comfort of home.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

I dont think we are gonna change any "hearts or minds" here. It seems pretty much ingrained on the old cerebellum. Can we start judging someone else now? How about parents of stupid children.. ...thats gotta be someones fault....oh and yeah ....crying babies.....oh..wait what about those kids who scream those shrill shrieking screams.....oh wait..i almost forgot about the lock-key kids....oooh ooh ooh parents who smoke.....everyone hates them now......

don't forget the teenagers who just hang out at the movies. they're probably buying pot or worse buttered popcorn

 

[Mskanga]

Oh please , someone call CSP on me , I allow my 8 year old who is 65 lbs and very active , eat junk food and have soda pop ( in moderation ) , and then I have my 12 year old who is also very active , 140 lbs but all muscle who barely touches any junk food ( except ice cream and chocolate ), but she does need children's plus size clothes sometimes....why? Because they make more clothes for really skinny kids than anything else.

 

[nwdisgal]

I do agree that parents need to be more responsible in what children eat.Please do not assume that every "large" child eats that way though.Unfortunately this is what I am facing.I am glad that I am able to find a variety of clothes for my DD6.She eats a healthier diet than any child I know.She cannot wear regular clothes though.Her tummy is round and doesn't fit in alot of regular clothes.I also am glad that their are alot of slim sizes too.My DS8 wears slim with tabs that I have to tighten.

Very well stated. My DS is the same way as your DD. He carries his weight in his stomach and has no rear side to speak of. I have to buy Husky to fit him in the waist, then the rest swims. He's very active for his age group according to the doctor, and he eats healthy.

Oh, and I have one more thing to add to the OP. We have a terrible obesity problem in Hawaii. The reason being - due to our high food costs, many people have to rely on less healthy foods - spam, rice and macaroni salad to eat and fill themselves up. We are 90% dependent on foreign imports of food. Hawaii is doing everything possible to reverse this trend - implementing nutrional programs in schools, providing incentives and education for people to eat local farm vegetables and fruits. There are support systems for diversified farming so our farmers can stay viable. Our problem is not parents wasting money overfeeding their kids. Our food costs are too high for that. They are scrapping by with what they can to feed their kids.

You don't have to send money overseas. There are economically disadvantaged, malnourished kids right here in the United States.

 

[bgirldeb]

​

It's hiding. He's ashamed that he ate too much butter on his popcorn and is now fat, he doesn't want to be seen until he's normal again. Mostly because he's naked and can't find clothes to wear.

LMAO!

 

[tar heel]

Good grief! The OP is acting like this something brand new. My childhood best friend wore "chubby girls" sizes from Sears in about 1960. If those sizes had not existed, she would have had to wear adult clothes that had been remade. Wouldn't that have been sad? Instead she got to wear clothes that looked almost like mine.

Kids are a lot of different sizes. Some skinny kids eat badly, and some fat kids eat well. I I have boys and "husky" sizes have been available as long as I can remember. It happens that none of mine has needed "husky," but the one who has alway eaten the least healthily of the three used to wear "slim." Go figure.

 

[Disneyrsh]

A generation ago in Japan a fat kid was unheard of. Now they've got obese teenagers all over the place. Why? Because a generation ago they didn't have mc donalds and KFC.

Kids don't just mysteriously 'get fat'; they get fat because they eat crap. Garbage In, Garbage Out (sorry, geek term).

I'm sorry, but the moms with overweight kids that claim they're feeding them right are just wrong. How can I say that? Well, if you fed your kid 'right' and made sure he/she got enough exercise he/she wouldn't be fat.

 

[kasar]

I'm sorry, but the moms with overweight kids that claim they're feeding them right are just wrong. How can I say that? Well, if you fed your kid 'right' and made sure he/she got enough exercise he/she wouldn't be fat.

Not necessarily true.

 

[vivilasvegas]

Um, well, that was sorta kinda the point.

I realized that, thanks. I'm saying that making fun of either is just stupid.

 

[Sandcass]

I'm sorry, but the moms with overweight kids that claim they're feeding them right are just wrong. How can I say that? Well, if you fed your kid 'right' and made sure he/she got enough exercise he/she wouldn't be fat.

GIVE ME A BREAK ! My daughter is NOT fat just because she wears plus size jeans. She has a slightly rounded tummy that doesn't fit right in average size pants. She DOES eat right and she IS physically active. You have no right to make this assumption. At her last checkup she was in the 85% for height and 95% for weight. The doctor saw no problem in her weight, so what is your problem? I am always aware of what & how much my family eats. She has gym at school every day, karate 2x a week, as well as just being a very active "tomboy".

 

[jodifla]

Wow, what a hateful thread, OP.

You need to walk in someone's shoes before you "assume" that parents feed the kids junk, therefore they are fat.

Welcome to the world of genetics, which can be hard to cheat.

I fought my weight as a youngster, and struggled to find clothes that would fit right. I would have welcomed the opportunity to be stylish instead of being forced to wear more dowdy clothes. I thinned out in middle school, but the elementary years were hard. And my mother watched my diet like a hawk.

My DS, only 4, has a mixed diet. He refuses all fruits unless they are pureed or in juice form. He'll eat very few vegetables...and they are offered to him daily. He loves proteins and carbs and dairy. And he's thin as a rail, just like his dad was at his age. It's genetics.

 

[kidzmom3]

op- I agree with others that this is one of the most hateful thread topics I have seen in a while. I hope you find some understanding and compassion for people who do not fit into your mold.

 

[janette]

A generation ago in Japan a fat kid was unheard of. Now they've got obese teenagers all over the place. Why? Because a generation ago they didn't have mc donalds and KFC.

Kids don't just mysteriously 'get fat'; they get fat because they eat crap. Garbage In, Garbage Out (sorry, geek term).

I'm sorry, but the moms with overweight kids that claim they're feeding them right are just wrong. How can I say that? Well, if you fed your kid 'right' and made sure he/she got enough exercise he/she wouldn't be fat.

So this explains why my girls who eat the same diet are at opposite ends of the charts. The older one has always been at about the 10% weight percentiles and the younger at about 90%. They are just different, not a big deal given the exact same diet 2 different people will have different results. My younger DD will never be as thin as her sister and I hope she never trys to be as that would be very unhealthy for her. She just isn't built that way. My older DD is basically the size picked for models in this country, but she certainly isn't the norm and very few people are that size naturally but it is what the media shows us is correct. It's not and kids need to be healthy and happy and you certainly can't tell if they are based on what department they are shopping for clothes in.

 

[Christine]

GIVE ME A BREAK ! My daughter is NOT fat just because she wears plus size jeans. She has a slightly rounded tummy that doesn't fit right in average size pants. She DOES eat right and she IS physically active. You have no right to make this assumption. At her last checkup she was in the 85% for height and 95% for weight. The doctor saw no problem in her weight, so what is your problem? I am always aware of what & how much my family eats. She has gym at school every day, karate 2x a week, as well as just being a very active "tomboy".

My pediatrician once told me that "ideally" height and weight percentages should be equal, and even better if the weight percentage was a bit lower than the height percentage. When he sees a child where the weight percentile exceeds the height percentile and they are getting close to puberty, he does weight management couseling. Unfortunately, many pediatricians do not want to broach the weight subject with parents because, as you can see by this thread, people get very upset and often times cannot do anything about it. I'm not picking on you specifically or would even begin to say anything about your DD, just trying to point out that there is a LOT of conflicting information.

As far as this thread--I just can't see how it got so weird. Yes, the OP said "don't flame me" and that's probably because she knows that you cannot speak about weight on this board AT ALL. I swear she was just commenting on how much plus-size clothes have expanded for children. And it IS sad. And it is not ALL due to thyroid problems--please. I have had no thyroid for 10 years--I know about thyroid problems. Yes, there should be clothing for all sizes, but to see it take up a dedicated section in kidswear is scary.

 

[FSUGrad97]

Let's get this straight right now. The skinny girl on the left in the photo is our Akulina, she is from the Chernobyl area. She comes to us every June suffering from malnoutrition and I do my darndest to get 10-15 pounds on her in just six short weeks. And even though I send as much $$ as I possibly can back home with her the only food they're able to buy there is so full of radiation that it's unhealthy anyway and there's usually nothing on the store shelves anyway. So yes, I do worry about what the kids eat and I make sure that it's as healthy as can be. My own DD is what I would consider average build, she just happens to be tall so it's hard to get clothes that fit.

Talk about being judgemental! So, Miss judemental here (me) cares enough about kids to try to make a statement for parents to wise up and care for their children. Doesn't anyone realize that in other parts of the world children are starving and here we are in the US with many families overeating. Use that extra money you spend on unhealthy food and help out others that are less fortunate.

Now it makes sense...it's okay for YOU to be judgemental, but you didn't like it when others were making assumptions based on the picture in your signature.

Also, before you fall off that high horse you're on, you might want to remember that a lot of the high processed food you are complaining about is much cheaper than fresh foods so those people who make you so angry may be less fortunate themselves and maybe they can't afford better choices.